Steph.......
Oh, I hear ya.............The holidays are so so stressful.
I want to tell you something though, and I always try to remember this. My husband's grandma is 90 years old and she always hears me saying I have to clean house, or mop again or this or that................and one day she told me.........
The housework will still be there in 20 years your kids wont.
She told me she obsessed about her house throughout her children's best years, and has some major regrets now.
I, like you love a nice and clean house, and do the best I can with two little ones running around. But, there has to be some time for you in there as well, and just some time to get down on the floor and play with them.
I remind myself of this all the time, to just stop and enjoy the moment.........Easier said than done though I know.
My little ones have been so so hyper lately, I feel like I am just constantly picking up one thing, and then another, and it goes on for hours on end.
I do agree though that this time of year, Christmas, plus being cooped up indoors DOES not help.
Big Hugs, Hope you get to feeling better, your not alone.
Ha! Boy can I relate to this...I remember when mine were little..I had a friend say to me some years later that he was always amazed and shocked at how perfect my house always looked...he used to babysit my kids...and said that he used to zip around my house before I got home to make it look right! He was just 17 and was my friends younger brother...boy that hit home...and looking back I don't know how I did it...that or alot of other things...my kids are 18 months apart in age and I worked and went to school....its a blurr...I had a conversation with my son just the other day about this and his memories of his childhood...he told me he loves me appreciated all the things I did for him and was and is amazed at how hard I worked..and wouldn't have wanted it any other way!!!
That was a great feeling....kids will love you unconditionally...clean house or not...and if it is that important to your hubby....ask him if he has a piano tied to his @ss...lol...the kids although they drive you wacky...are the most important thing you will ever do!
I know I struggle with a 5 year old and she just walks into a room and its a disaster...I am working with her on picking up after herself..rewards and bribes work amazingly! I also try to make her feel a little empathy..."i feel sad that i have to clean up after you...and you get to ________" That makes her think!
Enjoy your little ones with all there craziness causes soon they will bring a much different craziness...lol...I much prefer the young craziness
That was a great feeling....kids will love you unconditionally...clean house or not...and if it is that important to your hubby....ask him if he has a piano tied to his @ss...lol...the kids although they drive you wacky...are the most important thing you will ever do!
I know I struggle with a 5 year old and she just walks into a room and its a disaster...I am working with her on picking up after herself..rewards and bribes work amazingly! I also try to make her feel a little empathy..."i feel sad that i have to clean up after you...and you get to ________" That makes her think!
Enjoy your little ones with all there craziness causes soon they will bring a much different craziness...lol...I much prefer the young craziness
lol @ the "bribes" Kee Kee...........
Your not kidding they work well...........
I am so so guilty of that LOL
Hugs.
Your not kidding they work well...........
I am so so guilty of that LOL
Hugs.
Actually, bribes are a fine way of training. The pickup habit will stay with them after awhile and pay you back enormously (as well as helping to train them for the time they leave home.)
{Sweet Pea, Stacey} hugs to you both.
I always found having a list helped me put things in order of priortity. It really does help you get to the important things first. You wont feel so overwhelmed wondering what you should do next. Work on them one at a time.
And REMEMBER - how many people would trade everything to have their little babies to hold. You both have the best gift of all at this holiday season. Hug em and kiss em and hug em and kiss em and do it again and again. You WILL get through this. Young children are a lot of work but anything worthwhile always is. Girls - DONT be so hard on yourselves. Hope tomorrow is a better day.
I always found having a list helped me put things in order of priortity. It really does help you get to the important things first. You wont feel so overwhelmed wondering what you should do next. Work on them one at a time.
And REMEMBER - how many people would trade everything to have their little babies to hold. You both have the best gift of all at this holiday season. Hug em and kiss em and hug em and kiss em and do it again and again. You WILL get through this. Young children are a lot of work but anything worthwhile always is. Girls - DONT be so hard on yourselves. Hope tomorrow is a better day.
Jeez- when my kids are here, it takes all of about 10 minutes before the place is a wreck. It's constant clean up..even is you ask them..they still don't "clean up"..I usually have 5 at a time, so they are always eating and getting into stuff..hehe..I don't mind though..
Yeah bribes do work wonders. I am trying to get them to help me clean. Sometimes I can do it and sometimes they just dont listen.
I also noticed that when my daughter is doing something I don't want her to do and I tell her to stop, she doesn't. But if I say "PLEASE stop" in a nice tone, then she says "Ok mom" and she stops.
I also noticed that when my daughter is doing something I don't want her to do and I tell her to stop, she doesn't. But if I say "PLEASE stop" in a nice tone, then she says "Ok mom" and she stops.
Ah, the magic word.....please? Btw, I wanted to mention that if money is a problem this year and your kids are young, you can make a more festive Christmas by blowing up balloons. The kids love them and are surprised and they make the Christmas tree look less bare. Been there and done that. Not good spending money you don't have to spend and for me it wasn't an option since I didn't have a credit card to begin with. That Christmas, my aunt went to Salavation Army and got some good second hands that we spruced up, too. My Dad painted my old sled up and we put it under the tree. It's amazing to have a caring family. That was my gift and I loved them all. It was a good Christmas filled with caring and the kids didn't seem to know the difference.
