I've actually been at peace the past 2 weeks, although my stepson's attorney talked my father-in-law (last Friday) into getting him out. The attorney did not feel that my s.s. would not last in jail, so he posted the bond (after my husband had revoked it). I told my father in law "I just hope now he does not O.D." he has been without for 7 days. This a.m. his mother (history of pill addiction) found him non responsive, his father rushed over, called 911, heart rate 37. Long story short...........he is okay tonight, he did admit to doing crack and taking the Methadone his mother gave him.
We found out today that he has another felony warrant (we are not sure what for) will be out this week. My husband put my s.s. in a hotel room for the next 3 days w/ food tickets for the restaurant next door. "Tough love" was enacted today, heis going to let the police know where he is staying so they will be able to take him back into custody. He is hurting so bad over this, but I will tell whoever reads this,that my husband has gained his strength from what Bob B. has written to everyone on this site.
I did talk to my stepson tonight, which I have not done in weeks. He is still very lethargic and talked non sense, but I tried to explain to him that he HAS to focus everything that he does on himself....not dad, grandfather, mother, girlfriend, etc....everyone else will follow. First and foremost is to focus on himself. What hurts now is that I broke down and connected after weeks, heard his voice and know that he is strong. He started to go down, the doctors stated that this would happen, so I told him to stay in his room, say his Prayers and we would check on him in the morning. Knowing we set him up makes me sick, but he is, and hopefully we can be strong and he will heal!
I just read your post. Sounds like you all are having a really rough time. I know it is hard to do the tough love. I did it with my boyfriend and at first, I felt guilty for doing it, but I know it was the best thing to do because now he went to rehab on his own and has been sober now for over 30 days - got his chip at AA. How are you doing? How is everything going? Please let us know - we all care here and hope you the best!
Hi,
This sounds like bad situation. I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this. I believe in tough love too and had to do it with my son for him to take responsibility for his life.
Can you give an update as to how things are going with you, your husband and your step son. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Judy
This sounds like bad situation. I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this. I believe in tough love too and had to do it with my son for him to take responsibility for his life.
Can you give an update as to how things are going with you, your husband and your step son. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Judy
Thanks for writing! My husband and I both are okay (mentally exhausted).
The drama however goes on...My stepsons mother went to get him from the hotel yesterday to come visit back at her house. So now he is closer to his drug supply (neighboring city). I have not been able to make heads or tails out of her motives unless he is her connection to pills?
We do know that he was up all night because he showed back up at his mothers house on his bike (that is what he is down to now) at 5:30 a.m., said he spent the night with a friend and came back over because he was thirsty. Hmmm.....Extremely hyper, thirsty and no sleep. I'm sure he found his fix.
The sad thing is he doesn't remember anything. We know that it doesn't stop here, he will continue.
The lieutenant of the police department spoke with the D.A., but it will not be until possible next week until the warrant is issued. In the mean time I believe my husband will close out the hotel room. Why waste the money?
I'll keep everyone posted and thank you again. I'm not sure where I would be without this website (great insurance just doesn't cover counseling). Cherise
The drama however goes on...My stepsons mother went to get him from the hotel yesterday to come visit back at her house. So now he is closer to his drug supply (neighboring city). I have not been able to make heads or tails out of her motives unless he is her connection to pills?
We do know that he was up all night because he showed back up at his mothers house on his bike (that is what he is down to now) at 5:30 a.m., said he spent the night with a friend and came back over because he was thirsty. Hmmm.....Extremely hyper, thirsty and no sleep. I'm sure he found his fix.
The sad thing is he doesn't remember anything. We know that it doesn't stop here, he will continue.
The lieutenant of the police department spoke with the D.A., but it will not be until possible next week until the warrant is issued. In the mean time I believe my husband will close out the hotel room. Why waste the money?
I'll keep everyone posted and thank you again. I'm not sure where I would be without this website (great insurance just doesn't cover counseling). Cherise
