I'm hoping someone can help me,I'm at the end of a long time relationship with a man I love deeply but after years of lies,abuse,and addition I feel eather we get help or I try to find happeness I once felt when we first met..It started in 2000 when we meet he got me to use with him and will admit I liked the high while we where up but after days of being awake he would become very angry and treat me as if he hated me,this killed me every time..now its 2004 and after many breakups on his part I have no idea what I can do to save him and our relationship that was once a very special gift..After a year apart this past march he came back saying he changed for the better but instead he has gotton worse..He still does not work lives at home pays no bills and has no money at 43...Not only am I afraid of his drug addition but wonder if he is also addited to sex since he seems to want more and I'm affraid its with other woman..I love him with everything I'v got in me and would die for him but if he choices to be with other woman and the dope should I move on and hope one day he realizes he needs to be with...can someone help me please
JC, I have read both your posts and am very sorry for your situation. Have some faith in yourself and dont take his drug use personal. I think you are right , in that you know the answer, but, due to your insecurity are afraid to move on.I am gonna go out on a hunch here and guess that a lot of what you feel towards him is sexual. It's an easy trap to fall into .....sex is fantastic when it lasts all night long , just remember this......it is not the real deal. it is the drugs driving him (and you?) IF you read through this site you will see what the real deal with meth is , and what really matters in a relationship, from both users and non users. biggest point being "what's more important to YOU, and him"? what are YOU going to allow to happen in YOUR life? you can not control others !! only what you allow into your life!! Being from Cali myself originally, I would say you have to make up your mind, Do you want to be addicted also? Meth is plentifull everywhere there!! I had to leave the state to get myself clean. Please, have faith in yourself, dont take his actions personal, Meth takes a wicked hold on people that only they, that make the decision to quit themselves can break!! good luck and please feel free to ask or write whatever you feel here, we have many great, caring people in here
