Thank you Lord for getting me to my 65th day. Times have been very trying, and I am sorry for taking my angry out on you-my life depends on walking with you, and working my program. I know in my heart that you would never give me more then I can handle, I just dont understand why things happen when they do-only you know that.
My all of you find peace on this day of Thanksgiving, and look at those around you and tell them that you love them.
God Bless all of you.
Way to GO 65 days.Have a nice Thanksgiving and be proud.Sounds like you have a right to be proud!!!!!.....Mollyjean
65 days that is great! You should be very proud of yourself. It's great huh-- to live without the worry...Congrats to you...Rae
way to go, big guy!
I hope that you have a nice Thanksgiving...
kerry
I hope that you have a nice Thanksgiving...
kerry
Yah o, I hope you find comfort with family and friends today. Hang in, M.
Congrats O'Neill. 65 days is huge! My prayers go out to you and your family.
Rachel
Rachel
Congrats on day 65. I am on day one (!) Lord help me.
Remember, you too are Blessed and Highly Favored. Hang in there.
Happy Thanksgiving
Remember, you too are Blessed and Highly Favored. Hang in there.
Happy Thanksgiving
to everything there is a season.
a time for every purpose under heaven.
a time to be born,
and a time to die.
a time to plant,
and a time to pluck what is planted.
a time to kill,
and a time to heal.
a time to break down,
and a time to build up.
a time to weep,
a time to mourn,
and a time to dance.
a time to cast away stones,
and a time to gather stones.
a time to embrace,
and a time to refrain from embracing.
a time to gain,
and a time to lose.
a time to keep,
and a time to throw away.
a time to tear,
and a time to sew.
a time to keep silence,
and a time to speak.
a time to love,
and a time to hate.
a time of war,
and a time of peace.
ecclesiastics 3:1-8
__________
i think God is trying to tell us there
is a time for everything.
i still don't understand why people die.
i do know that God has
everything under his control.
all we can do is trust.
just look what he promised us.
no more tears, no more pain,
no more sorrow, no more grief.
we will never understand His
thoughts for His thoughts
are so much higher than ours.
i believe that is where trust comes in.
hey o'neill - 65 days of sobriety - you are awesome.
God sure is crazy about you.
if anyone hasn't told you they love you today, i do.
namaste'
sammy
a time for every purpose under heaven.
a time to be born,
and a time to die.
a time to plant,
and a time to pluck what is planted.
a time to kill,
and a time to heal.
a time to break down,
and a time to build up.
a time to weep,
a time to mourn,
and a time to dance.
a time to cast away stones,
and a time to gather stones.
a time to embrace,
and a time to refrain from embracing.
a time to gain,
and a time to lose.
a time to keep,
and a time to throw away.
a time to tear,
and a time to sew.
a time to keep silence,
and a time to speak.
a time to love,
and a time to hate.
a time of war,
and a time of peace.
ecclesiastics 3:1-8
__________
i think God is trying to tell us there
is a time for everything.
i still don't understand why people die.
i do know that God has
everything under his control.
all we can do is trust.
just look what he promised us.
no more tears, no more pain,
no more sorrow, no more grief.
we will never understand His
thoughts for His thoughts
are so much higher than ours.
i believe that is where trust comes in.
hey o'neill - 65 days of sobriety - you are awesome.
God sure is crazy about you.
if anyone hasn't told you they love you today, i do.
namaste'
sammy
I am clean today, and it is not by my choice. I really believe that god has taken control of me and is walking with me during these troubling days. My family is in shock, as this is the 2nd loss of a loved one in 3 months. I am finding myself askign god alot of questions, and I am mad, and angry at him-and I am ashamed to say it but I hate him. How can there be a god that takes such young people from us ?
I dont know what to say, or write--I am clean, I am not using, but I want to so bad, so bad---just to not feel
I dont know what to say, or write--I am clean, I am not using, but I want to so bad, so bad---just to not feel
dear precious o'neill -
God does for us when we cannot do for ourselves. when i first came to recovery there was so much wreckage from my past that i didn't know what foot to put forward. but somehow, o'neill, i did it. i can only attribute that to God doing for me when i didn't know where to turn.
there is a force in the metaphysical world known as free will. God does not interfer with the free will of man. why would He? what God created is perfect and to interfer with that i believe would alter his perfection. the free will of man was made evident during the attacks this country suffered on 9/11. i believe the free will of man came into play when my nephew who was killed in an auto accident (the driver of the car was racing at a high speed) just as the free will interferred with the drug your niece ingested.
i had to stop and look around at the love that was being offered when my nephew died. the compassion and tears in the police officers eyes when they told us, the friends and family that surrounded us trying to provide some solace to our hurting spirits, the clergy who helped with their prayers and understanding, co-workers and neighbors who came to our aid...all of this love was evidence that God was with us. God sent these angels and it was represented in the love they offered. God also helped me, o'neill because i remained clean and sober to a profoundly sad situation of events that had impacted my heart. there was a time when i would have jumped at the opportunity such as this to use.
below, i have posted a little more about grief. it's difficult sometimes to explain the things we don't understand. in this posting you will find a link to compassionate friends. this organization helped my sister immensely when dealing with her grief over the loss of her son. perhaps, at a later time you may want to reach out to them too.
my thoughts and prayers remain with you and yours my friend. please write to me any time.
until later -
namaste'
sammy
_______
What is grief?
Grief is the normal response of sorrow, emotion, and confusion that comes from losing someone or something important to you. It is a natural part of life. Grief is a typical reaction to death, divorce, job loss, a move away from family and friends, or loss of good health due to illness.
How does grief feel?
Just after a death or loss, you may feel empty and numb, as if you are in shock. You may notice physical changes such as trembling, nausea, trouble breathing, muscle weakness, dry mouth, or trouble sleeping and eating.
You may become angry - at a situation, a particular person, or just angry in general. Almost everyone in grief also experiences guilt. Guilt is often expressed as "I could have, I should have, and I wish I would have" statements.
People in grief may have strange dreams or nightmares, be absent-minded, withdraw socially, or lack the desire to return to work. While these feelings and behaviors are normal during grief, they will pass.
How long does grief last?
Grief lasts as long as it takes you to accept and learn to live with your loss. For some people, grief lasts a few months. For others, grieving may take years.
The length of time spent grieving is different for each person. There are many reasons for the differences, including personality, health, coping style, culture, family background, and life experiences. The time spent grieving also depends on your relationship with the person lost and how prepared you were for the loss.
How will I know when I'm done grieving?
Every person who experiences a death or other loss must complete a four-step grieving process:
(1) Accept the loss;
(2) Work through and feel the physical and emotional pain of grief;
(3) Adjust to living in a world without the person or item lost; and
(4) Move on with life.
The grieving process is over only when a person completes the four steps.
How does grief differ from depression?
Depression is more than a feeling of grief after losing someone or something you love. Clinical depression is a whole body disorder. It can take over the way you think and feel. Symptoms of depression include:
A sad, anxious, or "empty" mood that won't go away;
Loss of interest in what you used to enjoy;
Low energy, fatigue, feeling "slowed down;"
Changes in sleep patterns;
Loss of appetite, weight loss, or weight gain;
Trouble concentrating, remembering, or making decisions;
Feeling hopeless or gloomy;
Feeling guilty, worthless, or helpless;
Thoughts of death or suicide or a suicide attempt; and
Recurring aches and pains that don't respond to treatment.
If you recently experienced a death or other loss, these feelings may be part of a normal grief reaction. But if these feelings persist with no lifting mood, ask for help.
Where can I find help?
The following list of organizations and web sites provides information and support for coping with grief:
The Compassionate Friends (national office)
P.O. Box 3696
Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696
630-990-0010; Toll Free 877-9690010
http://www.compassionatefriends.org
A national, self-help support organization for those grieving the loss of a child or sibling.
Fernside
Bethesda Professional Building
4360 Cooper Road, Suite 101
Cincinnati, OH 45242
513-745-0111 (M - F 9:30 am - 4:30 pm EST)
http://www.fernside.org
Grief information, resources, and support for grieving children and their families.
RENEW: Center for Personal Recovery
P.O. Box 125
Berea, KY 40403
859-986-7878
http://www.renew.net
A grief counseling center for individuals and families that are experiencing loss, with a specialty in grief recovery counseling for traumatic deaths.
Online Resources
GriefNet
http://www.griefnet.org/
A web site that provides information and resources related to death, dying, bereavement, and major emotional and physical losses.
Growth House, Inc.
http://www.growthhouse.org
A source of quality information and resources on death and dying issues,
Transformations
http://www.transformations.com
A web site about self-help, support, and recovery issues.
God does for us when we cannot do for ourselves. when i first came to recovery there was so much wreckage from my past that i didn't know what foot to put forward. but somehow, o'neill, i did it. i can only attribute that to God doing for me when i didn't know where to turn.
there is a force in the metaphysical world known as free will. God does not interfer with the free will of man. why would He? what God created is perfect and to interfer with that i believe would alter his perfection. the free will of man was made evident during the attacks this country suffered on 9/11. i believe the free will of man came into play when my nephew who was killed in an auto accident (the driver of the car was racing at a high speed) just as the free will interferred with the drug your niece ingested.
i had to stop and look around at the love that was being offered when my nephew died. the compassion and tears in the police officers eyes when they told us, the friends and family that surrounded us trying to provide some solace to our hurting spirits, the clergy who helped with their prayers and understanding, co-workers and neighbors who came to our aid...all of this love was evidence that God was with us. God sent these angels and it was represented in the love they offered. God also helped me, o'neill because i remained clean and sober to a profoundly sad situation of events that had impacted my heart. there was a time when i would have jumped at the opportunity such as this to use.
below, i have posted a little more about grief. it's difficult sometimes to explain the things we don't understand. in this posting you will find a link to compassionate friends. this organization helped my sister immensely when dealing with her grief over the loss of her son. perhaps, at a later time you may want to reach out to them too.
my thoughts and prayers remain with you and yours my friend. please write to me any time.
until later -
namaste'
sammy
_______
What is grief?
Grief is the normal response of sorrow, emotion, and confusion that comes from losing someone or something important to you. It is a natural part of life. Grief is a typical reaction to death, divorce, job loss, a move away from family and friends, or loss of good health due to illness.
How does grief feel?
Just after a death or loss, you may feel empty and numb, as if you are in shock. You may notice physical changes such as trembling, nausea, trouble breathing, muscle weakness, dry mouth, or trouble sleeping and eating.
You may become angry - at a situation, a particular person, or just angry in general. Almost everyone in grief also experiences guilt. Guilt is often expressed as "I could have, I should have, and I wish I would have" statements.
People in grief may have strange dreams or nightmares, be absent-minded, withdraw socially, or lack the desire to return to work. While these feelings and behaviors are normal during grief, they will pass.
How long does grief last?
Grief lasts as long as it takes you to accept and learn to live with your loss. For some people, grief lasts a few months. For others, grieving may take years.
The length of time spent grieving is different for each person. There are many reasons for the differences, including personality, health, coping style, culture, family background, and life experiences. The time spent grieving also depends on your relationship with the person lost and how prepared you were for the loss.
How will I know when I'm done grieving?
Every person who experiences a death or other loss must complete a four-step grieving process:
(1) Accept the loss;
(2) Work through and feel the physical and emotional pain of grief;
(3) Adjust to living in a world without the person or item lost; and
(4) Move on with life.
The grieving process is over only when a person completes the four steps.
How does grief differ from depression?
Depression is more than a feeling of grief after losing someone or something you love. Clinical depression is a whole body disorder. It can take over the way you think and feel. Symptoms of depression include:
A sad, anxious, or "empty" mood that won't go away;
Loss of interest in what you used to enjoy;
Low energy, fatigue, feeling "slowed down;"
Changes in sleep patterns;
Loss of appetite, weight loss, or weight gain;
Trouble concentrating, remembering, or making decisions;
Feeling hopeless or gloomy;
Feeling guilty, worthless, or helpless;
Thoughts of death or suicide or a suicide attempt; and
Recurring aches and pains that don't respond to treatment.
If you recently experienced a death or other loss, these feelings may be part of a normal grief reaction. But if these feelings persist with no lifting mood, ask for help.
Where can I find help?
The following list of organizations and web sites provides information and support for coping with grief:
The Compassionate Friends (national office)
P.O. Box 3696
Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696
630-990-0010; Toll Free 877-9690010
http://www.compassionatefriends.org
A national, self-help support organization for those grieving the loss of a child or sibling.
Fernside
Bethesda Professional Building
4360 Cooper Road, Suite 101
Cincinnati, OH 45242
513-745-0111 (M - F 9:30 am - 4:30 pm EST)
http://www.fernside.org
Grief information, resources, and support for grieving children and their families.
RENEW: Center for Personal Recovery
P.O. Box 125
Berea, KY 40403
859-986-7878
http://www.renew.net
A grief counseling center for individuals and families that are experiencing loss, with a specialty in grief recovery counseling for traumatic deaths.
Online Resources
GriefNet
http://www.griefnet.org/
A web site that provides information and resources related to death, dying, bereavement, and major emotional and physical losses.
Growth House, Inc.
http://www.growthhouse.org
A source of quality information and resources on death and dying issues,
Transformations
http://www.transformations.com
A web site about self-help, support, and recovery issues.
Hey Oneil. I'm really sorry about your loss. I'm not nearly as eloquent or lnowledgeable as Sammy when it comes to dealing with these feelings. All I know is soon after I stopped drinking 13+ years ago, one of my brothers died of Aids. He was 35. I was so angry, and wanted to get blitzed so bad. But a voice inside of me kept saying simply that all that would do is give me a massive hangover, and wicked guilt feelings. And my brother would still be dead. So I didn't drink.
We both know that these pills have been brutal to kick - I'm just a couple of days behind you. Stay strong O. You can do this.
Take care;
Jim
We both know that these pills have been brutal to kick - I'm just a couple of days behind you. Stay strong O. You can do this.
Take care;
Jim
Hi Oneill-
I'm amazed at what a great job youre doing. I'm also so sorry for your loss. It must be such a hard time for you. You will be in my prayers tonight. Please stay strong, Oneill. You have so many that love you here. You are also a great inspiration to many of us, as well. Thank you so much for that.
Love,
Marie
xoxox
I'm amazed at what a great job youre doing. I'm also so sorry for your loss. It must be such a hard time for you. You will be in my prayers tonight. Please stay strong, Oneill. You have so many that love you here. You are also a great inspiration to many of us, as well. Thank you so much for that.
Love,
Marie
xoxox
Sammy -
The advice and help you give on this site is fantastic.
The advice and help you give on this site is fantastic.
