I just found this site and thought it would be an appropriate place to express myself. I have a 26 year old daughter who has been abusing drugs since the age of 14. My husband and I have gone to any length to obtain help for her. Her wild ride with abuse has landed her in the hospital countless times with seizures, liver failure, and renal failure. She fortunately recovered from all three. But that is not enough of an influence for her to stop using. She manipulates, lies and steals to achieve her goals.
As I am writing this my daughter is , yet again, in an inpatient rehab facility. Her 28 days are almost up. We absolutly cannot afford to subsidize future prolonged treatment.
I have reached my limit. I no longer possess the resources; be they financial, physical or emotional, to deal with her. She is not only disruptive to me and my husband, but to our business and to the rest of our family (We have two other adult children).
I am not going to retrieve her from the facility. As far as I am concerned they can drop her off at a homeless shelter.
I am done.
I feel your pain. my 22 yr old son is finishing up his 30 day stay in another state. He will transition to a sober living facility where he will need to pay the rent. My wife and I made the painful decision to not send him a plane ticket home when he has no where else to turn. He needs to do this by himself because everything we had done the past 8 years has not changed a thing. hopefully it will work for him as well as your daughter. We attended our first NAR ANON meeting this week and it was very helpful for both of us, it gave me a piece of mind knowing my decision was not the wrong one, please give it a try.
Dear schwamof3,
Have you considered a Family Support group? Did the treatment center offer a program for you? If not, I strongly encourage you to seek one out. Al Anon and NAR Anon are free. If you are a faith-based person, there are several programs available in most areas.
Treatment is only a small-brick as part of a foundation for long-term recovery. Based on your daughter's history, I am surprised that treatment is only 28 days. Often, the more advanced cases will recommend 90 days, followed by outpatient treatment, then sober living homes, etc.
Here is a glimpse of what succesful recovery looks like. Please remember that addict's gravitate toward "half measure" solutions which is why relapse is so common. Success relies upon a "full measure" with complete abandon. Here is a typical outline: Inpatient treatment, upon release attend 90 meetings in 90 days which may include Outpatient treatment. Abandon unhealthy relationships and develop new healty ones. Get a sponsor, read the literature, learn the slogans, work the steps, perform service work, - and keep coming back. Early recovery is marked by over confidence ("I feel great and I have this thing licked!"). That is why a sponsor, and regular attendance at meetings is so important. Recovery takes a lot of work. It is an amazing journey. The addict's life depends on it.
I hope this helps,
Flyboy
Have you considered a Family Support group? Did the treatment center offer a program for you? If not, I strongly encourage you to seek one out. Al Anon and NAR Anon are free. If you are a faith-based person, there are several programs available in most areas.
Treatment is only a small-brick as part of a foundation for long-term recovery. Based on your daughter's history, I am surprised that treatment is only 28 days. Often, the more advanced cases will recommend 90 days, followed by outpatient treatment, then sober living homes, etc.
Here is a glimpse of what succesful recovery looks like. Please remember that addict's gravitate toward "half measure" solutions which is why relapse is so common. Success relies upon a "full measure" with complete abandon. Here is a typical outline: Inpatient treatment, upon release attend 90 meetings in 90 days which may include Outpatient treatment. Abandon unhealthy relationships and develop new healty ones. Get a sponsor, read the literature, learn the slogans, work the steps, perform service work, - and keep coming back. Early recovery is marked by over confidence ("I feel great and I have this thing licked!"). That is why a sponsor, and regular attendance at meetings is so important. Recovery takes a lot of work. It is an amazing journey. The addict's life depends on it.
I hope this helps,
Flyboy
