Hey, Kez...glad you're here, and sorry for whatever part my posts played in having your very important and heartfelt thread locked. Hope you won't hold it against me...
The Family board can be most helpful also. Welcome and chin up with the BF situation...you'll know what's right and when.
Peace~MomNMore
please dont apologise mom n more, im feel awful that the first time i have come on here as caused controversay. I hope i havent upset any one
Kez you did nothing wrong, make sure you understand that.
The thread was locked because it was...and here this place, well not always is that done because it needs to be. At times we are not allow to speak, be who we are in the moment which in this mix of addictive circles is the worst message sent...
The silencing and secret keeping, that taking the lesson away one might need to get within thier own words...well it is counterproductive, maybe even a sickness in its own right...
The thread was locked because it was...and here this place, well not always is that done because it needs to be. At times we are not allow to speak, be who we are in the moment which in this mix of addictive circles is the worst message sent...
The silencing and secret keeping, that taking the lesson away one might need to get within thier own words...well it is counterproductive, maybe even a sickness in its own right...
No, no, no Kez...Tina's right. You did nothing wrong and everything right...glad you are here and sharing =)
Hi kez,
Look at it this way - for whatever reason you are the person who brought to this place an issue that allowed some of us to say what we think about that issue and hear others' views. It allowed us to engage in an exchange of thoughts, attitudes, beliefs and behaviour, and it continues to offer us an opportunity to explore our own motives, habits, unquestionned assumptions and the way in which we read things into situations and respond to other's perceptions and views. Much of which is hidden to ourselves much of the time, because that's how human beings are.
And no-one died.
Quite a contribution for a first post. :)
You also gave what in my opinion was a great example to honour another's trust, protect a child AND gently, lovingly confront someone you love with the impact of their addiction.
Way to go.
So thanks, and please keep posting.
Martin
Look at it this way - for whatever reason you are the person who brought to this place an issue that allowed some of us to say what we think about that issue and hear others' views. It allowed us to engage in an exchange of thoughts, attitudes, beliefs and behaviour, and it continues to offer us an opportunity to explore our own motives, habits, unquestionned assumptions and the way in which we read things into situations and respond to other's perceptions and views. Much of which is hidden to ourselves much of the time, because that's how human beings are.
And no-one died.
Quite a contribution for a first post. :)
You also gave what in my opinion was a great example to honour another's trust, protect a child AND gently, lovingly confront someone you love with the impact of their addiction.
Way to go.
So thanks, and please keep posting.
Martin
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Thank you, it really did help me hearing what everyone said and as you say "taking what i need". The boy came over this weekend, i havent been there. but im hoping all is well.
Its funny though, i was silenced through most of my childhood, "best to keep quiet and not upset anyone or god forbid have confrontation" ... weird how it seems to continue
Its funny though, i was silenced through most of my childhood, "best to keep quiet and not upset anyone or god forbid have confrontation" ... weird how it seems to continue
Kez, you say what you want, how you want, when you want as often as you want unless the owners of the site tell you otherwise.
As in life, kez, exactly as in life.
This is what I am learning to claim as my birthright.
Martin
As in life, kez, exactly as in life.
This is what I am learning to claim as my birthright.
Martin
