I'm very, very sorry what happened to you. I'm sorry your mom actually said such a thing to you.
That has to be tough your mom is still with that man.
So your boyfriend is his son? Wow. Did you get counseling at all?
Just asking and I am so sorry.
Bryn,
I never did get counciling...it never really bothered me too much till later in life. More so when I met my partner and confided in him. I never did tell anyone else but him but my Mam told a few people. I was too ashamed. I think her to say what she did she truly wanted to believe thats why it happened and we all know people do funny things for love. It hurts me now to know that she chose him over me and she still does to this day but I have my own life and she has hers. Dont get me wrong I still love my Mam to bits and she has done many many good things for me in my life but that one thing makes questions run through my head. I dont admit to my partner that it bothers me because he hates his Dad so much and would love nothing more than to kill him. It would take a click of the fingers and he would be there. I have got this far so why dig up the dirt now and make life complicated. I have my daughter now and I have chose to move on although I am due counciling very soon and I will talk about it there and get it off my chest.
As for my partner being my step dads son...well he neglected his son when he was 4 years old and has only 3 years ago got back in contact and it was kind of my doing. He did try to make a go with him but now he knows what he does they can never be father and son. Not only that but because of the man his father is. A dishonest, pathetic, lonely man who tells lies to boost his own confidence and make "so called friends".
I honestly feel like I have already moved on from this but there is still a few questions that I need answered which run around my head. I honestly thought I was to blame until my step father kept coming onto me and making passes and then I found out later that he had also done this with my cousin and a few of my mothers friends. My Mam even caught him kissing her long term friend and is still with him to this day. If she wants to spend the rest of her life with a man like that then let it be but I cant make the same mistake...thats why I feel it is so important to not let my partner walk all over me and make the same mistakes as his father.
Hope this makes sense??
Thanks for your reply. Love BunnyRocker x
I never did get counciling...it never really bothered me too much till later in life. More so when I met my partner and confided in him. I never did tell anyone else but him but my Mam told a few people. I was too ashamed. I think her to say what she did she truly wanted to believe thats why it happened and we all know people do funny things for love. It hurts me now to know that she chose him over me and she still does to this day but I have my own life and she has hers. Dont get me wrong I still love my Mam to bits and she has done many many good things for me in my life but that one thing makes questions run through my head. I dont admit to my partner that it bothers me because he hates his Dad so much and would love nothing more than to kill him. It would take a click of the fingers and he would be there. I have got this far so why dig up the dirt now and make life complicated. I have my daughter now and I have chose to move on although I am due counciling very soon and I will talk about it there and get it off my chest.
As for my partner being my step dads son...well he neglected his son when he was 4 years old and has only 3 years ago got back in contact and it was kind of my doing. He did try to make a go with him but now he knows what he does they can never be father and son. Not only that but because of the man his father is. A dishonest, pathetic, lonely man who tells lies to boost his own confidence and make "so called friends".
I honestly feel like I have already moved on from this but there is still a few questions that I need answered which run around my head. I honestly thought I was to blame until my step father kept coming onto me and making passes and then I found out later that he had also done this with my cousin and a few of my mothers friends. My Mam even caught him kissing her long term friend and is still with him to this day. If she wants to spend the rest of her life with a man like that then let it be but I cant make the same mistake...thats why I feel it is so important to not let my partner walk all over me and make the same mistakes as his father.
Hope this makes sense??
Thanks for your reply. Love BunnyRocker x
