So as I said, my husband went to treatment last week and I truly wish him well. I am trying to figure out if I should divorce him. Even though most of our 26 years married have revolved around him being addicted to something, I still love him. I have this fear that if I finally divorce him he will get clean for good and I will have let him go but it's not like we have a great marriage. We are mostly friends now. I don't know why I struggle with this? Any sane person would have left him years ago. I guess I'm still sick too. I hope my therapist can help me.
I used to have the fear of letting go of my husband and then he would get clean for someone else and where would I be? It hasn't happened yet and we divorced two years ago. In fact the only women he's been with since I divorced him besides me are drug addicts. He hooked up with some skanky drug addict when he was at his dad's after I filed. He hooked up with some dumb chick who did meth with him and then started to stalk him and me for some reason. We weren't even together at the time at all. Then he was trying to hook up with a chick he met in rehab the beginning of the year who had a boyfriend.
Trust me - he's not going to magically get sober after you leave if he hasn't done it in 26 years.
Trust me - he's not going to magically get sober after you leave if he hasn't done it in 26 years.
Relationships, in general, are stressful. Add addiction to the mix and....wow.
I think it is normal to cling to the known. In the middle of it, it is hard to see any other way of living. Regardless of what you decide, I would take some space and distance, get to know your self.
I've found in the past, distance and time help you see bad relationships for what they were: bad relationships. But, in the middle of it, I thought I was madly in love and would die without him.
Take it easy on yourself. This is tough.
I think it is normal to cling to the known. In the middle of it, it is hard to see any other way of living. Regardless of what you decide, I would take some space and distance, get to know your self.
I've found in the past, distance and time help you see bad relationships for what they were: bad relationships. But, in the middle of it, I thought I was madly in love and would die without him.
Take it easy on yourself. This is tough.
