Things went good , turns out this guy was a jury picking advisor for many years and has been on the court show before , very young 36 I think but was disatisfied with job and got doctorate in nuro physh so he basically does evals for brain injured. He said he has a couple long term patients but normally prefers a 15 weks conganative behaviorl therapy training which is exactly what I was looking for as I have no need to keep rehashing my childhood. He's more into thought stopping and redirecton kind of stuff. The best thing He said was when he was thinking of having kids ,which was after he traveled the world and saw a lot of suffering was should a child be brought into a world full of suffering. so he asked he grandmother who had been in a concentration camp , like mine. his saw her children shot and her family killed. He asked is life worth it with all the suffering. she went over what she had been through and he thought he had his answer cause she showed the scale of sufering at the botttom , then she taliked about all the joys in her life , other children grandchildren, how people helped other at risk to themselves Etc. and said the joys outwayed the sufferings ,even if she took half the joys away. So he asked me If he could take all my suffering away but in return I had to give him the joys and hapiness from the past and the future would I do it . I immediatly said no , He said how about if he took half of the joys away , I still said no . He then said then why do we do it to ourselves. through taking drugs overeating whatever we are adding suffering but not allowing ourselves to experience the joy that life had. The more I think about it the more it makes sense, I knew this was the right guy for me , just wanted to share Love Ray
Ray, I am so glad to hear it went well. There has been nothing in my life like my therapist. It is great knowing I have her to explain me to me. LOL
I wish you the best with this experience and truly hope you get what you need from it!! Take care.
Love, Carol
Hi Ray,
I just read your post, must say for all the worrying you do god must be watching....How nice it was to see you write that you found someone right for you, and I am guessing here but on the first try......
Good Luck to you and I hope you find the answers that you need.....
Take care,
Tina
I just read your post, must say for all the worrying you do god must be watching....How nice it was to see you write that you found someone right for you, and I am guessing here but on the first try......
Good Luck to you and I hope you find the answers that you need.....
Take care,
Tina
Ramon, Could you explain what coganative behavioral therapy is and how does one go about locating a therapist the specializes in that field. I have some inkling but I would like your take on the profession. Thanks, Steve
