Advice

a family member was an ex heroin addict when he came into our family he has now chosen to tell us that he is back on it and his doctor says he will still have to use heroin while on methadone their is a child on the way and that dont sound right to me.It is causing alot of family trouble as he says he cant get a job cos of his record and now because he is on methadone.He was clean for a number of years before this any advice.
sorry but he s lieing it sounds like he s trying to get help but having problems he needs more help
Sometimes but not very often they will tell a person to stay on for maybe a week or so till they get there dose right but not longer than that so if he says longer than that he is defnaty lying hope this helps normally this cause of action the using on top till the dose is right happens to woman are pregnant but hey i am no doctor but i have heard of it take care and good luck hope you get the answers you are looking for
thanks for responding,how can i best support him as well i dont understand addiction and was abit peed off that he was clean for so long and went back i feel he let himself down,but i know he feels that too.Not quite sure as to make a fuss of him and boost him up or to be firm and say this aint right.I hope dont offend anybody i havent experianced addiction myself so abit of guidence of how it feels for him would be nice and any advice of what his recovery will be like and how long it may take.
Well g.each to their own,but i wouldnt fuss him,be firm but fair,because addicts are the best manipulaters&will look for any weak spot,i did,but im sure this has dawned on you concerning yer initial post.At the end of the day only he will stay clean,he has done it before,so no amount of care/worry on your part will make him,its his addiction&only he can beat it.Hope that didnt sound too cold but thats more or less the reality....take care ...Davey
Cheers davey,I have found that he is quite self pitying and while I know its hard I feel this is a choice he made not a physical reaction.ie i would have been welcoming if he was still on it from the start but to get clean and choose it again to me is a mental choice.And yeah there is alot of manipulation and emotional blackmail such as i tried to kill myself.Nobody wants to live that so its hard to know what to say and do,i dont want to be seen as judgemental,or un sympathetic I want to do right.Thankyou