Hi everyone it's me again. Well if you haven't read my other posts my fianc has been struggling with addiction for two years now. I have told his frank the whole thing nothing changes. This last time I told his family they simply said there was nothing they could do and sent him to counseling at a rehab. He went home for thanksgiving and I went with my family. So he comes back Monday and it's sober and everything was so nice. Well that lasted a day. He went to his na meeting last night and says how stupid it was and he was with convicts when he doesn't even have a problem. He did oxy again last night. But then tells me it's not that big of a deal because he's acting fine. Then because of all of this going on and other aspects of my life my doctor and therapist suggested Xanax for me. So I have a prescription of the lowest dose and take 1/4 of it just when things get overwhelming not ever day. Well he found out and started laughing and says I'm just like him and what a hippacrate I am :( when I really need it. When I tell him I can't be with him if he doesn't STOP he says he is just going to do it every now and then but I know that's not true that's not possible. My counselor told me " One is too many and 1000 is not enough" and it's so true. I get mad when he hangs out with his dealer and his gf and he just makes me feel bad that I refuse to hang out with them. I guess what I'm getting at is he makes me feel like I'm over reacting and the problem isn't even that big of a deal. And his family not doing anything doesn't help on my end either. But I just can't handle it all. Thanks for listening guys I know you all understand.
Kate42,
That's unfortunate and I'm so sorry that you have to go through that alone. I know how that feels when the parents or fam of your loved one does nothing to help. And your loved one thinks everything's a joke basically. When I was with my bf who was addicted to meth, he would say it wasn't s big deal either, but it was, and his parents kind of let him do whatever he wanted and I would handle all the baggage. You have to do what's best for you, give yourself some space and really think about what you want in your life. Is this something you want to be concerned about for the remainder of the relationship? Is this healthy to feel like this everyday and worry? I hope you find strength and help for this situation and let us know how everything's going.
Take care
Xoxo
That's unfortunate and I'm so sorry that you have to go through that alone. I know how that feels when the parents or fam of your loved one does nothing to help. And your loved one thinks everything's a joke basically. When I was with my bf who was addicted to meth, he would say it wasn't s big deal either, but it was, and his parents kind of let him do whatever he wanted and I would handle all the baggage. You have to do what's best for you, give yourself some space and really think about what you want in your life. Is this something you want to be concerned about for the remainder of the relationship? Is this healthy to feel like this everyday and worry? I hope you find strength and help for this situation and let us know how everything's going.
Take care
Xoxo
Manipulation seems to be the name of the game when you are in a relationship with an addict. Whether they realise what they are doing and it's part of their personality or whether it is induced by the addiction I am still not sure. My heart breaks for every post of everyone I read on here that is going through the same games and hurtful situations. I wish i could offer more adivice. But I can add you to my thoughts and prayers.
