Okay...here's the dope (me)...but let me also add if it wasn't for Cynical One and Jenniferlee trying to shake my 'reality' tree...from time to time....i'd never see a way out of the forest and when i do...i always manage to miss the right mental path that would lead to the nearest town called 'Rude Awakening"
You know the ex bf gave me the old heave ho back in September...but promised to remain friends and blah blah blah (not after getting a final 'piece')..i might add..
had tracked down his estranged daughter and passed along her e mail address to him which he said he would contact her from a computer at the nearest library...well the daughter e mailed me back and wanted to know who this certain woman was e mailing her for her 'dad'...the woman in question being the drug trafficker that he was living with when het busted for his latest drug trafficking felony (he told me had nothing to do with her anymore but he always hung out with her 18 yr and 22 yr old son still..smoking pot..the ex bf is 54 mind you.
the woman herself is on probation for yet another drug related charge and the ex bf apparently hasn't got an early release from his 5 years of probation as he expected this past November (maybe he is waiting for a court date?)
okay...around the holidays...he calls twice on a Saturday a week before i flew out to NYC....sounding chipper but i could hear his voice crack a bit too.
he then called twice on New Year's Eve...late evening and about a quarter to midnight....sounding chipper and yet sad and wondering where i was at. He also called the following Thursday (apparently after his PO visit)...saying he didn't know what to think my not picking up the phone on any of the occasions he called and hung up saying he would try me later which he didn't.
feeling guilty i sent him a simple belated holiday greeting in the mail but he has never responded nor has he called me since then...and i know football season is over..
when the ex bf calls a number of times within a two week period then i know he 'wants' something and it made me mad that i hadn't heard from him since September and now he hasn't responded to my card which i sent about a month ago.
i thought it might have been about his daughter as i had to tell her about his dope dealing woman friend as he lied to me and to the daughter about being on the straight and narrow....the daughter never wrote to him as promised.
now i am all depressed...what did he want...why hasn't he called me since...should i call him...how come he gets to call the shots and is he still on probation and is he with a chick or is he selling for that dope dealing woman or using? She is dying (don't know from what) but she has been busted so many times for dope related crimes and the last one with some Spanish dude...(she used to get her dope for sale from a Spanish 'mafia' type faction here)...her deceased husband was a drug trafficker.
i just i wish i knew what the ex bf was up to and why he called those times sounding kinda sad and is he involved in some bad dealings or using himself ?
i know i am such a bore...if only i knew
why did he have to call when i was just getting
strong again...and now he won't
luv MARY
Mary..hello..sorry to jump in ..but didnt ya say this guy was yer ex/why are ya even bothering to wonder bout his whys&ways?Just a thought...take care .Davey
fuggetta- boud- im
Its always dis or dat wit dis guy- trow im outta your life . Dis way ya can move on.
seriously> you spend to much energy worrying about the whole situation.
(but you know this)
respect,
jack
Its always dis or dat wit dis guy- trow im outta your life . Dis way ya can move on.
seriously> you spend to much energy worrying about the whole situation.
(but you know this)
respect,
jack
Haaaaaa........Jack's post is written in such Gottiesque lingo.....funny stuff.
There ya have it Mary........Davey and Jack are men......they know the operation tactics of all things men......despite them being two really cool guys who'd never pull such stunts like the ex of you.
May I go out on a limb to 'splain?.........yeah he is her ex, BUT they were together for a long time......in a perfect world she'd certainly have blown him off, and actually she is in the process of learning that, BUT......sometimes that's not all that easy, AND when another chick is involved it can make it that much more difficult.
O.K. Mary, see how he was bewildered and wondering........like where you were....he was calling more.........dooooood just could not believe ya skeedadled somewhere......he's used to ya being a wuss who sits around just living for the moment he decides to call........soooooooooooooooooooooo......
It's a game.........he is in charge of the game.........you WERE in charge when ya went to NYC and were MIA..........now he gets to hold the Ace.....he now will in his own timely fashion have you doing what he wants ya to do......wait on him.
Live through him.........hang on to him........you've been predictable all these years......when you weren't is when he was chasing ya down.......now that ya sent the greeting holiday card........he's content knowing nothing has changed...so he's still in charge.....that's what I think anyway.......just me.
Meanwhile there's some poor girl.......a daughter.......in upheaval........my opinion is he should leave the chick the h*ll alone..........my bio did, and for that I am eternally gratefull......if I ever met him on the street.......he'd have to tell me that though cause I never seened him......if I met him I'd shake his hand and
say THANK YOU......thank you for leaving me alone and allowing me to have the best daddy ever walked this earth........thanks for not taking me from my family and my daddy.........it takes courage, and a giving spirit I think to leave your offspring alone......when they are afforded a much better parent.
Again, that's just me..........as for your ex I have nary a clue.......that dude confuses me and I don't know him.......I doubt he's mad about you explaining that lady to his daughter.......or is mad you weren't home.......I think he just takes one minute at a time really..........it's not personal......he likes to pull your chain.......set the Mary Machone in motion.......that's him.
I love ya Mary........even when ya read your books........hahahahahaha!!!!!!!!
"ROAD LESS TRAVELLED" by Scott Peck.........GET IT.......READ IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think it will change your life........seriously.......(((((hugs)))))) from Bryn!
There ya have it Mary........Davey and Jack are men......they know the operation tactics of all things men......despite them being two really cool guys who'd never pull such stunts like the ex of you.
May I go out on a limb to 'splain?.........yeah he is her ex, BUT they were together for a long time......in a perfect world she'd certainly have blown him off, and actually she is in the process of learning that, BUT......sometimes that's not all that easy, AND when another chick is involved it can make it that much more difficult.
O.K. Mary, see how he was bewildered and wondering........like where you were....he was calling more.........dooooood just could not believe ya skeedadled somewhere......he's used to ya being a wuss who sits around just living for the moment he decides to call........soooooooooooooooooooooo......
It's a game.........he is in charge of the game.........you WERE in charge when ya went to NYC and were MIA..........now he gets to hold the Ace.....he now will in his own timely fashion have you doing what he wants ya to do......wait on him.
Live through him.........hang on to him........you've been predictable all these years......when you weren't is when he was chasing ya down.......now that ya sent the greeting holiday card........he's content knowing nothing has changed...so he's still in charge.....that's what I think anyway.......just me.
Meanwhile there's some poor girl.......a daughter.......in upheaval........my opinion is he should leave the chick the h*ll alone..........my bio did, and for that I am eternally gratefull......if I ever met him on the street.......he'd have to tell me that though cause I never seened him......if I met him I'd shake his hand and
say THANK YOU......thank you for leaving me alone and allowing me to have the best daddy ever walked this earth........thanks for not taking me from my family and my daddy.........it takes courage, and a giving spirit I think to leave your offspring alone......when they are afforded a much better parent.
Again, that's just me..........as for your ex I have nary a clue.......that dude confuses me and I don't know him.......I doubt he's mad about you explaining that lady to his daughter.......or is mad you weren't home.......I think he just takes one minute at a time really..........it's not personal......he likes to pull your chain.......set the Mary Machone in motion.......that's him.
I love ya Mary........even when ya read your books........hahahahahaha!!!!!!!!
"ROAD LESS TRAVELLED" by Scott Peck.........GET IT.......READ IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think it will change your life........seriously.......(((((hugs)))))) from Bryn!
Jackofhartz=Jackofstreetsmartz.....You got the lingo Ha Ha!
Mary, you sound like me. my husband and I have been seperated for a year now. He'll call and I won't answer but after a while, I start worrying. Maybe he's in trouble, ya know? You can't help worrying about someone you care about. I'll probably end up taking Ted back. But even if I didn't, it would be hard to cut all contact off from him. I don't know what your situation was with this guy before you broke up. But it's o.k. to worry and even to help him out if (and that's a big if) you don't put yourself in harms way by doing so. Don't put yourself in a situation you can't get out of. And don't worry yourself to distraction. This guy, I'm sure can take care of himself. Take care.
Mary, you sound like me. my husband and I have been seperated for a year now. He'll call and I won't answer but after a while, I start worrying. Maybe he's in trouble, ya know? You can't help worrying about someone you care about. I'll probably end up taking Ted back. But even if I didn't, it would be hard to cut all contact off from him. I don't know what your situation was with this guy before you broke up. But it's o.k. to worry and even to help him out if (and that's a big if) you don't put yourself in harms way by doing so. Don't put yourself in a situation you can't get out of. And don't worry yourself to distraction. This guy, I'm sure can take care of himself. Take care.
Yep...i know it is a power play...what for...i don't know as he deemed me insignificant enough to nose me out of his life..
He doesn't know that his daughter knows about him and as she knows how physically abusive he was at times to me..she not only hasn't contacted him but swore that she would never let on that i told her that to him.
what i want to know is (if you will be so kind to venture an opinion)...is if he is hanging out with the son and daughter of a drug dealer/user...and now i know he has had contact with this woman even tho' she is on probation for a drug bust...but her past criminal record shows that she has been busted many times before.
would it be safe to ascertain that the ex bf and this woman might be engaged in some kind of activity involving heroin at present even tho' they are both supposedly on probation and shouldn't even have contact with each other in the first place.
it doesn't seem that probation or fear of the law would stop these seasoned drug users and drug dealers from continuing such covert activities as usual...
i will tell you the truth...i so want to pick up the phone and
call him...if i knew he would really call again i wouldn't but
i hate to have too much time pass again (it has been over a
month already)....i was with him for 6 yrs.
stupid MARY
P.S. Bryn..i was trying to be cryptic and enigmatic with the citing of recent books read....i was trying to say that i feel like putting a bullet in my heart as did Mr. Singer because he was so lonely and lost his best friend..(me too)
He doesn't know that his daughter knows about him and as she knows how physically abusive he was at times to me..she not only hasn't contacted him but swore that she would never let on that i told her that to him.
what i want to know is (if you will be so kind to venture an opinion)...is if he is hanging out with the son and daughter of a drug dealer/user...and now i know he has had contact with this woman even tho' she is on probation for a drug bust...but her past criminal record shows that she has been busted many times before.
would it be safe to ascertain that the ex bf and this woman might be engaged in some kind of activity involving heroin at present even tho' they are both supposedly on probation and shouldn't even have contact with each other in the first place.
it doesn't seem that probation or fear of the law would stop these seasoned drug users and drug dealers from continuing such covert activities as usual...
i will tell you the truth...i so want to pick up the phone and
call him...if i knew he would really call again i wouldn't but
i hate to have too much time pass again (it has been over a
month already)....i was with him for 6 yrs.
stupid MARY
P.S. Bryn..i was trying to be cryptic and enigmatic with the citing of recent books read....i was trying to say that i feel like putting a bullet in my heart as did Mr. Singer because he was so lonely and lost his best friend..(me too)
