Constitutionally Incapable

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Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty.
Rigorous Honesty. The foundation on which sobriety is built, and it takes a truck-load of it to admit that I won't/can't/shouldn't/never wanted to drink like normal people.

I stayed in AA when I found out that there was Hope in those rooms--and they didn't serve alcohol so I was safe. Many people had convictions galore and they faded; many swore to do 90-in-90 and went missing after two weeks; still others would get their sheets signed, devoutly professing their lives to meetings (never to be seen again). Still others were scared enough to hang around until the heat died down at home or work. I stayed. I stayed like the dying only could because I believed I had no other options--and there WERE people staying sober and showing up every day--even when they had 30+ years of sober time.

If you're sick and tired of making plans, scheming the next rehab facility, wrestling with 'ideas' on what the next dry-spell is going to be like, maybe consider sneaking into an AA facility and listen like a dead man walking. Don't do it for anyone else other than yourself, and be prepared to put everything else second to God as you (will grow to) understand Him.

Or die.
I am so very grateful that when I hit bottom, I broke. I was done doing it my way. All my way did was convince me just how smart I was and how it would be different the next time and I'd finally be able to control and enjoy my drinking like all those normal people did. And I kept getting drunk and the incomprehensible demoralization started to occur daily and I hit that point where I just didn't want to live anymore but I didn't want to die. It's a really f*cked up place to be and only another alcoholic would be able to understand that place.

Once I got sober, and worked the Steps and finally gained some clarity, I could look back and see just how many years I lived in my insanity, the delusional thinking that alcoholics believe as truth.

My problem wasn't alcohol, never was. Alcohol was actually the solution for a brief time to my problem which is my thinking and my inability to live life on life's terms, the incessant demand that I run and medicate from any pain that comes my way and for me, it was the emotional pain that I drank over for a very, very long time.

The Steps work if you work them with a sponsor and then incorporate them into a way of living.

Today, I am a grateful alcoholic.