Of all places to have something hit you over the head with an AHA moment, mine was an episode of Andrew Dice Clays new reality show (who doesn't have a reality show anyway?)
His uncle or someone told him to not look for happiness, but rather to find happy moments. That statement has been blazed in my head for a week or so now.
I don't think for me personally happiness is in my near future, but happy moments are all around me. Its up to me to focus on them, to absorb them and be in that happy moment.
Its made a difference in my life. Thanks for letting me share it with you. Who would have thought the Dice man would affect me?
xx
Amy...
Thanks for sharing...I find when I pray to be open to hear what I need to hear, it comes, sometimes the message is carried in strange ways but for me, the message is there when I need to hear it...I'm going through some things in my life right now and I keep praying and asking for the right direction...driving to work, there is a new billboard on the freeway with this message in big orange letters "Don't let Fear be the Answer" wow...
I agree with the happy moments and for me, when I focus on living in today, not tomorrow and I enjoy those happy moments and some days, those happy moments consist of making my day and somedays I only get some of those moments but I try to remain grateful that I get any at all....
So good to see you this morning...You are always in my heart & in my prayers...
Love ya,
Stacey
Thanks for sharing...I find when I pray to be open to hear what I need to hear, it comes, sometimes the message is carried in strange ways but for me, the message is there when I need to hear it...I'm going through some things in my life right now and I keep praying and asking for the right direction...driving to work, there is a new billboard on the freeway with this message in big orange letters "Don't let Fear be the Answer" wow...
I agree with the happy moments and for me, when I focus on living in today, not tomorrow and I enjoy those happy moments and some days, those happy moments consist of making my day and somedays I only get some of those moments but I try to remain grateful that I get any at all....
So good to see you this morning...You are always in my heart & in my prayers...
Love ya,
Stacey
Thanks Redd. Beautiful from the dice man whoda thought. LOL I appreciate your sharing this today nice to see you posting.
Love,
Jane
Love,
Jane
Redd,its hard to believe that wise cracking,fowl mouthed men actually want love and happiness too,lol...ive always liked Andrew Dice Clay.
Thanks for the quote,it makes sense,those are the types of things you can understand,and incorporate into our lives!~KIM
PS~i didnt knw he had a reality show,is it on now? He used to have a sitcom many years ago,he played a family man,it was a funny show,i liked it,but it didnt last long,cant remember the name of it...anyone remember?
I think i'll try and look it up.
I found it....Bless this House...it really was a good show.
Thanks for the quote,it makes sense,those are the types of things you can understand,and incorporate into our lives!~KIM
PS~i didnt knw he had a reality show,is it on now? He used to have a sitcom many years ago,he played a family man,it was a funny show,i liked it,but it didnt last long,cant remember the name of it...anyone remember?
I think i'll try and look it up.
I found it....Bless this House...it really was a good show.
Redd,
It's good to see you!
For me, happiness comes in bits and pieces. I'm happy when the checkbook balances at the end of the month; I'm happy when the cat throws up on the tile floor rather than my bed. If I'm in a bad mood and look back on the past, I invariably pick out the bad moments. When I'm centered and look back, I can find the good moments even when things were pretty rough. Aidan told me he doesn't think you know when you're happy anyway, that happiness is a quality of memory. I'm glad I dumped the pills -- they really messed up my memory.
Take care of yourself and please stop by more often. You're so missed around here.
Love,
Gina
It's good to see you!
For me, happiness comes in bits and pieces. I'm happy when the checkbook balances at the end of the month; I'm happy when the cat throws up on the tile floor rather than my bed. If I'm in a bad mood and look back on the past, I invariably pick out the bad moments. When I'm centered and look back, I can find the good moments even when things were pretty rough. Aidan told me he doesn't think you know when you're happy anyway, that happiness is a quality of memory. I'm glad I dumped the pills -- they really messed up my memory.
Take care of yourself and please stop by more often. You're so missed around here.
Love,
Gina
I think a lot of people believe that happiness is a destination.Everything is not in place or exactly the way it's supposed to be,so they don't think they are there.
I don't have the perfect job yet,I haven't found the right mate,I still have debt,I haven't been sober and clean long enough,I haven't lost the last 10 lbs....on and on.You get so wrapped up in the process of perfection that you miss the really joyful moments.
I like this piece on Joy by John McAfee
"Joy is spontaneous.It is the result of meeting each moment in life afresh,with no expectations,preconceptions,or judgement;no desire to cling to,repeat,or capture the moment.Joy happens when we allow life to unfold in its natural course."
In the beginning of my sobriety,I made a gratitude list almost every day.I remember sitting and fuming that I couldn't even write 2 things on my list.Each week I noticed my list becoming longer.It started with such simple things like"I'm grateful to get out of bed without looking underneath for pills I dropped".
Today...I can make out a pretty long list if I need to.
Thanks for sharing your Aha moment....I always thought ADC was a hoot.
I don't have the perfect job yet,I haven't found the right mate,I still have debt,I haven't been sober and clean long enough,I haven't lost the last 10 lbs....on and on.You get so wrapped up in the process of perfection that you miss the really joyful moments.
I like this piece on Joy by John McAfee
"Joy is spontaneous.It is the result of meeting each moment in life afresh,with no expectations,preconceptions,or judgement;no desire to cling to,repeat,or capture the moment.Joy happens when we allow life to unfold in its natural course."
In the beginning of my sobriety,I made a gratitude list almost every day.I remember sitting and fuming that I couldn't even write 2 things on my list.Each week I noticed my list becoming longer.It started with such simple things like"I'm grateful to get out of bed without looking underneath for pills I dropped".
Today...I can make out a pretty long list if I need to.
Thanks for sharing your Aha moment....I always thought ADC was a hoot.
Hey Amy!
Somehow, today, you were so strong in my thoughts, and I knew I would see a post from you here soon! So glad it was today.
Just to know that you are finding a way through eases my load. I will bask in the glow of your happy moment, and have one for myself.
Thank you for sharing...
(oh, and I believe that the most profound, divine words uttered, usually come from those who have no idea what they are giving you!) Whatever works, works, right?
Love and peace to you!
Sarah
Somehow, today, you were so strong in my thoughts, and I knew I would see a post from you here soon! So glad it was today.
Just to know that you are finding a way through eases my load. I will bask in the glow of your happy moment, and have one for myself.
Thank you for sharing...
(oh, and I believe that the most profound, divine words uttered, usually come from those who have no idea what they are giving you!) Whatever works, works, right?
Love and peace to you!
Sarah
Hey:
I had an AHA moment earlier tonight. I was talking to a friend of mine about this terrible co-dependent realationship I have with this guy. He's not good for me, I know this. He'll drag me down. He lies constantly about everything. Why do I even still speak to him? I told my friend that I felt sorry for him and how I always try to help the underdog. Look in the mirror, says my friend. And I was like, Oh my God! It made me stop and think and gave me a different perspective. She also told me that happiness was a choice you can make. You can't control what happens, but you have control over how you react to what happens. I knew this, but I never put it in those words. It just gave me a different perspective of things and I had - as Dr. Phil would say - a moment of clarity.
I had an AHA moment earlier tonight. I was talking to a friend of mine about this terrible co-dependent realationship I have with this guy. He's not good for me, I know this. He'll drag me down. He lies constantly about everything. Why do I even still speak to him? I told my friend that I felt sorry for him and how I always try to help the underdog. Look in the mirror, says my friend. And I was like, Oh my God! It made me stop and think and gave me a different perspective. She also told me that happiness was a choice you can make. You can't control what happens, but you have control over how you react to what happens. I knew this, but I never put it in those words. It just gave me a different perspective of things and I had - as Dr. Phil would say - a moment of clarity.
Hey Amy...I thought about that comment alot the day that you called. I think that for someone who can be such an idiot, he had something really profound and worth listening too. Good thing to take to heart....good to see you here! Love, Lisa
