Family

Heroin
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Completely of the subject but this is my thought for the day, sent by email by my sister.

F A M I L Y

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,

"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.

He said, "Please excuse me too;

I wasn't watching for you."

We were very polite, this stranger and I.

We went on our way and we said goodbye.

But at home a different story is told,

How we treat our loved ones, young and old.

Later that day, cooking the evening meal,

My son stood beside me very still.

When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.

"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.

He walked away, his little heart broken.

I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.

While I lay awake in bed,

God's still small voice came to me and said,

"While dealing with a stranger,

common courtesy you use,

but the family you love, you seem to abuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor,

You'll find some flowers there by the door.

Those are the flowers he brought for you.

He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.

He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,

you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."

By this time, I felt very small,

And now my tears began to fall.

I quietly went and knelt by his bed;

"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.

"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"

He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.

I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.

I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."

I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;

I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."

He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay.

I love you anyway."

I said, "Son, I love you too,

and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."


FAMILY

Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company

that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days.

But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family,

an unwise investment indeed,

don't you think?

So what is behind the story?

Do you know what the word FAMILY means?


FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU
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Oh boy, BR.........here goes you and your Sister........sappy stuff.

I'm so kidding and that is one truth of a poem...........I just mess around about what I say is corny.........cause Tres sends me those kind of things.....and then says pass it on.......LOL......I say "Beat it and stop sending me that stuff".

Thanks for sharing that, BR.
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Nice one BR..i can relate looking after my 7yr.old on me tod can be slightly stressfull a times and ya regret some of the silly little outbursts although she can give it back too ..cheeky monkey...but like your poem said you think wtf afterwards..i hate that feeling of regret and always smother her with love afterwards..maybe too much but i say never enough if ya get me.
Take care.........Davey
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Yeh it is a little corny and I dont normally send it on...its one of those.....make a wish and send to 5 people and your wish will come true...bollo*ks....lol. Anyway its pretty true for me. I do talk to my family like cr*p sometimes and snap just cos I can and its sad cos I shouldnt so thought I would share my thought wi ya all.

See ya xxxxxxxxxxx
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You know, one thing that overcoming my addiction taught me was not to take my loved ones for granted. I always try to be polite and courteous these days. When I was breaking up with my ex, I said some terrible things. He's very ill now, and my words haunt me still, even though I know he doesn't hold it against me. I try to have grace in my dealing with everybody. I try to ensure that I don't say things that I don't mean. And being in a relationship with someone who is often deliberately hurtful, who says things he doesn't mean JUST to hurt me just underlines it all the more. I always have the moral highground! And I have the feelgood factor. Guilt is one of the worst feelings of all. To have regrets, to have done bad things that we cannot go back and change, that we can't put right. That's a terrible burden to carry. I did more than enough of that when I was using. I had to carry a heavy burden of guilt. When I got clean, one of the first things I changed in my life was that. I drew a line under all the bad things I did, and FORGAVE myself. I told myself that I was acting under the insanity of addiction, and in order to move on I had to stop beating myself up. Then I resolved that I would try my very hardest not to accumulate things to feel guilty about in the future. So even when under duress, even when under extreme provokation, I remember my promise to myself, and I hold it together, albeit for selfish reasons. Peace of mind is utterly priceless, and I have learned that guilt eats away at peace of mind like dry rot. The way to avoid guilt? Don't be cruel. Don't be spiteful. Don't be careless with other peoples feelings. Be graceful and kind when dealing with others...

love

Diff xxx
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Diff, you said it all and I agree.

I am going to take a different approach myself. I often used to be hot headed and snappy but I am going to change that, and then later in life I cant feel guilty about saying anything out of order to the ones who matter most.

I am more in control of my temper now and have been since I had my daughter but now and again my temper gets the better of me and I scream at my Mam or Sister. Thing is there are things I dont forgive my mother for if I am truthfull. She always chose her husband over me, and when she really should of stood by me, she didnt. I aint gonna punish her no longer cos she will no what she has done and she will have to live with that!

My boyfriend said I am too kind to my friends but I wont be nasty and snap at them or tell them how I feel. I just come home all upset and have a go at him.

I need to start being more outspoken to my friends and less snappy at my family.

Thanks everyone xx
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this is so much how i have always been kind to others and taking it out on my family.lke diff i to have come to treasure my family so much since in recovery.they have been so good to me when i surely didnt deserve it........today I will pray that I can achieve this even more, not taking anyone for granted and giving my family the same courtesies that I would give a stranger