Hello Everyone, as a lot of you know my youngest daughter was brought home in handcuffs a couple of months ago; she was caught drinking on the beach, however she ran from the Police (eluded them for two hours), finally was apprehended and provided the Police with a false name, gave them false names and numbers for me and my ex-husband and was caught after curfew (10:00 pm). She has been grounded ever since. She went to Court today, she has to attend a class and will be fined $60.00...oh but yesterday I received a letter from her high school's Principals, she made honor roll from the fall until her current progress report ~ which is right now (she's always done really well in school).... She is a bright 15 year old; I was more anxious to go before the Judge than she was...in fact I got questioned more than she did...but I understand that...she was suppose to be in my care...I thought the penalty was kinda of minimal, but it was her first offense. I hope she has learned her lesson ~ however she is on her own journey, her own path...I began to look at it as blessing...it opened both our eyes. Take it easy everyone!
Wow VW Girl,
What a wake up call. I hope she will learn also. Maybe it will really help her. I would be scared to death as well.
Sounds like you are doing well.
Keep hanging in there!
pm
What a wake up call. I hope she will learn also. Maybe it will really help her. I would be scared to death as well.
Sounds like you are doing well.
Keep hanging in there!
pm
Thanks PM, I had other wake up calls with her this past year....she is really making a hard life for herself...but like I mentioned I've planted the seed, AA will always be there for her if she needs it...and I am there for her too. Problem is she has admitted that she loves to drink....so she's a lot like her Mom and her Dad. We both are sober now...at least I think he is. My oldest daughter was very easy to raise, she is in her first year of College...my 15 year old will either get it or she won't....she's basically a good kid, just doesn't have any sense of herself.
She will get it with time and we can pray she gets some things sooner can't we. She is lucky to have you because I think she is going to need you and your love for her is special.
You are doing what you can. Keep hanging in there.
You are doing what you can. Keep hanging in there.
Hey girl,
Isn't she lucky to have you as a good sober example. Sometimes that all we can be- she may not realize it now - but having a sober mom who is a woman of dignity and self-respect will stay with her and mke a difference in her life.
Her grades are good and at 15 that is major - you should be very proud. That always compounds the issues when kids are getting into trouble and their grades are slipping.
It is probably justified in her mind that it isn't that big of a deal though "Mom, my grades are good- no big deal!!!"
Maybe going in front of a judge is what she needed. It isn't what you needed , right??
Keep the faith girl.
Carolyn
Isn't she lucky to have you as a good sober example. Sometimes that all we can be- she may not realize it now - but having a sober mom who is a woman of dignity and self-respect will stay with her and mke a difference in her life.
Her grades are good and at 15 that is major - you should be very proud. That always compounds the issues when kids are getting into trouble and their grades are slipping.
It is probably justified in her mind that it isn't that big of a deal though "Mom, my grades are good- no big deal!!!"
Maybe going in front of a judge is what she needed. It isn't what you needed , right??
Keep the faith girl.
Carolyn
Avondale Girl, Well, we finished class today and I let her go to a friend's house. She has been on restriction for 9 weeks. After reading all the stuff she wrote in accordance with this class she certainly has self esteem issues, as a lot of teenager girls do. However, she is on the honor roll, is beautiful (people always comment on her looks), and is going to be surfing in the California state finals ~ she's on her High School Surf team. I wish I could get her to realize how wonderful she is...she's alot like me though ~ and may take her a while in the school of hard knocks before she will be convinced. But her getting arrested, us having to go to court and this class have all been blessings and real eye openers for me. God is in charge!
I am surprised that she is allowed on the HS team with an alcohol conviction. Does the school know?
My son that turned to drugs was also very handsome and smart. I think a lot of addicts are.
If she is going to insist on drinking, I would not let her get a driver's license. That is one mistake that we made with our son.
Good luck.
My son that turned to drugs was also very handsome and smart. I think a lot of addicts are.
If she is going to insist on drinking, I would not let her get a driver's license. That is one mistake that we made with our son.
Good luck.
Hi there, The Judge did not formally charged her...she rec'vd a notice to appear when she was brought home in the police car in handcuffs. It said misdeamor on it...so I wasn't aware of the school being notified. So, sorry to hear about your son. It's hard...though I'm a recovering alcoholic/addict and I understand where she is coming from a lot of the time. Like I mentioned in my previous messages, she does attend meetings with me, but doesn't identify as an alcoholic...the seed is planted...she is the only one that can determine if she is an alcoholic. She has been grounded since 1/29 and has already been told that she won't be getting her permit this year.
