My daughter is almost 19, still living at home has been on ice for over a yr now and marijuana for a few yrs. She's been trying to quit ice on her own and refuses rehab. She tells me its just marijuana she uses now but its very hard to believe her. Even so, shes still using! She went out and didnt come home for 2 nights and wonders why im angry. Theres dirty washing everywhere and im just so tired of living like this. Im so angry and sad, my husband is a fifo worker so its just me with her most of the time. Guess i just need to talk to others that understand what im going through. Talking to my friends is hard as the conversation always comes up and i end up getting upset so i feel like im a burden to them now, so i tend to avoid them at times.. :( can anyone please tellme what they have done to cope with this in their lives?
Hi Trina, I'm sorry what your going through. I wish I could help you. Most important for you to know is, you didn't cause this! Don't blame yourself as many do. Like you, when my daughter was 17 yrs old and on heroin I didn't know what to do either. It's a nightmare! But maybe your daughter will turn her life around with her just being on ice a year, I hope so! I don't know much about ice. I don't know why their frightened of rehabs and AA/NA. It must be fear of the unknown that makes them shy away. Read the posts on here Trina because they really will help you. I think the more you read on here the more you understand. People who aren't going through this have no idea how we feel. Our friends and extended family can't even imagine how our lives are when your child is on drugs. It's a waste of time even talking to them about it. We are really alone when drugs come into our family, that's why this website is a Godsend to us all. I wish you well Trina and we're all here for you. Hopefully things will get better. God bless, Mary.
Trina, You answered my post yesterday I have a 19 year old son who is a heroin addict for over a year now. He also refuses rehab claims he can do it on his own but he's had no success so far I think they refuse rehab because they are afraid of the unknown, afraid of the withdraws. My son has been going through withdraws since Monday i have stopped him from going to get drugs twice since Monday so I guess his withdraws are some what a forced one. My husband wants to do everything he can t keep him away from drugs and he feels tough love may work. Who knows I think my son really wants to stop because of course he could have just left after I stopped him but he didn't. It's not an easy road we travel on we are constantly jumping and climbing over those boulders are children are throwing in our way trying to block us out but as parents we will do everything in our power to keep them safe over and over again. Trina all I can say is be happy today, worry about tomorrow tomorrow. It's hard to do but if my son is alive today I will be happy today. Now this is all new to me I have been trying to live this way for the last 2 weeks it's hard but so much less stressful.
Hi Moms hell and Mandm, thankyou for replying, your words do give me some comfort, maybe its just because someone else out there is going through the same thing but it really does help. My husband and I have come to the decision that we will be asking her to leave. And will be making it clear, in a loving way of course, that we will help her with rehab when shes ready but we cant sit back and accept her doing drugs anymore. In order for her to hit rock bottom. Even though she has on a couple of occasions but as usual I have picked her up and believed her. Hope we all get through this soon. Hugs to you all
