A few thoughts about Food consumption. for the past many months my son will eat dinner with us or if he is out he will eat when he gets home. or he will make something easy and eat before us when he gets home from work earlier than us, we will save leftovers which he would consume later at night. We would see food missing and dirty dishes would be in his room ( I wait and let him clean them up.) over the past few weeks he was eating less, past week he has money, was out every evening, don't know when he comes home, not eating anything. not even bananas missing. a few leftovers sat there for the week until I threw them out. and last weekend he yelled at me when asking for $ so he can buy food bc he does not want to eat the same old crap here.
He also did not touch the ice cream or look for candy, which I decided to hide and keep for myself. no need to reward him. In the previous weeks he was eating a container of ice cream in a few days.
I see this as a sign that his drug usage has increased or switched to something that makes him not hungry. I also only spent $75 on groceries last sunday. only bought the basics. didn't buy lots of sandwich food, figured he has $$ so he can buy his own lunch. I didn't want to waste cold cuts if he isn't eating.
We have known what to do, but didn't think that have food or not have food would make a difference. I realize he does not care if he eats and I do not have to be responsible for that. I maybe slow, but I am learning.
I have not talked to him in a few days. I plan on staying in my room when he is home. I just don't want to engage.
I try and monitor my sons eating to, I cook Sunday to Thursday, he will eat often we eat late, he often home late from work or works outside, he eats maccers I reckon nearly every day, I have made him sandwichs in past to take to work, silly me thinking am saving him money!!sometimes he forgets them so I try not to bother anymore, me to thinks if he wants to eat he can. can find money for drugs so can find money to eat, my son is slim, although he has never been a big build, I also think you shouldnt have to take your set of to your bedroom, its your house and you should feel comfortable in it, so really I have decided he has to sort his eating habits out
Yep mine doesn't eat when using. We did find out that addicts who are in recovery replace their DOC with sugar. Sugar has been found to be very addictive. So that might explain why he isn't eating any of it. I am so sorry.
I agree you should be able to be in your home in any room that you want to be.
I agree you should be able to be in your home in any room that you want to be.
I have actually heard before in recovery meeting people asking if they have had ice cream that day, apparently its good for recovery, seems strange but thats what I read,
** when I said he yelled at me about money/food - it was over the phone. he was looking for / asking for money so he could 'go to mall' he wasn't really needing $ for food... but since he threw it out there, if he does not care about the food, neither do I. saves me some money and grief.
NYT just read the link intresting and so true, sometimes recovery is just to hard for some, it's physical withdrawals with herione, meth is just as bad, it plays games with the mind, two worst drugs out there,