ok--have i completely lost my mind, i have moved back in with my mom, and believe it or not it was a choice this time, not a necessity. we are always togehter,a nd she is an integral part of my sons life and helping me get him here and there, and watches him when i need her to. She and i had our own places, and we were spending so much $ on gas going back and forth, so we bought a house, WOW--the things recovery will get you!! so thats what ive been doing, and daggumit--i developed acute bronchitis and had to go to the hospital WHICH I HATE, because theres always that dreaded ? "what medications are you on" to which I reply "methadone" and theres always that look like--ok then we'll be watching you, and dont even think about acting like you are in pain--we know all about that! As is i were drug seeking i wouldve opened my mouth about the fact that im an addict!!!!! HA--been down that road, and if i wanted them to write a script all i have to do is tap into my innocent midwestern girl routine and them the tears well up--trust me id be walkin with at least 15vicodins by the time i left--okay enough of that, thats not me anymore, but it sure does bug me--the way they look at you--that smile fades fast.....ok that my rant and im not even gonna go into WHERE IS ALL MY PEEPS today--good ol davey and eckie--keepin me feeling loved :)
hows life for you two--as well as all you people who are reading this and dont intend on posting---let it all hang out---give it a go--a good rant never hurt no-one
LATERS>>>>>>>>>>>>>.
hi amity, apart from all that,hows the love-life? im affraid my posts might be a bit sporadic for a wee while,brought 2 viruses home from abroad,one on my laptop that if i cant get fixed will have to get new one and one on myself that had me seeing thjngs and left me weak as a kitten.got to sneak a shot of my boy,s pc for the moment.nothing wrong with staying with your old lady pal,exspecially if it makes financial sense plus live in babysitter,god i wish my ma was still here,i miss her so much.my world is still up in the air at the moment but im trying to get on and deal with things best i can,cant believe so many things that matter most in my life have gone wrong,dont think im gonna talk about them anymore as i sound like a broken record and boring,it pisses ,me off as well when the window shoppers dont come in for a gab as i dont go into many other sites,anyway my dear i must get off this now as its my boys bedtime and im in his room and as i dont live here anymore its time to go sadly,so until next-time,,its goodnight and god bless,,,always,,,eck
First off, don't you let anyone make you feel badly for being in recovery for gosh sake...that's their own ignorance talking - phuque them.
Secondly, nothing wrong with being with your mom if it's working for both of you. How has she been lately? I know she's had some trouble keeping it together sometimes and that has meant some stress for you. Maybe this will be good for her, too...having you around might help keep her more grounded, give her a sense of security and stability.
You'll let us know how it's going, won't you tootsie?
And funny what you said about a rant...last week I was thinking of starting a rant thread like the one that went on for a few weeks last fall...just for any old thing that bugs us...anything at all. Maybe I will, next time I feel the need.
Peace, girl~MomNMore
Secondly, nothing wrong with being with your mom if it's working for both of you. How has she been lately? I know she's had some trouble keeping it together sometimes and that has meant some stress for you. Maybe this will be good for her, too...having you around might help keep her more grounded, give her a sense of security and stability.
You'll let us know how it's going, won't you tootsie?
And funny what you said about a rant...last week I was thinking of starting a rant thread like the one that went on for a few weeks last fall...just for any old thing that bugs us...anything at all. Maybe I will, next time I feel the need.
Peace, girl~MomNMore
Amity im with you there .......i also live with my Ma for the same reasons you have ......luckily we own the house we live in.....no mortgage thank God......but i dunno what i would do without her she minds Sian while im at work,picks her up from skool and tends to all her needs.So theres no shame in a grown up moving/living with their Ma.Best of luck to you and yer family............Davey
eckie--you asked about a love life-haha, you mean lack of one...still single, i had a guy i was seeing call me outta the blue the other day and he wanted to get together--yet he's married now with a newborn--and talkin to me about missing me and all that....man what a loser--im glad it fizzled out like it did, i think he may have been married at that time too....davey and you are the closest thing to male firends i have outside my family...but thats ok--i probably dont need that in my life right now, im so busy if i did start seeing someone i would have to neglect something else in mt life and then there would be problems, thanks for askin though i gotta say i see people holding hands and spending time together and i get jealous...:)
mom--you have an awesome memory!! my mom is doing well, she will always deal with the mood swings, theother night she was ranting hardcore and crying and carrying on (not at me) and usually i would to to fix it or tell her what reality is, but i just listened and held her hand--and she said thank you, and that she couldnt remember a time when someone just listened, then the rest of the night was great....i think since ive been through so much I have a tendency to want to give out all my info, and to FIX the person, i dont know it was just a real lightbulb moment for me, i have a hard time not talking sometimes...as you can see haha :)
Hi Davey :) thanks for making me feel better about the living with mom thing--sounds like we live somewhat parallel lives, i couldnt do this whole mom thing without my moms assistance....it takes a village!!!how is sian--is she enjoying her summer? my son just got a brand new bike, hes walking it around pushing it more than riding it, it looks like a dirtbike, he's so funney--kids....later
mom--you have an awesome memory!! my mom is doing well, she will always deal with the mood swings, theother night she was ranting hardcore and crying and carrying on (not at me) and usually i would to to fix it or tell her what reality is, but i just listened and held her hand--and she said thank you, and that she couldnt remember a time when someone just listened, then the rest of the night was great....i think since ive been through so much I have a tendency to want to give out all my info, and to FIX the person, i dont know it was just a real lightbulb moment for me, i have a hard time not talking sometimes...as you can see haha :)
Hi Davey :) thanks for making me feel better about the living with mom thing--sounds like we live somewhat parallel lives, i couldnt do this whole mom thing without my moms assistance....it takes a village!!!how is sian--is she enjoying her summer? my son just got a brand new bike, hes walking it around pushing it more than riding it, it looks like a dirtbike, he's so funney--kids....later
I do have a good memory, but mostly I just try to do for the people I care about (like you) what you did for your mom - listen. It's a gift we can give that costs nothing - listening is silent flattery...it means that you respect the other person's feelings and care about them, even if you don't agree with what they are saying. It's hardest for me to do with my older daughter because I have always wanted to fix things for her...that's what my personal recovery is about...trying to remember why we were born with two ears but only one mouth =)
Thanks Amity now me and Eckie are gonna be fighting over you LOL.....just friends though eh!!Yes it does sound like we live similar lives.....with the kids,ours Mas and our addictions......two peas in a pod.Thats whats so good bout us on this forum we watch each others back and share the good with the bad and are not judged.Take care Ms.A.T.B..........Davey
That Amity's troubles are just beginning!
Stealing all the men..........now they're going to fight over you........girlllll, don't make me come to Kansas.............LOL............hey you that's cool you're in with mom............it should be easier on your son too maybe..........like ya said back and forth and all.............heck, now you're like ME.......just you wait!
I'm kidding...........Mom's got it right...........and yes she does listen to all of us and remembers cause that's the kind of good person she is..........she's a keeper that Mom&More.
Hoping you're feeling better, Amity...........hell wit them people look at ya crooked...........both you and I and all of us know them same people got their own skeletons............and then some...........we're proud of you.
Now save me one of the fellas or else.................yo, good call on ditching the married man with the infant...............nothing right about that for anybody involved..............especially our girl, Amity!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Stealing all the men..........now they're going to fight over you........girlllll, don't make me come to Kansas.............LOL............hey you that's cool you're in with mom............it should be easier on your son too maybe..........like ya said back and forth and all.............heck, now you're like ME.......just you wait!
I'm kidding...........Mom's got it right...........and yes she does listen to all of us and remembers cause that's the kind of good person she is..........she's a keeper that Mom&More.
Hoping you're feeling better, Amity...........hell wit them people look at ya crooked...........both you and I and all of us know them same people got their own skeletons............and then some...........we're proud of you.
Now save me one of the fellas or else.................yo, good call on ditching the married man with the infant...............nothing right about that for anybody involved..............especially our girl, Amity!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ahhhh you guys--you all make me feel special --i need that! if only i could have men fighting over me for real! :) no--now who would want that (me) haha, bryn--we can share the boys--im sure they ouldnt mind a bit, all we gotta do is get them to cross thousands of miles of water an land! haha! we can all move into one big house with our mothers in tow, and of course our motherly figure here--mom'n more:) then we'd see if we all really get along so well haha :) im not an easy person to share a bathroom with LOL oh man im crackin up here--ive been moving after work all week, not getting no sleep, plus i forgot to take my meth this morning so im a little goofy, we'll see if im still laughin come 5 oclock, talk at you all later--amity
oh goodness amity!here,s u and bryn talkin bout sharing the men,davey and i thinkin bout sharing a bed and u thinkin bout sharing a s***e!think a step at a time me dear and we,ll work the toilet situation later,lol,,,and mom,oh mom,a woman with two mouths?man oh man!all the women i know do bloody alrighty with one.imagine the two mouths shouting a different set of insults at the same time for f***s sake!!!!nah!gi me a woman with one mouth and a sore throat any day.god,imagine con and her missus,4 gobs arguing at the same time,imagine being a fly on the wall,f*** that,think i would buzz off and be a fly on someone else,s wall,yup!deffo.f***,you,s would even talk when u were eating,snore twice as loud but on the other hand would be able to spit and polish at the same time..lol..there,s a guy i know who drives for my bro went to china for 6weeks last summer when schools went on holiday,he was going to meet a girl who he met on internet and didnt even know if she would turn up to meet him,said if she didnt he would go see his cousin(f***in liar)anyway,she did turn up and the result was him gettin married in chinese traditional robes.he had to come home without her till he could get some kind of visa for her,he just kept sending over money for this,that and the next thing so u will imagine my surprise when she did appear over some months later as i thought she was just fleecing him.they r now living happily?on the outskirts of my village,him not able to speak a word of chinese and her not able to speak a word of english(f***in bliss).btw,she is a looker while he,s not sharpest tool in the box.must be doing something right good luck to them says me,wonder how much she cost all-in. well guys i better go and take diesel a walk b4 they all come back and ive got to skiddado.catch u soon my girls wi 1mouth...eck
You and me Eck share a bed LOL but im on the outside right......just incase i need a quick exit.Good story bout yer mate and the Chinky bird.....love conquers all things even langauge.Enjoy yer walk with the dog its good for the noggin walking the mutt .....dont ya think.Hope alls good in all other aspects of yer life .......when are ya away next?and where ya lucky sod?All good over here hope its the same for you me ol mucker.............Davey
Hay Amity, moving in with your mom isn't such a bad thing... you 2 obviously have a real good relationship for that to happen. If the 2 of you get on and it saves the both of you money sounds good to me. Like you say, she is an important part of your sons life... having his gran around will be ace for him, and handy for you. Grannies like to b sit , don't they... it is that natural motherly instinct. So when you go out you know you're mom will help also. Take it easy, Kev
