What is everyone's definition of alcoholic? My mum is still adamant that I am not alcoholic even though I drank everyday for 6 years. She doesn't see that I can't just have one drink I have to have the whole lot. I have gotten out of the repetitive bad behaviour that goes with drinking some time ago now and I rarely cause arguments due to my consumption of alcohol.
I think of myself as alcoholic, even though I am not drinking every day or large amounts. I think my mum is in denial that is as bad as it really is. Do you get me??? She says to me "You don't have a problem now" but I have to keep saying that I do.
Has anyone else had that from their relatives?
Cheers,
Izzy
Hi Izzy,
There was a thread just like this about 6 months ago. The definition that makes the most sense to me is, if someone is drinking to escape from a part of themselves that they don't like then they are an alcoholic. I'm guessing that most of the people whose lives have become unmanageable from drinking aren't physically addicticted, but emotionally.
Have a nice day Izzy,
one day at a time, Cookster
There was a thread just like this about 6 months ago. The definition that makes the most sense to me is, if someone is drinking to escape from a part of themselves that they don't like then they are an alcoholic. I'm guessing that most of the people whose lives have become unmanageable from drinking aren't physically addicticted, but emotionally.
Have a nice day Izzy,
one day at a time, Cookster
Hi Izzy I think my mother don't want to believe that I am an alcoholic. She will say things like ahhh it was just in your mind you could have put the wine down or you just thought you had to have it thats all. Of course she don't know about ALL the drinking I done either. But now the questions are how long you gonna be going to therapy ,its expensive for you.. you think it's doing anything for you? what will people say if they find out about you going ? used to bug me until a couple of days ago. I have finally finally accepted that I am NOT responsible for anyone elses thinking other than my own even if it is my own mother. I have come to the conclusion that it's a denial thing for her because she might feel some shame and embarassment connected with it then again I could be way off the mark. whatever reason I KNOW I am one and I think YOU KNOW yourself if you are or are not.God bless and be safe
Gidday Izzy
My Dad reckoned i only had a problem with booze because my wife didnt cook for me enough when i was drinking LMAO
Deep down i think i knew in myselve there was a real problem and thats all that counts as long as i do something on a daily basis to deal with it
light and love zac
My Dad reckoned i only had a problem with booze because my wife didnt cook for me enough when i was drinking LMAO
Deep down i think i knew in myselve there was a real problem and thats all that counts as long as i do something on a daily basis to deal with it
light and love zac
Not the last few years of my drinking. When I first heard at AA that this was a progressive disease, I thought bite me. A few more years of research I knew they were right and my husband no longer wanted to drink with me.
At re- hab last yr. the counselor asked us if something bad happened 100% of the time would you still keep drinking. He also drew lines and figures on the board to represent the scale.
Everyone said no they'd stop drinking. This line of questioning continued until we came to 50%. Yippie, I was the only one who said yes I would still drink. Now this guy was the clinical supervisor of all the clinicians. A phycologist to, no dummy. He looked right at me and saw the wheels turning. I was thinking in my diseased head I only got really drunk about 75-80 % of the time and nothing bad happens those times. I think I'm willing to gamble. I'm feeling lucky today. Maybe today will be my lucky day and I won't over do it. Wow, I was willing to bet a 20-25% risk on my life, people I love, strangers. Can you be any more selfish then that. Did the dog get any love ? Did he get fed? Did I even eat?
He looks at me and says this doesn't give you a license to drink. Well I didn't give a s***, it's all about me. More research needed to be done. After all I wasn't drinking everyday now. I could go 7- 10 days without drinking. I'd figured out the cycle of paws and new how to stop them. I played that game with my self look I'm not drinking as often, not as much, not hard spirits. In the end the research always came back the same. It wasn't until I surrendered and accepted that I'm an alcoholic.
At re- hab last yr. the counselor asked us if something bad happened 100% of the time would you still keep drinking. He also drew lines and figures on the board to represent the scale.
Everyone said no they'd stop drinking. This line of questioning continued until we came to 50%. Yippie, I was the only one who said yes I would still drink. Now this guy was the clinical supervisor of all the clinicians. A phycologist to, no dummy. He looked right at me and saw the wheels turning. I was thinking in my diseased head I only got really drunk about 75-80 % of the time and nothing bad happens those times. I think I'm willing to gamble. I'm feeling lucky today. Maybe today will be my lucky day and I won't over do it. Wow, I was willing to bet a 20-25% risk on my life, people I love, strangers. Can you be any more selfish then that. Did the dog get any love ? Did he get fed? Did I even eat?
He looks at me and says this doesn't give you a license to drink. Well I didn't give a s***, it's all about me. More research needed to be done. After all I wasn't drinking everyday now. I could go 7- 10 days without drinking. I'd figured out the cycle of paws and new how to stop them. I played that game with my self look I'm not drinking as often, not as much, not hard spirits. In the end the research always came back the same. It wasn't until I surrendered and accepted that I'm an alcoholic.
For me personally I think I was an alcoholic/addict before I ever picked anything up. I think the early warning signs were glaring when I was in my young adolescence. I had no idea what was going on. My parents were busy with 3 kids and life so they chalked it up to me being a teenager.
In highschool I can remember the very first time I had alcohol. It was the typical teenage party. Bon Fire, kegs and the works. Well my very first time drinking I ended up passed out and throwing up. From that moment on everything mind altering has become a problem for me. Neither of my parents are addicts/alcoholics though. Both of my siblings are. Things that make you go hummmmm??? The very common abuse factor rings loudly for me. Not from my parents but outside sources. OH well...on we go. Always forward for me trying to never look back.
Peace out Peeps! :-)
In highschool I can remember the very first time I had alcohol. It was the typical teenage party. Bon Fire, kegs and the works. Well my very first time drinking I ended up passed out and throwing up. From that moment on everything mind altering has become a problem for me. Neither of my parents are addicts/alcoholics though. Both of my siblings are. Things that make you go hummmmm??? The very common abuse factor rings loudly for me. Not from my parents but outside sources. OH well...on we go. Always forward for me trying to never look back.
Peace out Peeps! :-)
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| For me personally I think I was an alcoholic/addict before I ever picked anything up. I think the early warning signs were glaring when I was in my young adolescence. I had no idea what was going on. My parents were busy with 3 kids and life so they chalked it up to me being a teenager. |
Thanks Val, you posted my feelings exactly...
For me, I can look back now, and see the signs from very early childhood...I never drank socially, I drank to get drunk and even then when I was drunk, I continued to drink until I was passed out or blacked out. I found drugs and realized I could drink more/longer if I added chemicals into the mix. I have never in my lifetime had one drink. I drank to fit in, to feel comfortable, to be accepted (by who?), to be a part of......
I do believe I was born an alcoholic and today I am grateful that I was....
xoxo
Stacey
When I was 14 I had my first drunk. I drank to a blackout and I drank till I puked. Every time I drank, I drank for the effect. I could not see any reason whatsoever to have "a couple" of drinks. I drank to get drunk. If I knew I was only going to be able to have one or two I would rather not drink. When I drink I get a craving for another drink. My body wants more and more until I pass out or run out. That is what makes me an alcoholic, that phenomenon of craving. If anyone thinks they are not alcoholic, try this test. Have one or two drinks and stop for the night. See how that works for you. Try it for a week. I was physically uncomfortable if I couldn't continue drinking once I started. I'm not sure if all alkies feel like that but that's how I felt. I prefer not taking the first one. That way I don't have to worry about the next one.
You said it sister friend Kat! Don't pick up the first and there will be no issue worrying about another.
Another example: If you think you need a cocktail to relieve stress or because you had a rough day.....you might be an alcoholic. Oh balls that reminded me of Jeff Foxworthy but that is another thread all together! LOLOLOL
Another example: If you think you need a cocktail to relieve stress or because you had a rough day.....you might be an alcoholic. Oh balls that reminded me of Jeff Foxworthy but that is another thread all together! LOLOLOL
