Next monday I'm going to visit my psychatrist for our scheduled visit. I'm a bit worried, I mentioned this last week but last Monday when our session ended she hugged me and kissed me on the cheek. A long hug. Isn't that against the rules?
I'm just concerned about my next visit. And to top it off she recently got seperated from her husband. (I cant mention how I found out, but the information flew in my direction, I didnt look for it.)
I really like her methods. But I can not continue to talk to her if she becomes a friend. I need someone who knows me, but doesnt "know me", isnt that how it works?
Our third or 4th session, she says unlike her other patients I always make her laugh. I used to enjoy making her laugh, but when she did the above she crossed the line. I'm so devoted to Tina, so much that I wear a ring on my "ring finger" to let others know the deal, even though we are not married yet. (If you click on the link to my web page below, and see that smile, you'll get a small idea why.:)
I'm seriously considering ending this business relationship if she does it again, and going to do so next week. I'm willing to listen to any advice, thx. - Chris
Wow Chris,
You sound uncomfortable with the situation right now. How in the world will you be able to have a doctor/patient relationship with her? I dunno. Personally I am more comfortable with a woman counselor. My "shrink" tho is male. He just Rx's the anti/depressant I take though. I just thinking that it already seems a little hinky to you so unless you can speak to her about it? But hmmmm, that could be a little strange. How long have you been seeing her?
Jan
You sound uncomfortable with the situation right now. How in the world will you be able to have a doctor/patient relationship with her? I dunno. Personally I am more comfortable with a woman counselor. My "shrink" tho is male. He just Rx's the anti/depressant I take though. I just thinking that it already seems a little hinky to you so unless you can speak to her about it? But hmmmm, that could be a little strange. How long have you been seeing her?
Jan
I've been a patient of hers for a little under a year now, and it was all business until last week. - Chris
http://fampra.oxfordjournals.org/cg...t/full/18/5/511
hope this gives you guidance, Chris.
Your intuition is your biggest clue, however.
hope this gives you guidance, Chris.
Your intuition is your biggest clue, however.
Go with your gut Chris. You're a baby in recovery right now and have to do what's best for you. Don't worry about hurting her feelings, it's business, not personal. This is a no brainer, if she makes you uncomfortable, find another therapist. I know it's a hassle but better for you in the end. Maybe look for a man? Preferably not gay?
I've been giving it some thought and I am just going to come out and ask her, and ask her to seriously consider her carreer. Even though she charges me an arm and a leg she has been amazing for improving my social skills, and cant help now but consider her a friend.
Thinking about it, she may have been sad about something. Maybe seeing my recovery advances, combining with her divorce just made her do something unpredictable. In a way, I'd feel guilty just leaving. Maybe next week I'll ask her some questions. How she's feeling, and the "hug", while I show her my engagement ring. She knows how devoted I am to Tina too, so it may have been innocent. The hard part is waiting for our appt, because I really want to address this now.
If it works out, perhaps I'll bring Tina to my next appt with her. Since they are both in the therapy fiield maybe it will be good.
Again, any advice is welcome.
Later... - Chris
Thinking about it, she may have been sad about something. Maybe seeing my recovery advances, combining with her divorce just made her do something unpredictable. In a way, I'd feel guilty just leaving. Maybe next week I'll ask her some questions. How she's feeling, and the "hug", while I show her my engagement ring. She knows how devoted I am to Tina too, so it may have been innocent. The hard part is waiting for our appt, because I really want to address this now.
If it works out, perhaps I'll bring Tina to my next appt with her. Since they are both in the therapy fiield maybe it will be good.
Again, any advice is welcome.
Later... - Chris
