Hi Everyone,
Going through a rough time. My Dad recently passed away and my boyfriend just broke up with me. I am facing my first weekend alone without my boyfriend, my ex has the kids so I am really alone.
Also I have no medication and am scared that I will be a mess all weekend. Why is it when we don't have meds the pain of a break up or anything bad in our lives seems magnified by 300 %.
Please say a prayer for me to help me get through this. I have a feeling I may just sleep until the kids come home on Sunday for Easter.
Hi Bee,
are you looking to stay off the meds or just hanging on until refill time?
Sorry to hear about your Dad and the boyfriend. Hope Easter turns out to be a fun time for you and your kids.
xxxooo
are you looking to stay off the meds or just hanging on until refill time?
Sorry to hear about your Dad and the boyfriend. Hope Easter turns out to be a fun time for you and your kids.
xxxooo
B asks-
Because you haven't learned how to live sober.
It's not the boyfriend.It's being with yourself that is the problem.
What I suggest you do is go to an NA meeting and share how you feel.You won't be alone and there will be people there who will make you feel welcome and give you solutions.They can tell you how to get through the weekend without taking something.Nobody can make you feel whole but yourself.A lover simply distracts you from looking at yourself.Sex can be just another drug to numb the reality.
You have to get through this period of pain to get to the other side.you don't have to do it alone or in isolation.
Here is number to call to find the nearest NA group.
1-818-773-9999
This is your gift..........no one else can take that away.
Good Luck
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| Why is it when we don't have meds the pain of a break up or anything bad in our lives seems magnified by 300 |
Because you haven't learned how to live sober.
It's not the boyfriend.It's being with yourself that is the problem.
What I suggest you do is go to an NA meeting and share how you feel.You won't be alone and there will be people there who will make you feel welcome and give you solutions.They can tell you how to get through the weekend without taking something.Nobody can make you feel whole but yourself.A lover simply distracts you from looking at yourself.Sex can be just another drug to numb the reality.
You have to get through this period of pain to get to the other side.you don't have to do it alone or in isolation.
Here is number to call to find the nearest NA group.
1-818-773-9999
This is your gift..........no one else can take that away.
Good Luck
hello sweety ..yes tim is soooo rite..listen to this this well centered person.bless you sweetheart ,,,,saying a prayerv for you. poopie
Dear Beebah ~
One of my favorite readings when I feel twinges of fear trying to creep into my thinking is the following:
Our Greatest Fear
by Marianne Williamson
"Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate,
but that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
we ask ourselves, who am i to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.
And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others."
The above is from Ms. Williamson's book titled
A Return to Love 1992. If you haven't had a chance
to read it, you can find it in your local library.
What is it that you are really scared of? Being rejected by
another or being alone over a holiday weekend? Or, perhaps,
you are doing what is perfectly normal to do when losing
people like your father, your boyfriend, your children for
the holiday weekend - perhaps you are grieving the loss of
these people in your life. Grief is a perfectly normal feeling to
have when we lose people who were once very near and dear
to us. I even grieved the loss of drugs when I made the decision
to stop using.
In my journey, I have learned that life is not all about the
good times and I'm always walking/living on a pink cloud.
Without challenges in my life that are sometimes painful
to walk through, I don't learn how to grow spiritually. How
on earth can I be grateful for the good times, if I haven't
experienced some of the lows?
I have adopted a new way of thinking when life throws curve
balls my way and that is to embrace them with the same
enthusiasm that I would as if that ball was thrown with ease
straight into my mitt. You know why? Because through experience,
I have learned that if I keep trying to do the next right thing -
catching that curve ball without using and with as much grace
as I possibly can, my spirit will awake. That is what serenity means
to me, to be able to walk through the storms without having to use.
Believe it or not Beebah, you are right where you are suppose
to be. You are on the brink of spirtual enlightenment. Allow it
to happen - a little willingness goes a long way and please know
you are not alone or unique where these feelings are concerned.
We've all been right where you are and speaking for myself,
I'm sure the time will come again when I'm out there in left field
trying to catch another curve ball. And I hope it does, because I
don't want to remain stagnant in my life. I welcome the opportunity
for positive growth.
Thank God, I've got a "team" here; in my face to face life; and
with the God of my understanding who all cheer me on with love,
support, and nurturance of my soul - even when I perceive my chips
as down. And this is the hope I am offering you too, sweetie.
Keep writing, hold our hands and allow us to love you until you
learn to love yourself. As Ms. Williamson said: "Your playing small
does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born
to make manifest the glory of God within us. It is not just in some;
it is in everyone."
Everyone includes you, Beebah. We were bron to make manifest the
glory of God within us. The glory of God within us is Love. You are love,
Beebah and don't you ever forget that.
Hugs and tons of encouragement to you.
Namaste' ~
Sammy
One of my favorite readings when I feel twinges of fear trying to creep into my thinking is the following:
Our Greatest Fear
by Marianne Williamson
"Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate,
but that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
we ask ourselves, who am i to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.
And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others."
The above is from Ms. Williamson's book titled
A Return to Love 1992. If you haven't had a chance
to read it, you can find it in your local library.
What is it that you are really scared of? Being rejected by
another or being alone over a holiday weekend? Or, perhaps,
you are doing what is perfectly normal to do when losing
people like your father, your boyfriend, your children for
the holiday weekend - perhaps you are grieving the loss of
these people in your life. Grief is a perfectly normal feeling to
have when we lose people who were once very near and dear
to us. I even grieved the loss of drugs when I made the decision
to stop using.
In my journey, I have learned that life is not all about the
good times and I'm always walking/living on a pink cloud.
Without challenges in my life that are sometimes painful
to walk through, I don't learn how to grow spiritually. How
on earth can I be grateful for the good times, if I haven't
experienced some of the lows?
I have adopted a new way of thinking when life throws curve
balls my way and that is to embrace them with the same
enthusiasm that I would as if that ball was thrown with ease
straight into my mitt. You know why? Because through experience,
I have learned that if I keep trying to do the next right thing -
catching that curve ball without using and with as much grace
as I possibly can, my spirit will awake. That is what serenity means
to me, to be able to walk through the storms without having to use.
Believe it or not Beebah, you are right where you are suppose
to be. You are on the brink of spirtual enlightenment. Allow it
to happen - a little willingness goes a long way and please know
you are not alone or unique where these feelings are concerned.
We've all been right where you are and speaking for myself,
I'm sure the time will come again when I'm out there in left field
trying to catch another curve ball. And I hope it does, because I
don't want to remain stagnant in my life. I welcome the opportunity
for positive growth.
Thank God, I've got a "team" here; in my face to face life; and
with the God of my understanding who all cheer me on with love,
support, and nurturance of my soul - even when I perceive my chips
as down. And this is the hope I am offering you too, sweetie.
Keep writing, hold our hands and allow us to love you until you
learn to love yourself. As Ms. Williamson said: "Your playing small
does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born
to make manifest the glory of God within us. It is not just in some;
it is in everyone."
Everyone includes you, Beebah. We were bron to make manifest the
glory of God within us. The glory of God within us is Love. You are love,
Beebah and don't you ever forget that.
Hugs and tons of encouragement to you.
Namaste' ~
Sammy
