My husband is an addict, who doesn't know he is an addict.
In the last 5 months he lost over 30k dollars in gambling, got into a car accident because he was high on pain pills and doesn't know his limit in drinking. He recently admitted he had a problem with gambling but is in denial about the drugs and booze. He no longer lives with us ,(my 2.5 year old daughter and I) but is constantly trying to get back into the house. He has his good days but then crashes and burns and doesn't know why what he did was wrong. I can not get him into rehab because the insurance doesn't think he has that big of a problem. He was lucky enough that no one realized at his accident that he was high as a kite and that he past out behind the wheel of the car- they just though he hit his head. I don't know what to do - I tell him to leave me be, but I have also become one of his addictions. I am scared of what is going to happen next.
Hi Ali, I'm the mother of an addict. I'm sorry your going through this. Its like a triple whammy him being addicted to all three things. I wish I could help you. What if you got his family involved? Would that help any? This is a lot to fight on your own and especially with a 2 yr old around too. He first needs to realize he has a problem before he can move to the next step. He will need detox to get off the pain pills and the alcohol. I'm not familar with what you do for gambling. But if you think he now sees you as an addiction, I wonder if this puts you in danger? I would find out as this is something you have to be really careful about. Read up on the Internet. You can type anything in now and get results. I'm here for you if you need me as is the rest of us on here. Take care and be careful!! Mary.
Many friends and family of alcoholic/addicts find peace, understanding and acceptance of the situation in the programs of Al-Anon and Nar-Anon.
I strongly suggest looking up your local meeting(s) and attending.
http://www.al-anon.org/ Click on "find a meeting"
http://www.nar-anon.org/ Click on "find a meeting"
AA & NA will save the alcoholic/addict if they commit to it.
Al-Anon & Nar-Anon will save the family and friends.
All the best.
Bob R
I strongly suggest looking up your local meeting(s) and attending.
http://www.al-anon.org/ Click on "find a meeting"
http://www.nar-anon.org/ Click on "find a meeting"
AA & NA will save the alcoholic/addict if they commit to it.
Al-Anon & Nar-Anon will save the family and friends.
All the best.
Bob R
