UGH!!! I am having such a hard time right now. I don't know what to do. I am going crazy and I feel like I am on the verge of a serious mental breakdown. I can't take it anymore. My kids are driving me crazy, I have a so many bills due and no money to pay them, My house is a mess and I am just so stressed. I want to pull all my hair out. Man my life sucks right now. I am even trying to get side jobs just to make money to get through week. I just feel so irritated throughout my whole body.
It seems as if Christmas time is hard on a lot of us. I have seen a lot of people posting lately about their troubles. I just can't wait for christmas to be over.
Girl I lost my day planner and have companies calling me about how late i am on so many things, and we just moved so i'm broke as hell. we still have so much to unpack, literally cannot hardly walk in my house ...
i'm here if you need to talk. only for another hour. i'll email you my number through your space k?
stac
i'm here if you need to talk. only for another hour. i'll email you my number through your space k?
stac
((((hug))))))))
heath
heath
Breathe Sweet pea,
It will all work out. Gotta luv those kids of ours and oh yeah the bills...yuk yuk..
Krazi/Traci
It will all work out. Gotta luv those kids of ours and oh yeah the bills...yuk yuk..
Krazi/Traci
This feeling will pass!! Don't let it get you down..Just step back and breath.I'm sure you'll figure it all out....
If all else fails, duct-tape works wonders for the kids...LOL
If all else fails, duct-tape works wonders for the kids...LOL
Thanks Stacey, Life just seems so hard sometimes. I mean I know everyone has stress in their lives, but sometimes it just seems so unmanageable. My husband has a lot to do with my stress. He gets so mad when his house is a mess and it is a mess right now. I already told him that I was having a hard day so hopefully when he comes home he wont start ranting and raving about the house.
My kids are another story though. I feel like they do it on purpose. Sometimes they just wont stop.
Thanks blondechick and traci
Dj, LOL about the duct tape. I have a nice big roll of red duct tape too.
My kids are another story though. I feel like they do it on purpose. Sometimes they just wont stop.
Thanks blondechick and traci
Dj, LOL about the duct tape. I have a nice big roll of red duct tape too.
Our kids know what and how to push our buttons, believe me read my posts from yesterday.....at least you can duct tape your down...LMAO good one ( just joking) life does throw us some curves though....it to shall pass..
be good to yourself.
Krazi/Traci
be good to yourself.
Krazi/Traci
At least they'll look like a x-mas package....You could advertise them on e-bay...LMAO....
LOL DJ
Krazi/Traci
Krazi/Traci
yeah they sure do know how to push out buttons.
LMAO, yeah advertise them on e-bay with a "all sales final"
LMAO, yeah advertise them on e-bay with a "all sales final"
I don't have any answers for you honey but just wanted to send a hug to both you and Stacey.
I owe you an email Stac...
xxxooo
Lisa
I owe you an email Stac...
xxxooo
Lisa
awwwwww.....(((((((((((((((((((((stephy)))))))))))))))))))))))))
sorry i was not here...........i just got homenot to long ago and i just read this.
remember..........just go.....whoo hoo.........LOL
i know how it is with bills and just trying to keep a nice house up.
it gets challenging..............and now christmas time is here.........
but just try and take your time and do one room at a time.......
i try to do a 15 minute straighten up time before i got to bed..........
my husband and i get together and work together and things get done real quick.
but you'll have do delagate things to your husband so he knows what do to to make your house hold run smoother........
i work , and lately i have been working alot.......
so things just have to wait.......
and thats ok...............enjoy this holiday season.........honey......
make some memories and have some fun..........
i am always here 4 u........;o)...............whoo hoo...........lol
God Bless you dear heart.............
i love you very much.........you have blessed me so much with your friendship and just talking on the phone , singing and being silly.........
being silly and having fun is so healing.......stephy......
life is to short and it gets to SERIOUS sometimes......
thumper
whoo hoo.......your not the one for me !
sorry i was not here...........i just got homenot to long ago and i just read this.
remember..........just go.....whoo hoo.........LOL
i know how it is with bills and just trying to keep a nice house up.
it gets challenging..............and now christmas time is here.........
but just try and take your time and do one room at a time.......
i try to do a 15 minute straighten up time before i got to bed..........
my husband and i get together and work together and things get done real quick.
but you'll have do delagate things to your husband so he knows what do to to make your house hold run smoother........
i work , and lately i have been working alot.......
so things just have to wait.......
and thats ok...............enjoy this holiday season.........honey......
make some memories and have some fun..........
i am always here 4 u........;o)...............whoo hoo...........lol
God Bless you dear heart.............
i love you very much.........you have blessed me so much with your friendship and just talking on the phone , singing and being silly.........
being silly and having fun is so healing.......stephy......
life is to short and it gets to SERIOUS sometimes......
thumper
whoo hoo.......your not the one for me !
If it makes you feel any better read my post at least it might make you laugh. I'm not one to talk right now But X-mas time is a time of love sharing, and understanding alot like all the wonderful post on this sight. Remimber that even in the darkest of times in your life that so many care about you and feel your pains If I had money I would give it to you but I like you work hard for what I have and money is not something I have that much of. But I hope and I know that me saying I care doesn't pay your bills and I'm not going to tell you not to worry about them but don't be hard on yourself for doing the best you can. I care, I wish I could help and I know many others on the post wish they to could help. Things will work out if you need help there are programs project heat for help with that and there's one for the electric as well and then there's help with food, heat food and electric would take away alot of worry if you need to know more about the programs let me know and I'll help you if I can to learn more about them.
TotalEclipse
TotalEclipse
Yeah I know there is programs. I am on those programs(food, heat, electric, medical needs), and they do help, But I still have other bills, car payment, car insurance... I was just stressed today, mostly because I was at my grams all day and I got nothing done, then my kids were doing things that upset me and added to my stress. I know everything is going to be fine because God takes care of me.
Mostly it is my husband who stresses me out. He is such a neat freak and when he comes home he gets upset when the house isn't in "order". I wish he could be me for atleast a week.
Mostly it is my husband who stresses me out. He is such a neat freak and when he comes home he gets upset when the house isn't in "order". I wish he could be me for atleast a week.
Steph,
You weren't goofing off if you were at grams. She probably counts your visit as the best thing that's happened to her all week. People are more important than things, even if your husband disagrees.
I remember that my 5 used to kick up before Christmas and I used to go through unimaginable stress. Some of it has to do with the anxiety of the holiday.
As far as your neatness freak husband, I lived with pretty much the same thing and still do. Now I have the time to cater to his "need" and the desire to do so. You'd be surprised how much better you feel when you live neatly, but with kids, that's almost impossible. Keep stressing to him that the time you'll have with the kids is passing and never to be recaptured (and in a way, Thank God!!) The mess can be taken care of later in life.
Really, things just get away on you. It will help to just plan to take care of one small area .....and the trick is getting the kids to leave that area alone!!! ;-) Then you can show him you can (if only the kids would cooperate!!) (((((Hugs)))))) I tried a trick when he told me I didn't do anything. I hid notes in everything (like folded socks and toilet paper rolls and on the plates set for dinnertime) to actually SHOW him. The note said, "From the mother who doesn't do anything".
((((((Hugs)))))) honey. This too, shall pass.
You weren't goofing off if you were at grams. She probably counts your visit as the best thing that's happened to her all week. People are more important than things, even if your husband disagrees.
I remember that my 5 used to kick up before Christmas and I used to go through unimaginable stress. Some of it has to do with the anxiety of the holiday.
As far as your neatness freak husband, I lived with pretty much the same thing and still do. Now I have the time to cater to his "need" and the desire to do so. You'd be surprised how much better you feel when you live neatly, but with kids, that's almost impossible. Keep stressing to him that the time you'll have with the kids is passing and never to be recaptured (and in a way, Thank God!!) The mess can be taken care of later in life.
Really, things just get away on you. It will help to just plan to take care of one small area .....and the trick is getting the kids to leave that area alone!!! ;-) Then you can show him you can (if only the kids would cooperate!!) (((((Hugs)))))) I tried a trick when he told me I didn't do anything. I hid notes in everything (like folded socks and toilet paper rolls and on the plates set for dinnertime) to actually SHOW him. The note said, "From the mother who doesn't do anything".
((((((Hugs)))))) honey. This too, shall pass.
Thank you pets mom. I think I am going to try the little notes. My house is not that dirty, it just isn't as clean as he would want it to be. He freaks out when there is like 4 things on the floor. I think it is just him, I think he has an underlying problem and that is how he deals with it.
One more note.....
My busband really doesn't care so much about clean, as long as it's neat and LOOKS picked up and clean. I'll bet your husband is the same way. Make a fast dash thru the house b4 he gets home. Have your kids do it too. Make it a fun game.....w prizes of a few cents apiece for every picked up item. You'll see, it'll help. Get a carpet sweeper if you don't have one. That way the rug will always looked vacuumed and even your kiddies can work that.......OR trade in your husband for a new model! LOL ;-)
My busband really doesn't care so much about clean, as long as it's neat and LOOKS picked up and clean. I'll bet your husband is the same way. Make a fast dash thru the house b4 he gets home. Have your kids do it too. Make it a fun game.....w prizes of a few cents apiece for every picked up item. You'll see, it'll help. Get a carpet sweeper if you don't have one. That way the rug will always looked vacuumed and even your kiddies can work that.......OR trade in your husband for a new model! LOL ;-)
Hey just wanted to thank you for your support & let you know Im here & my email is always here for you if you need to vent....
Thank you again...Im feeling better & Anne & I talked abit,.Shes still grounded for 1 mth but at least she knows that no matter what she ever does Ill always love her & Ill always be here for her....\
Sounds like your married to a "Felix Unger"(the odd couple)LOL
Thank you again...Im feeling better & Anne & I talked abit,.Shes still grounded for 1 mth but at least she knows that no matter what she ever does Ill always love her & Ill always be here for her....\
Sounds like your married to a "Felix Unger"(the odd couple)LOL
Petsmom,
He does like things to be neat and picked up. That is one thing I hate about when he cleans, he puts everything in a basket and then in the laundry room. I cleaned out the laundry room and I got 6 bags of TRASH out of it. He cleans up the laundry room, but he just piles it all in the corner. I CLEAN it out, get rid of stuff we don't need and organize, I guess that is why it is harder for me is because I actually clean and put things away and he just puts it all in a basket.
Good idea though about picking up before he comes home, that is what i usually do, but yesterday I took a nap because I was just so tired and he came home and I was asleep. I know my kids aren't doing anything because they always lay down with me.
Thanks Mj, I am glad that you talked to your daughter. I think talking helps a lot.
He does like things to be neat and picked up. That is one thing I hate about when he cleans, he puts everything in a basket and then in the laundry room. I cleaned out the laundry room and I got 6 bags of TRASH out of it. He cleans up the laundry room, but he just piles it all in the corner. I CLEAN it out, get rid of stuff we don't need and organize, I guess that is why it is harder for me is because I actually clean and put things away and he just puts it all in a basket.
Good idea though about picking up before he comes home, that is what i usually do, but yesterday I took a nap because I was just so tired and he came home and I was asleep. I know my kids aren't doing anything because they always lay down with me.
Thanks Mj, I am glad that you talked to your daughter. I think talking helps a lot.
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And the problem with that is?
