Hey there friends, I posted this to Valarie a few minutes ago, but I'm wondering since you, my trusted friends, have not been drinking, do you find that you are more outspoken and less tolerant, and won't take alot of sh**t from people???
I find I have been lately, I don't know whether it is from not drinking, or because of my Dad's illness, or a bit of both, but it just seems that I will tell people what I think and when someone trys to boss me or be rude to me I will stand up and won't take it, where as before I would just let it roll of my back. I had one of these days today, and I almost walked off my shift at work because this lady who works for the same company as I do, popped in and worked my shift with me and basically tried to be my boss, which she isn't and she wasn't nice about it either!! so I told her off, and I could feel my blood pressure going to the roof and I was just shaking!!! kinda freaked me out.. any thoughts and suggestions would be great..
Love you all,
Lovedove
HeyMy fellow country lady,
I found with myself that I have more pateince now that Im sober,
Beleive me LD I didnt have much before anything would piss me off and I lose it,
I find me more outspoken on the alcohol thing before i stopped it was a taboo to talk about not drinking !!!!
Still now me an Zac have a couple of mates who cant handle us being sober and Zac has been for 10 yrs!!! But they are still drinkers,
Hope you had a nice weekend, I had a good one ,you Canadians are just awesome people so freindly, I love it here!
Take care Love Dove from Ontario Ginge
I found with myself that I have more pateince now that Im sober,
Beleive me LD I didnt have much before anything would piss me off and I lose it,
I find me more outspoken on the alcohol thing before i stopped it was a taboo to talk about not drinking !!!!
Still now me an Zac have a couple of mates who cant handle us being sober and Zac has been for 10 yrs!!! But they are still drinkers,
Hope you had a nice weekend, I had a good one ,you Canadians are just awesome people so freindly, I love it here!
Take care Love Dove from Ontario Ginge
Hi LD, Gosh it's good to be checkin' in with you guys...I've had a very busy weekend! In regard to your question about being more outspoken; I think I got a little more cocky after I stopped drinking because I thought I was above it all...lol, now that's just me...but my Sponsor right-sized me in fact other folks on the Program right-sized me and reminded me I better not forget where I came from less I'm sure to go back out...I also pray for humility...but I do feel more confident than when I was drinking and in a good way...I'm no longer a door mat and that is a good thing...the Program is teaching to me think before I react...check myself...stop the knee jerk reactions...pause when agitated...all these tools certainly helped me with my 15 year old daughter this weekend (and they do continuously), because if I was still drinking I probably would've said something I would regret....and that didn't happen. Hope this makes sense! PS-Sorry you had a bad day...newly sober I ran through a whole gamut of emotions especially in that first year.
Hi VW,
How are you? We must be on together tonite,
I had Weekend away exploring this weekend was awesome,
Ran into a few times where I had to say I dont drink at all!!
But Ican do that now cause Im happy being sober!!
Hope you had a good weekend!
Your freind Ginge
How are you? We must be on together tonite,
I had Weekend away exploring this weekend was awesome,
Ran into a few times where I had to say I dont drink at all!!
But Ican do that now cause Im happy being sober!!
Hope you had a good weekend!
Your freind Ginge
Hi Ginge, Yep, we are on at the same time, which is rare! I just had dinner and am eating gummy bears now! I have to do some laundry yet and a few other things around here....went up to the local Alano club today and went to my noon meeting too...I'm suppose to go to a BBQ with my sister and some other fellow AAs but I'm kinda tired....sometimes I'm on the go so much, then I hit a wall like I did last week and well, I just have to remember to pace myself...weren't you in Ohio? How is it there?
Yep Im going back to Ohio tomorrow, I have just had the weekend down at Port Dover,a lovely small town on the Lake Erie, a sort of biker town my sorta town!!
Absolutly beautiful there,
I am having a good time so far!
Absolutly beautiful there,
I am having a good time so far!
Hi Ginge, Hi VWgirl, You know what, near the end of my drinking days, I became pretty darn obnoxious, and it just seems now that I have quit that I'm more outspoken or like you said Vwgirl confident, before I was such a doormat and it seems now I'm swinging the other way sometimes. Thanks for your input on this I think before the alcohol numbed alot of what I was feeling and now everything just seems to be on the surface, I'll bring this up in my counselling. Thanks guys! I appreciate the time..
Oh and Ginge, thanks for the compliment, ya us Canadians are a bunch of fun loving, crazy nice people for sure!! I'm glad your experience was a good one!!
Love ya
Lovedove
Oh and Ginge, thanks for the compliment, ya us Canadians are a bunch of fun loving, crazy nice people for sure!! I'm glad your experience was a good one!!
Love ya
Lovedove
EH Lovedove hows things? :)
When i was drinking i would be whoever i thought the people next to me would want me to be and my opinion was there opinion. I only played music that everyone else played. I had no confidance to have an opinion and stick to it. To get confidance i went out with a confidant person.
Now as i get more confidant i do have opinions and if i'm pissed about something i have a say. I'm not always right, the beauty of that is i can correct myself when wrong and apologise when necessary.
Also believe in your intuition when it speaks to you.
I must say that for the 10 drinking years of my of my relationship with my wife i needed her confidance and this last 10 sober years with her there has been a massive change and not all pleasant but we are now equals.
Remember Lovedove.........PAUSE and POISE:)......If someone is giving you grief they want a result, they want your energy in a wave of anger.....Pause and poise.
I have parts to play in my life now and as long as I am accountable for my actions thats all that matters, be they good or bad and as long as I learn from them.
Light and love Zac
When i was drinking i would be whoever i thought the people next to me would want me to be and my opinion was there opinion. I only played music that everyone else played. I had no confidance to have an opinion and stick to it. To get confidance i went out with a confidant person.
Now as i get more confidant i do have opinions and if i'm pissed about something i have a say. I'm not always right, the beauty of that is i can correct myself when wrong and apologise when necessary.
Also believe in your intuition when it speaks to you.
I must say that for the 10 drinking years of my of my relationship with my wife i needed her confidance and this last 10 sober years with her there has been a massive change and not all pleasant but we are now equals.
Remember Lovedove.........PAUSE and POISE:)......If someone is giving you grief they want a result, they want your energy in a wave of anger.....Pause and poise.
I have parts to play in my life now and as long as I am accountable for my actions thats all that matters, be they good or bad and as long as I learn from them.
Light and love Zac
Hi there Zac, as always thanks so much for your wonderful support and advice! I feel much better this morning, I know I have alot of work to do! the knee jerk reaction has always been an issue with me, it was way worse when I was drinking, obviously I still need to work on it, I just got so mad yesterday,it wasn't so much what this person was saying, it was in her approach, I took this p/t job basically for fun and I take it seriously but she is way over the top, we are just two different personality types, and I don't take aggressive approach very well, I never have, I think I handled badly, but it could have been worse, I'm just tired of people thinking they can walk over me, life is too darn short to let people treat you like that and to put up with all that nonsense. Today is another day and another opportunity to learn! Thanks hun, you are an awesome man!!
Lots of love to you,
Lovedove
Lots of love to you,
Lovedove
