I'm going thru the worst year of my life. My husband and I are at eachother's throats and he is not supportive of my recovery, he calls me a fiend. And I know that I abuse drugs and alcohol from time to time but I'm not an addict in my opinion. I'm 24 and I've been married 3 years where my husband abused me mentally and physically and he thinks everything is about him. My solution to this was to drink do blow at work (Im an exotic dancer). I need help I don't want to ruin my life. I want to be me again.....http://addictionrecoveryguide.com/message_board/index.ph?s
Krista, please don't stay where you are being abused. Only you know if you're using drugs and alcohol to escape the pain you're in. My bet would be if you got out of that enviornment you may not need to numb yourself. For you to come here and reach out for some sort of help means you are a strong girl. Don't let anyone keep you down or hold you to their opinion of you. You know who you are deep inside. Go be that girl. It's very hard to leave a marriage, Krista, because we all don't want to fail or we all want to believe it will eventually become what we thought it would be. There is a good life out there for you..and if he's just putting you down all the time..that's not love. He should be pumping you up, telling you you're beautiful, and proud to be your husband. If you don't have that, you don't have a marriage. I know somewhere inside of you is a woman who knows her worth...he needs to know your worth; so let him know what you expect, how you expect to be treated and settle for no less. Krista, I'm 46. At 24 I thought the world would end if I lost my guy...it didn't. life got better and better once I started EXPECTING better for myself. Go get what you deserve, Krista. luv corrinne
Welcome Krista,
Corrinne has given you some great suggestions...I am a recovering alcoholic and coke fiend...I got sober and clean on 11/22/2003....at the age of 44 years old. Only you know if you have a problem or not...I knew at age 23 I was an addict and alcoholic and it took me 21 years of trying to finally surrender...it took what it took, but whew, what a helluva ride ~ I stayed in a miserable marriage for almost 20 years, mainly because of fear....today we are divorced but we are both now clean and sober, so the relationship is finally one of friendship...you may want to check out this Cocaine Anonymous website for more info:
http://www.ca.org/
I want to add also there is hope and there is solution...best of luck to you.
Corrinne has given you some great suggestions...I am a recovering alcoholic and coke fiend...I got sober and clean on 11/22/2003....at the age of 44 years old. Only you know if you have a problem or not...I knew at age 23 I was an addict and alcoholic and it took me 21 years of trying to finally surrender...it took what it took, but whew, what a helluva ride ~ I stayed in a miserable marriage for almost 20 years, mainly because of fear....today we are divorced but we are both now clean and sober, so the relationship is finally one of friendship...you may want to check out this Cocaine Anonymous website for more info:
http://www.ca.org/
I want to add also there is hope and there is solution...best of luck to you.
