Well, peeps this morning driving to work in the van with the boss, Clare phones and we're having a chat( not sex, drugs rock n roll or anything like that) While together she phoned me every dinner time and my boss didn't batt an eye lid, in fact he slagged me for being 'under the thunb'.
Today cos he was in a s*** mood he's stopped the car" finish that f****** call outside the van" , i've told Clare i'll talk to her later. I said to my boss (it has happened about 10 times recently but i had to put up with it as need the money) not to swear at me i'm 26 not 16, he's turned round put his head to mine and said, "or what"...
I done the right thing i got my bag and walked out the van, i'm no monkey, normally i would've hit him but i've left that life behind, no one is speaking to me like that then basically challenging me to a fight. Cos he's got his own(lots at the mo) personal probs he's taking it out on me.... no way
I feel like i'm back to square one... unemplyed.... a bum...
Need to the finger out and get a job. Bet you, the lot of you i've got one by Fri....P vibes....all the way....Ta for listening
That is what pisses me off..other people's sh*t bringing my life into turmoil, know what i mean?...
Kev mate i know exactly how ya feel...but yer no bum and ya did the right thing ...no one needs that sorta of abuse.Im not having much joy jobwise but yer a single fella with nothing to tie ya down so as ya said getting a job shouldnt be a prob.Keep yer chin up mate and i hope sumthin works out for ya ...all the best as ever............Davey
Sometimes I wish I could do what you did- - just walk away & say" f*** you, who do you think you,re talking to"
-but> Like you say, I remember that I need to be employed & I start thinking ,at 51 years old who the hell is going to hire me for the kind of money Im making . So I bite my tongue ,& just argue my point and & walk away before anything real ugly gets said.
You did what a lot of us wish we can do. Not to worry, your young & no doubt you,ll find employment real soon.
much respect-& good luck to ya
jack
-but> Like you say, I remember that I need to be employed & I start thinking ,at 51 years old who the hell is going to hire me for the kind of money Im making . So I bite my tongue ,& just argue my point and & walk away before anything real ugly gets said.
You did what a lot of us wish we can do. Not to worry, your young & no doubt you,ll find employment real soon.
much respect-& good luck to ya
jack
Raw deal Kev, but at least you have the satisfaction of telling him where to get off. When I was working I hated having to Kow-tow to the boss, and the majority of bosses are arseholes. When I was the boss, I always tried to be fair, and hated being the big bad wolf. I had to sack someone once when a loaded syringe fell out of her pocket. But I had no choice - I was working with kids with learning disabilities. I felt really s***ty about that, but it had to be done. At least I had the decency to take the girl home, and told her to come back and see me when she got her life sorted.
And as Davey said, you got a lot of options open to you. A lot of the boys round here work away. They go to Germany (Auf Weidersein has got nothing on that lot of headers!!) and the Isle of Man is a great place to work. The money is s*** hot in construction, but it's an expensive place to live. I know some guys working on a railway near Gretna, they're taking home over a grand a week. Do the job centre thing, but spend some time in the local boozer, coz that's where you hear who's taking on and you can get your foot in the door early.
Happy hunting!
love
Diff xxx
And as Davey said, you got a lot of options open to you. A lot of the boys round here work away. They go to Germany (Auf Weidersein has got nothing on that lot of headers!!) and the Isle of Man is a great place to work. The money is s*** hot in construction, but it's an expensive place to live. I know some guys working on a railway near Gretna, they're taking home over a grand a week. Do the job centre thing, but spend some time in the local boozer, coz that's where you hear who's taking on and you can get your foot in the door early.
Happy hunting!
love
Diff xxx
you may be bummed but far from being a bum!! hang in there and keep that positive attitude!
Don't get me wrong the guy on a whole is sound but recently he's had alot on his mind as now n then has been snidey and swore at me in conversation- i just left it cos well, i need the money. But when he done that yest and said "or what" it was either one or two things that i could've done. Cheers for the replies peeps, hope you aare all well
Diff, what's been happenenng with him?
Amity, How's life for you just now girl?
Davey, what's the jobhunting looking like?
Jack, how has the past week been for you, ok i hope?
Diff, what's been happenenng with him?
Amity, How's life for you just now girl?
Davey, what's the jobhunting looking like?
Jack, how has the past week been for you, ok i hope?
Hi Kev, things have been pretty harmonious at the moment. He's making a bit of an effort to be nice to me. He knows I've got some health worries, and he's giving me some slack. I've been having tests for a potentially deadly illness. I get the first set of results on Friday. It has been screwing with my head (well it would, wouldn't it!). And regardless of what the results are, I'm in quite a lot of pain most of the time, and I'm not sure what can be done to alleviate it. I saw my father go through it (it's a very rare auto-immune disease) and have to give up so much that he loved doing. He sold his beloved boat. He gave up rugby. He couldn't eat and just wasted away, he was in so much pain that he couldn't cope with riding in a car on a bumpy road. Fortunately after a few years he went into a sort of semi-remission, and although he still suffers, he is able to enjoy life, and is reasonably fit. But he can't cope with the British weather, which is why he's moved back to South Africa.
It's the very last thing I'd expect to happen to me. It's very rare, and there's only a vague genetic link. I didn't even think it worth mentioning it the my GP, but I've had loads of tests done since Rowanne was born, and they all came back negative, so the Dr's have been scratching their heads. When I mentioned scleraderma my GP said that would explain a lot, the premature arthritus, the circulation problems. It's been going on for a few years actually. A couple of years ago, my hands started to go numb. It was when I was on the gear, so I thought it was some damage I'd done to myself. But after I stopped, it got worse, not better. But when I was pregnant, it seemed to go away, but it's back with a vengence now. And then when my joints started playing up towards the end of my pregnancy, I put it down to the hormones released in late pregnancy to loosen up all the ligaments in preparation for the birth. Especially as Rowanne was so late - I have quite narrow hips, and she didn't engage properly until she was over 2 weeks late. But she's nearly 8 months old now, and the joint pain has spread from just my wrists to most of my body. I feel I'm way too young to be dealing with this!
Anyway, I don't want to jump the gun and start assuming the worst. My GP did my head in though. I really thought he'd say it's a real outside chance, but instead he goes and tells me that I've got all the early symptoms. Great! He almost seemed to relish it, saying "Wow, I haven't had a patient with scleraderma for over 20 years!" - Not what I wanted to hear! But I find out the preliminary results on Friday, so I'll let you know...
love
diff xxx
It's the very last thing I'd expect to happen to me. It's very rare, and there's only a vague genetic link. I didn't even think it worth mentioning it the my GP, but I've had loads of tests done since Rowanne was born, and they all came back negative, so the Dr's have been scratching their heads. When I mentioned scleraderma my GP said that would explain a lot, the premature arthritus, the circulation problems. It's been going on for a few years actually. A couple of years ago, my hands started to go numb. It was when I was on the gear, so I thought it was some damage I'd done to myself. But after I stopped, it got worse, not better. But when I was pregnant, it seemed to go away, but it's back with a vengence now. And then when my joints started playing up towards the end of my pregnancy, I put it down to the hormones released in late pregnancy to loosen up all the ligaments in preparation for the birth. Especially as Rowanne was so late - I have quite narrow hips, and she didn't engage properly until she was over 2 weeks late. But she's nearly 8 months old now, and the joint pain has spread from just my wrists to most of my body. I feel I'm way too young to be dealing with this!
Anyway, I don't want to jump the gun and start assuming the worst. My GP did my head in though. I really thought he'd say it's a real outside chance, but instead he goes and tells me that I've got all the early symptoms. Great! He almost seemed to relish it, saying "Wow, I haven't had a patient with scleraderma for over 20 years!" - Not what I wanted to hear! But I find out the preliminary results on Friday, so I'll let you know...
love
diff xxx
At mylast job everything was fine till we got a new boss...he was a bully and me being only 18 when I started, he thought he could talk to me like sh*t and I would take it. I did for a while but I suppose it just builds up. Why should everyone else get special treatment. I was no different except I was probably the lowest paid. I thought sh*t with this, its not worth the money. He had a go at me for sitting with the guys downstairs, I was on my lunch...that was the final straw. If I could of reached him I probs wud of smacked him one...but he was a very tall bloke so I just had it out with him, told him I was on my dinner, if he didnt like the fact that I was sitting with the guys I would go home for lunch and startig taking every tea break that I normally miss to hit his deadlines. I earned my respect that day, and he grew a great like for me....last year when I got made redundant (worked there for 6 years) he almost cried when I had to go after the Christmas party cos that was the last time I would see him :( lol
I think you can stand up to them, be polite but stand your ground or lash out. I personally would love to of hit him, but if you confront them and stand your ground infront of peeps, then thats just as good as!!!
You did the right thing Kev and am sure you will have a job in no time at all.
xx
I think you can stand up to them, be polite but stand your ground or lash out. I personally would love to of hit him, but if you confront them and stand your ground infront of peeps, then thats just as good as!!!
You did the right thing Kev and am sure you will have a job in no time at all.
xx
Kev you handled that amazingly! I don't know a lot of guys that would have handled that the way you did. You didn't resort to violence or stoop to his level, but you also didn't let yourself get treated like s***. Good for you. Good things are coming your way mate, I can feel it :o)
Maddy x
Maddy x
Kev in a word jobhunting is s***.....i cant juggle Sian,my methd.script and getting a job were i will obviously be the new guy and have to do some kotowing to someone like yer ex boss.I get a day here and there with a mate who does landscaping.....but ive got loan repayments although i got a wedge tied up in a 2yr.dont touch interest type thing.I aint ready to come off the methd.although im questioning my reasons as in being addicted to a legal substance am i just being selfish and dont want to face the world without a drug in my system?????????what i do know is im on benefits and there not bad here with the xchange rate im getting bout a 100quid a week...its all euros over here...but with an 8yr.old and the payments it dont go far.One positive ina way is ive given up smoking weed 6wks since my last joint...not that i feel that much better ...maybe all those lost yrs.will come back to me sometime.......and i can remember how good i had it compared to now.Sorry for bringing anyone down...but thats how it is....oh yeh and f***ing xmas round the corner...wooohooh!!!!!!!!!!!.............Davey
You did right it's way better to walk away then put up with him. Another job will come around. I'm thinking of telling a few nurses at work just what i think of them. I don't need that job as much as they think. They HR human resourse lasdy ask me to take out my tounge ring today "while there are people working there with eyebrow and nose rings". They all have higher up jobs then I.
So is it US or THEM?
Anyone think we have attutudes?
Generally I think we're a darn bunch of cool a*s people who have good hearts....is it because we saw another side and won't take crapolla off people?
Example our dear Zero Girl.......WHY would it be asked of her to take out her tongue ring when other people have visible piercings? Now, ZG she could have went OFF, but she didn't.
Kev didn't.
Davey didn't...........good job on the weed, BTW Davey.
I'd say down to the wire it's definately all Bunny's fault.........LOL.......see, what these non addicts do to us..........I love ya, BR.
Honestly though in NA in that program and all and in rehab I was in group and they ask about attitudes...........I know I posted this before........like are we all anti-authority and why............they went around the group and everyone shared how they basically have a rotten attitude.....comes to me........I said I ain't got one.........and the other people agreed that roomed with and what not.
Then that other chick who gave her boyfriend rat poison and had her little kid help put him on top of a trash bag and drag him to the basement.......she didn't have an attitude either.......seriously........I mean ya couldn't meet a more amiable, kinder, cool person..
So, is this what it's all about? I don't know I'm just asking. I'm getting chill with my therapy and all, but still somebody blatantly harms me or someone I love I'm still gonna probably wanna kick their azzz.........probably, but hey ya can't be a doormat..............but responsibly with a career and work and an on the up and up job.......ya gotta eat it.
I hate stuff sometimes. I really do. Peace out y'all.......whinney addicts youse.
I'd take you all over a bajillion people in this world in a heartbeat......but only if ya remove your tongue rings.
Anyone think we have attutudes?
Generally I think we're a darn bunch of cool a*s people who have good hearts....is it because we saw another side and won't take crapolla off people?
Example our dear Zero Girl.......WHY would it be asked of her to take out her tongue ring when other people have visible piercings? Now, ZG she could have went OFF, but she didn't.
Kev didn't.
Davey didn't...........good job on the weed, BTW Davey.
I'd say down to the wire it's definately all Bunny's fault.........LOL.......see, what these non addicts do to us..........I love ya, BR.
Honestly though in NA in that program and all and in rehab I was in group and they ask about attitudes...........I know I posted this before........like are we all anti-authority and why............they went around the group and everyone shared how they basically have a rotten attitude.....comes to me........I said I ain't got one.........and the other people agreed that roomed with and what not.
Then that other chick who gave her boyfriend rat poison and had her little kid help put him on top of a trash bag and drag him to the basement.......she didn't have an attitude either.......seriously........I mean ya couldn't meet a more amiable, kinder, cool person..
So, is this what it's all about? I don't know I'm just asking. I'm getting chill with my therapy and all, but still somebody blatantly harms me or someone I love I'm still gonna probably wanna kick their azzz.........probably, but hey ya can't be a doormat..............but responsibly with a career and work and an on the up and up job.......ya gotta eat it.
I hate stuff sometimes. I really do. Peace out y'all.......whinney addicts youse.
I'd take you all over a bajillion people in this world in a heartbeat......but only if ya remove your tongue rings.
Bryn, there's F all wrong with being anti-authority. Yep, we are solely responsible for messing up our own lives, but even when you are in recovery, you are marked for life. I have never been convicted of a drug offence. Yes, I have been convicted of other offences which happened during my addiction, but the police round here still know me by name, they never believe a word I tell them, and they stop and search me whenever they get the chance. And it's not just the police, finding a job when you've got a criminal record is hard. Even when you've been clean for years, you'll always be treated like scum, and people don't give you a chance. I don't think everybody is so judgemental - friends and loved ones of addicts who post here prove that. But once you're tarred with that brush, it's hard to ever get away from it.
I am quite happy with life in general, those doors that are closed to me don't matter that much any more. And I don't care if the police search me for drugs, coz they ain't gonna find anything. My vehicles are all taxed, insured and MOT'd, with 4 good tyres, so it doesn't bother me. And it's forced me to look for other doors which maybe will open for me, which is a good thing.
And in some jobs, having a bit of a dodgy past is an advantage. Three of my drug workers were recovered addicts, had done time for various offences, and knew the score. I trusted them more because of it.
Addiction changes you forever, but those of us who are in recovery, we have this feeling inside like we've got knowledge beyond our years. Going through the whole heroin addiction experience, it teaches you so much. We've lost our innocence about life and the true nature of man. Getting off heroin, it asks you some very tough questions, about exactly who and what you are, and the depths of your strength and courage. And you have to know the answers to those questions. Although I miss the naieve girl I used to be, I know that I'm a better person for this knowledge that I learned the hard way. And that's one of the ways that I have come to terms with my addiction. I'd feel so bitter inside if I thought I'd wasted those years. But I have no regrets (well I have some, but doesn't everybody?) because prior to my addiction I was a lost and frightened soul. I was searching for answers, but I couldn't find them. My addiction helped fill in the blanks.
Whoa, got way off on one then...LOL
catch ya's later
Diff x
I am quite happy with life in general, those doors that are closed to me don't matter that much any more. And I don't care if the police search me for drugs, coz they ain't gonna find anything. My vehicles are all taxed, insured and MOT'd, with 4 good tyres, so it doesn't bother me. And it's forced me to look for other doors which maybe will open for me, which is a good thing.
And in some jobs, having a bit of a dodgy past is an advantage. Three of my drug workers were recovered addicts, had done time for various offences, and knew the score. I trusted them more because of it.
Addiction changes you forever, but those of us who are in recovery, we have this feeling inside like we've got knowledge beyond our years. Going through the whole heroin addiction experience, it teaches you so much. We've lost our innocence about life and the true nature of man. Getting off heroin, it asks you some very tough questions, about exactly who and what you are, and the depths of your strength and courage. And you have to know the answers to those questions. Although I miss the naieve girl I used to be, I know that I'm a better person for this knowledge that I learned the hard way. And that's one of the ways that I have come to terms with my addiction. I'd feel so bitter inside if I thought I'd wasted those years. But I have no regrets (well I have some, but doesn't everybody?) because prior to my addiction I was a lost and frightened soul. I was searching for answers, but I couldn't find them. My addiction helped fill in the blanks.
Whoa, got way off on one then...LOL
catch ya's later
Diff x
