hi im here not as an addict myself but as someone very close to one. a girl i dated for almost a 7 months is a heroin addict. she was recovering when we met then ended the relationship out of nowhere then seemed to want to work things out but relapsed 2 days later had an overdose that nearly killed her. she wanted to see me while she was in the hospital and i spent 2 days with her while she recovered. since then she is now going from state to state she started in florida and is now in texas i would hear from her every so often then nothing for a period of time. but she always seems to make it a point to get in touch with me if she needs someone to talk to or when she is on the move again. does this mean she still cares about me and maybe pushes me away to keep me away from her problem? im just confused. i know this isnt a message board for relationship advice but everything but its just been kind of a messy situation.
also how should i deal with this. and how should i be when speaking to her. i want to help her and i dont want to just bail on her if she needs someone.
Hi Joe, sounds like she's looking for the 'geographic cure' and while it works for a few, it doesn't seem to be doing much for her...wherever you go, there you are.
You can't really help her, but you can continue to be supportive. There is nothing you can say that will change the outcome of her addiction - she'll get well or not...when the pain of using exceeds the high she gets from it she may seek recovery...or she may have a very deep bottom. Either way, what you do or say, or don't do or don't say will not change anything.
She's lucky yo have you in her corner and sometimes just knowing someone out in the world still cares about you can be just the small comfort needed to make one want something better.
Peace ~ MomNMore
You can't really help her, but you can continue to be supportive. There is nothing you can say that will change the outcome of her addiction - she'll get well or not...when the pain of using exceeds the high she gets from it she may seek recovery...or she may have a very deep bottom. Either way, what you do or say, or don't do or don't say will not change anything.
She's lucky yo have you in her corner and sometimes just knowing someone out in the world still cares about you can be just the small comfort needed to make one want something better.
Peace ~ MomNMore
joe,
Post this again on the partners, girlfriends/ boyfriends / parents board there are others in the same situation there.
Post this again on the partners, girlfriends/ boyfriends / parents board there are others in the same situation there.
Joe,
The folks on these boards are wonderful caring individuals,take their advise.
Thanks Jazwan, that was the exact advice I would have reccommended!!
The folks on these boards are wonderful caring individuals,take their advise.
Thanks Jazwan, that was the exact advice I would have reccommended!!
