Drugs And Driving Can = Death

I have been lurking on here and reading the threads.. I just got thru looking at Pams thread and saw the pic of the car that her son was in when he wrecked.. You are right Pam thank God he is alright. Some of you may have heard me tell this story before but for some reason I feel compelled to tell it again in hopes that it will help someone.. When my youngest daughter was 16 her boy friend was killed in a tragic car accident.. That morning we had gotten up as usual and were going to have a yard sale my daughter was sick and called work but they told her they really needed her and would let her go home as soon as it calmed down.. I lived in a really small town at the time and during the yard sale I heard the sirens it always gave me a chill up my back when I heard them, all I could think of is that it might be my son, since he was out in my car that day...I was not suppose to pick my daughter up from work her boyfriend and her other friends were going to pick her up after work .. I had just finished up with the yard sale when I got the phone call of one of my daughters friends telling me Darrin was dead.. he was crying so bad and yelling in the phone, at first I thought this was a bad joke that they were playing and told them this was not funny how dare them call me and tell me this but it was not a joke.. My daughter best friend was driving the car and her best friends boyfriend was in the passenger seat..Darrin was in the back seat behind the passenger seat and another boy besides him... None of them had on seat belts they had all been drinking heavly the night before and the day of the wreck they had been smoking pot,.. They were on the way to pick up my daughter and was going down a dirt road 75miles an hour and the speed limit was 25, the car went out of control and started swerving and rolled over twice and landed on its side.. Darrin was thrown from the car and was killed instantly the driver and the one behind her were ok just cuts and bruises and the one in the front passenger seat, was in critical condition... He is fine now thank God.. I have never had to do something so hard as to break this news to my daughter, it was horrible and she was devastated... the next few weeks were bad..To look at his Mother and Father who had just lost thier son at age 18 he had just graduated high school and had just bought a truck.. he was going to college the next year.. he had his whole future before him and because of drugs he has no future... He is gone... My daughter had such a hard time she tried to kill her self once and thank God she did not succed she started cutting herself for a while, we put her in therapy after she tried to kill her self and started the cutting she is fine now and has a 9 month old baby, Lilly... She is happy but for most of her teen years she had to deal with the death of her boyfriend the effect that it had on her was devastating... I know as a parent we are suppose to try to protect our children but sometimes we cant... We all think this can not happen to us that it just wont happen to us, I have thought the same thing many times, but can you really know this.. These Four teenagers probably thought the same thing.. You know I thank God everyday that my daughter had to work that day and that they had not picked her up that day before the wreck..God was really watching out for her and kept her safe I thank him for that everyday... Thanks for letting me share this .. with all of you and I hope that it helps someone.
I relate to that story...my oldest will be 26 in December, two days before his graduation he was at a party and the kids were drinking...one of the kids had gotten a Jaguar for graduation...four kids piled in the car, my son asked them not to drive because he knew they were drunk...they asked him to drive but he couldn't go because he had to come home early for a job interview the next day...the kids hit a tree going 90 miles an hour...no seatbelts...all four were ejected and killed...my son had to sit next to the empty chair of his best friend at graduation and has had to live with the "what if's?" since that time...
My son has lost way too many kids out of his graduating class because of drinking and driving. How many more have to die...I ask them that every time they leave the house. I hope thier listening. I love em way too much.


Cowgirl
My son was lucky, he survived. He has to live with grand mal seizures, transient seizures and petit mal seizures. He was 100% healthy until his friend thought his vehicle was an airplane.
Wow..how old is he?
It happened right before he was 15, no seat belt and they were high..airborne. He is 21 now and has to deal with seizures every single day the threat of having one. Not that he has them daily but he has myoclonic jerks too and he feels totally embarrased. A girl once thought he was trying to hit her and he couldnt stop the movement. It is horrible..he is actually stil in denial...like it is a secret...Doesnt want ANY girls to know.
Ah, poor kid. What a thing to live with. Does he take meds that help control it? Was it from a brain injury?

What most don't think about is that it's not only death that maybe in your future, it's injuries that are life long and debilitating. Some wish they were dead.

Sorry for your son, Wiver...it's so sad but I imagine for you, you'll take him anyway, at least he's alive.

Cowgirl
It is more scary than ANYTHING you can imagine, Im 5'5 ish and he is 6'4 and has arms like you cant believe...to help your kid with a grand mal and ALL the strength they have during a seizure it is almost impossible trying to keep them from hurting themself. That is the main objective. You have to get them on their side and clear all objects and try to keep them from hurting you and themselves AND watching the clock to make sure it doesnt go much over 4 minutes. AND whatever you DO, dont call the cops! He kills me because he automatically looses his license for 6 months. He is on lamactil and it is SPENDY. I feel for him and Im guilty of trying to sugar coat myself to make evreything normal. I think I tend to spoil him.
geez wendy, sorry to hear about that....i was just prescribed Lamactil for an A/D....makes me wonder
I have heard that it has a dual purpose. He was on Depakote and he gained like 30 lbs in three months and couldnt stand the way he felt, they tapered him off of depakote and started lamactil...His weight is totally normal, he actually lost all the weight he gained and has NO side effects from it.

I better quit talking about it...My sick mind is going...hmm loose weight?
How many mgs are you on Janet? he is on 200mgs twice a day. Once in the am and once in the evening. Also, its dual purpose I heard is seizures and bipolar..not a/d...Strange how it maintains two totally different issues. I suppose it is all brain chemistry though.
geez, so is mine...lol...i've put on 25 lbs since quitting cocaine...

i was tried on depakote, but i didn't think it was doing me any good, so the Dr switched me to Seroquel, it is an anti-psychotic...for my bipolar...now i've got depression again, so i'm on the Lamactil and the seroquel....i was taking trileptal, but i'm weaning from that...

gotta check, i'm on a five week pack

ok...first 2 weeks 2 25mg once a day...

week 3 & 4 2 25mg am and 2 25 pm

then week 5 1 100mg am and 1 100mg pm
Dang, depakote and lamactil are both for seizures. Strange
well, it could be because I am Bipolar, and go from Manic to Depression...

the Seroquel handles the mania...Lamactil depression

with any luck I'll be able to get rid of some of this belly
He sounds as tall as my youngest. I can't imagine you having to wrestle him... Does he have them often or does the med help?

One things for sure, he'll never be able to take drugs or drink like a normal person, it could kill him. Bet you tell him that over and over and over....

Oh and don't let your addict mind go there....it's not worth a few extra pounds. I've seen your picture, you're perfect.


Cowgirl
My dr made it a point to make sure that I was not drinking, so I'm assuming drinking is a definate no-no with Lamactil
That's good Janet, cuz you're not suppose to drink anyway. ;-)

xxx
lmao...i know honey..I haven't had a drink in over 2 years anyway, gave it up to support the coke habit...

I've always been afraid of drinking...mom, dad and one sister are alcoholics...

geez, afraid to drink, but not afraid to shoot cocaine...go figure?
lol...we don't make much sense, do we?

I wasn't afraid to take 30 pills a day but wouldn't even think of taking anti-depressants.

Insanity. All there is to it.

Love you
amen to that Lisa...absolute insanity....