I was I a relationship with a man who was addicted to pills and alcohol. While we were dating he disappeared for a few weeks from work and home and I realized something was wrong. Up until he disappeared I didn't know he was using. He went into treatment but told me he was going fishing. When he came back he was nice for a time and then started using rehab as an excise to ditch me.. One day he stopped speaking to me all together and is now in a relationship with another recovering addict.. I have not heard from this person in 1 year and I am having trouble coping.. I feel bad for still hurting for this person when they have moved on but I still feel very hurt and confused.. I am hoping I am not alone in this experience. I need some support.
You think you were in a relationship but you were involved with a man that was in a relationship with his abused substances not you. He never really got to know the real you and has decided to move on. It is oft times tricky to be in a relationship with one newly recovered or being newly recovered yourself.
You can't depend on another to keep you sober and especially with another addict that is trying to keep sober themselves. The 'rooms' will tell you not to get involved in a relationship for a least a year so one can work on their recovery and get to know what they were suppressing with their addiction.
You are mourning the loss of a man you never really new and now it is time for you to move on and find a real someone that will love the real you.
You can't depend on another to keep you sober and especially with another addict that is trying to keep sober themselves. The 'rooms' will tell you not to get involved in a relationship for a least a year so one can work on their recovery and get to know what they were suppressing with their addiction.
You are mourning the loss of a man you never really new and now it is time for you to move on and find a real someone that will love the real you.
