Hi everyone,
I am new to this board. I have been drinking everynight for the last 5 years. I can even remember when it started. I had just lost a baby due to an ectopic pregnancy and was on bed rest for over a month. I also want to say that I have had gastric bypass surgery. Oprah did a show a couple of weeks ago on addiction transfer with gastric bypass people. This is where you go from one addiction (food) to another usually alcohol. Well here I am.....I have known for awhile that it is a problem..I did quit drinking for a couple of weeks but only because we did not have any money.
So my big question is this....Can I quit drinking and become healthy again without going into a program or detox center? The only person that knows of this major addiciton is my husband. I am very close to my mom and although she doesn't know the whole story-I think she might suspect something is going on.
Is there an AA online or can I get the support that I need right here. Please help me on this...I am embarrassed to no end and don't want my exteneded family to know.
I am so thankful that I have found this forum and am very excited and scared to be here.
Hi. Welcome. You can get support here but face to face support is much better. If you drink like I did chances are more than just your husband knows you have a problem. I thought I kept it hid pretty well but I was only fooling myself. I'm not sure why you don't want to go to AA but it's the only thing that worked for me. There is no shame in being an alcoholic if you are willing to do something about it. Alcoholism is a disease, honey. Our bodies don't break down alcohol like "normal" people and once we take a drink we have to have more. Our bodies crave it. It's called the phenomenon of craving in AA. Once we get sober we have to work on our thinking or we will still have the desire to drink. That's why I could never stay sober for very long. I never worked on learning to live without some kind of buzz going so I would drink or drug after a while. I had no success at sobriety until I was willing to do some work.
Please keep coming back. We will do what we can for you but please give some thought to getting real help.
lovin you
Please keep coming back. We will do what we can for you but please give some thought to getting real help.
lovin you
I come from a family of alcoholics. My grandfather, my 2 uncles, my 2 aunts..all on my moms side of the family. The only one who didn't become a true blue alcoholic is my mom. However, her and my dad do enjoy there wine, beer and what not-but in huge moderation. I guess I am really scared about dissappointing my parents...I am 32 years old with a family of my own...but i still fear that disappointment.
I know how you feel about disappointing your parents...but getting help is not disappointing them...it shows them how courageous you are to admit you have a problem and are willing to get help for it...And I know the hardest thing to do is to walk into an AA meeting but for many of us it is the only way we got sober and stay sober...And really nobody needs to know until you are ready to tell them...Face to face support, especially in the beginning, is so important...so important...it gives you people who understand you and accept you, who have been down that road before an opportunity to get to know you and help you...
This board is very helpful...and we are a supportive bunch but in the end f2f, local support can be crucial...and make a difference in your sobriety and new journey...Keep posting and reading and know we are here for you {{{HUGS}}} Love Gina
This board is very helpful...and we are a supportive bunch but in the end f2f, local support can be crucial...and make a difference in your sobriety and new journey...Keep posting and reading and know we are here for you {{{HUGS}}} Love Gina
Hi there, and a big welcome! You will find some wonderful people here to support you on your journey, we've all been there. The first thing is that you have recognized you have a problem, huge step there!! denial works, but like you it only did for so long. I'm 34 and it' s only been this past year that I realized what alcohol was doing to me, and my life, I denied my problem since I was a teenager. I wish you all the best hun, it's a hard battle, but definetely worth the fight!!
Lovedove :)
Lovedove :)
Hey Mykidzmum hows things?
Go talk to your Mum about her family and see what she thinks about the alkys and are any of them in recovery as they could help you.
It is called Alcoholics Anonymous and you don't have to tell your mum you go and you can use a reason for not drinking although i know my mum prayed for me to stop for years and now she worries that i'll start again because that is what she does good worry, worry worry.
At the end of the day you need to be there for your family and the best way to be there is sober
Light and love Zac
Go talk to your Mum about her family and see what she thinks about the alkys and are any of them in recovery as they could help you.
It is called Alcoholics Anonymous and you don't have to tell your mum you go and you can use a reason for not drinking although i know my mum prayed for me to stop for years and now she worries that i'll start again because that is what she does good worry, worry worry.
At the end of the day you need to be there for your family and the best way to be there is sober
Light and love Zac
