I am so glad I found this site! I feel lost and just don't know how to deal with my daugher's mental illness and addiction! I am so concerned about her that it's affecting my health! I am constantly on high alert stress and I have tried to help her as she lives on the west coast and I on the east coast! She has been homeless for years and is in and out of mental hospitals, puts herself in dangerous situations that can potentially cost her , her life! I have sent her money so she can stay in a hotel so shes not out in the streets..... she has threatened suicide on many occasions and has made some attempts! She tells me I'm the only one she can turn to! She also has been in and out of re-habs! she has lost custody of her children and I feel like if I don't at least try and help out , she will lose her life! My family tells me I'm crazy and that I need to step away and let her suffer the consequences of her mistakes...... but I'm a mother who carries a lot of guilt if I don't at least try to assist her! Please Help!
I'm so glad you found this site, it will give you a lot of support. Your story is so similar to.mine except it is my son not daughter, and we are both on the west coast. I can't continue to enable my son and I know it is time to let him feel the impact of his actions. But I don't want him to die and I feel he is killing himself slowly. I am raising his children and he wants me to "help" him out by paying for things. I won't do it anymore. It is very hard. Keep reading other posts and you will hear the same story over and over. Helping him by trying to protect him only seems to lengthen the time it will take him to hit his Rock bottom. I understand how you feel.
If she threatens suicide, you can call the authorities and they will lock her up and hospitalize her for 72 hours. After evaluation, they might put her in a hospital setting for a longer term. As for drugs, that will be up to her.
I feel your pain I two have a child with mental illness and an addiction. The powerlessness can destroy you if you let it. I have tried to save him to and I think now with the best of intentions I have just delayed it. Stay strong keep posting, by doing so none of us are alone anymore. This site and hearing all these stories have reinforced that I am not a bad mother, I did not miss anything it is what it is. His choices :( May God give him back to me and your daughter back to you.
