I have been with my boyfriend for close to a year now. He was a heroin addict for 14 years of his life and has been clean or about 2 1/2 years. This is his longest stint with sobriety and the first relationship he hasn't used in. I trust him and believe him when he says he does not use anymore, even though he stills thinks about it a lot. Yesterday, I found a used needle next to his car .I confronted him about it and he said it was old. He claims it was in the pocket of a shirt, he hasn't worn in years. I flat out do not believe him and asked him to take a test. He refused and said I should be able to trust him. I am having some issues with what to do. I have never been with an addict before and don't want to be naive about the situation. Any advice would be very helpful!
if your boyfriend is using he will more than likely lie about it- it is what we do- i am an alcoholic and drug user- if you have any doubts in your mind - get out of there, quickly- you do not want to get sucked into the life of an addict in active addiction- its a nightmare you dont want to step into- Allowing for that everybody deserves a chance to prove themselves but i would be worried about his reluctance to take a test- you will never change him - only he can decide whether he wants to stay clean- i sincerely hope he has - but if he is using do not make the mistake of thinking you will change him- if it comes to choice the active addict will always chose there drug of choice over anyone or anything else. i wish i could have been more optimistic about your situation but the truth is many of us struggle life long with our addictions - i wish you the best of luck in the future
Thank you for your advice . Your words were truly what I needed to hear.
Great advice Travelin' Man!
My thoughts exactly. And believe every word. Our need for dope will always win over any good thoughts we may have had.
It is too bad so many people who have addicts in their life want to believe in them even when the truth is staring them in the face.
I lied to myself, my kids, my family and any other person I ran into during my addiction thinking I was fooling them all. HA! It took me to get clean to stop the dumb behavior.
My thoughts exactly. And believe every word. Our need for dope will always win over any good thoughts we may have had.
It is too bad so many people who have addicts in their life want to believe in them even when the truth is staring them in the face.
I lied to myself, my kids, my family and any other person I ran into during my addiction thinking I was fooling them all. HA! It took me to get clean to stop the dumb behavior.
