just an update on my sad ,pathetic life my b/f has been on a script of 8mg subbies for the last week anyway today i woke him up about 2;50 pm to take our 4 yr old son to the doctors like he promised and he was very nasty he pushed me, slapped me, pinned me to the floor ,and spat in my face i was extremley upset then he was all appologetic saying he wants to talk and tell me the truth the whole truth etc....................
im in a bit off a rush at the mo incase he catches me on here i dont want him to see all the stuff i have wrote about him there is loads more to write but i cant yet .........................................
is his nasty attitude through the subutex a side affect that is mood swings or not ? xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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No I'm afraid he's just a wanker, you need to get rid of him my dear, the moment someone puts there hands on you like that you need to get rid of them and if you are to scared to do it on your own turn to someone you trust to help you confront him. It may be hard but you deserve better. what ever medication you are on it doesnt make you do what he did to you I'm afraid he just sounds like a selfish twat who does'nt deserve you.
emz,
Did he ever get physical with you before? Because I don't care what he's on or not on, what he's trying to get off of, whatever, he has NO BUSINESS treating you like that. Tell me abit about yourself, are you an addict?
You don't want your little boy brought up by someone like that. Are you ok? I can tell by your post your are shaken up, rightfully so.
Your probably at the doctor with your son. Tell us a bit more, and most importantly, BE SAFE.
Even if he is apologetic, theres no reason for that. I'm glad he's not your husband, leaving would be easier that way. Post again so we know your okay and tell me more about you.
Hang in there, but please do not tolerate this.
Warm wishes coming at you,
Briar
Did he ever get physical with you before? Because I don't care what he's on or not on, what he's trying to get off of, whatever, he has NO BUSINESS treating you like that. Tell me abit about yourself, are you an addict?
You don't want your little boy brought up by someone like that. Are you ok? I can tell by your post your are shaken up, rightfully so.
Your probably at the doctor with your son. Tell us a bit more, and most importantly, BE SAFE.
Even if he is apologetic, theres no reason for that. I'm glad he's not your husband, leaving would be easier that way. Post again so we know your okay and tell me more about you.
Hang in there, but please do not tolerate this.
Warm wishes coming at you,
Briar
emz....
Uh uh! No one, no matter what, should EVER lay a hand on you! No reason, no excuse, no truth or untruth will ever justify that. It doesn't matter what his circumstances are or have been. It doesn't matter how long you've been with him or what your history together is. It doesn't matter what kind of "good qualities" he has. If he's hit you, even once, he should be history.
Sorry to be so forceful but that is one thing I'll never abide by and you shouldn't either. Uh uh!
The best to you,
~Callie~
Uh uh! No one, no matter what, should EVER lay a hand on you! No reason, no excuse, no truth or untruth will ever justify that. It doesn't matter what his circumstances are or have been. It doesn't matter how long you've been with him or what your history together is. It doesn't matter what kind of "good qualities" he has. If he's hit you, even once, he should be history.
Sorry to be so forceful but that is one thing I'll never abide by and you shouldn't either. Uh uh!
The best to you,
~Callie~
emz - GET OUT NOW! Things don't change when abuse begins, they just get worse. Would it be alright with you if someone were treating your little girl like that? Then don't let it happen to you. How dare he treat you like that?! This becomes a cycle of him abusing you, saying he's sorry, promising it'll never happen again, then doing it again. The longer the cycle continues, the harder it is to get out. Please think hard about making a move here. IT"S NOT OKAY!!!!
Thinking of you~MomNMore
Thinking of you~MomNMore
I never took subs i took methadone. My quess also would be "he's just a wanker." On methadone my moods were a tad weird however on methadone or H i never hit,shoved, pushed, anyone. Don't let him use the subs to justify being cruel to you. Don't take it either!.... I know from life it will only get worse once someone has hit you once........ it's all the easier to do it again. No child should even need to live thru seeing someone abused.
a wanker indeed girlfriend--you know better--you are too smart and too good of a mom to have this cap going on--but dont think im judging you and i dont think anyonr else is--you were victimized--but from now on since you know this is in him if he hits you again you are letting him victimize your childs mother--thats not ok.I have let myself be abused for a short period of time and i was so dilusional i was also on drugs at the time. GET AWAY sure coming off dope you do all kinds of things you normally wouldnt do but that does not make it ok-dont be a wankerette--luv girl--keep us posted--we are worried
..Emz..
..I was on a sub script for a while and in no way is what he did to ya a side effect from them..What he did to ya is the effects of being a complete b******.
.don't let him fool you into thinking it is a side effect..and don't fool yaself into believing his bulls*** if he is gonna use that as an excuse ?..what he did to ya was bang out of order and only you can decide what ya gonna do about it..but personally i don't think what he did will be a one off ?..do wots right for you and ya son ?..take care..Robbie..
..I was on a sub script for a while and in no way is what he did to ya a side effect from them..What he did to ya is the effects of being a complete b******.
.don't let him fool you into thinking it is a side effect..and don't fool yaself into believing his bulls*** if he is gonna use that as an excuse ?..what he did to ya was bang out of order and only you can decide what ya gonna do about it..but personally i don't think what he did will be a one off ?..do wots right for you and ya son ?..take care..Robbie..
emz, look what your doing...........you are asking if that is a side effect of the subbies?
What if it was?????????? You'd still have to leave.........or have his tail busted because it's plain abuse...........
emz, listen to the advice ya got.......so now ya have to worry about the dope, relapse, subbies, and having a man dare put his hands on you? No, it's no side effect of nothing, but him being abusive.
What if it was?????????? You'd still have to leave.........or have his tail busted because it's plain abuse...........
emz, listen to the advice ya got.......so now ya have to worry about the dope, relapse, subbies, and having a man dare put his hands on you? No, it's no side effect of nothing, but him being abusive.
Emz....Kevin also got really pushy and aggressive a few months ago whilst on subbies but am affraid its not the subbies, its the bast*rd who takes them!
Dont ever accept abuse! Even if it is mental. He obviously has no respect for you to spit in your face and treat you like that...also how many times is he going to tell you the whole truth???? Are you going to allow your children to watch this??
And as someone said...cant remember who.....it only gets worse! I am living proof. My ex was like this and it got worse and worse. He will tell you he is sorry till he is blue in the face and that it will never happen again but the truth is it will. It wont help that he will be feeling extra down with coming off the gear and the smallest thing will upset him, and set him off. Soon you wont be able to relax because you will be avoiding upsetting him!!
Do you think that this is acceptable? Honestly love I am a fine one to talk and should listen to my own advice...some things are easier said than done but I think you should seriously take everyones advise and walk away...if not for your sake for the kids!! I know nobody ever knows the man like you know your own but no excuses....what he did was so wrong and you should respect yourself enough to say ok enough is enough!! I will also take my advise one day when I build up the courage and strength!! I will do this xx
Dont ever accept abuse! Even if it is mental. He obviously has no respect for you to spit in your face and treat you like that...also how many times is he going to tell you the whole truth???? Are you going to allow your children to watch this??
And as someone said...cant remember who.....it only gets worse! I am living proof. My ex was like this and it got worse and worse. He will tell you he is sorry till he is blue in the face and that it will never happen again but the truth is it will. It wont help that he will be feeling extra down with coming off the gear and the smallest thing will upset him, and set him off. Soon you wont be able to relax because you will be avoiding upsetting him!!
Do you think that this is acceptable? Honestly love I am a fine one to talk and should listen to my own advice...some things are easier said than done but I think you should seriously take everyones advise and walk away...if not for your sake for the kids!! I know nobody ever knows the man like you know your own but no excuses....what he did was so wrong and you should respect yourself enough to say ok enough is enough!! I will also take my advise one day when I build up the courage and strength!! I will do this xx
Emz, that is the lowest of the low whet he did to you!! If he is doing that to you now it can only get worse. Lifting your hands to femlas is well out of order in my book!! And spitting on you?? Don't stand for it! You're better than that. Take care, Kev
First of all i want to thank all of you for your concern , im just going to tell a bit about my self to the ppl who dont know my current situation, my name is emma im 24 from wales in uk i have 4 kids from the age of 6 months to the age of 7 yrs the only thing iam addicted to is cigaretts my partner off 11 yrs started on heroin at the age of 17 he is now 26 he has been in and out off prison for the last 7 years , he got out of prison on the 15th of may a couple off weeks later he was showing signs of being back on H we had arrguments about it as he was deniying it anyway he has started on subutex about a week ago and because off lack of sleep has been a moody twat it was only yesterday that he layed a finger on me and im not saying that is ok because it's not , im thinking strongly about leaving him but my only doubt is i have no family around me they are 102 miles away and so i have no where to go, this is when my weak side shows and i take him back because i hate being lonley i know it sounds silly but i always let the good old times over power me than the bad times i have got to get throu my head i fell in love with the person who he was not the person who he has become my head is f***ed i'll be back later thank you once again
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Hi Emma,
Is he the kids' dad? What did he go to prison for? It sounds to me like you've really got your hands full, your kids are so little.
Did he take your son to the doctor the other day like he said?
He's not been out of prison that long, maybe that changed him, I don't know, I just know you can't put up with that, and the times he was in prison, was he any help to you at all? I mean financially or anything, or did you have to carry the whole load alone? Kids from 6 months to 7 years are very young and more than a full time job. Between them and other things, I'm sure your overwhelmed. Are you working? I don't know how you can be with four little ones, but tell me more. Excuse me for saying, but he sounds like an a****** for doing that to you. Its him that should be kissing your butt for putting you thru all the stuff he has, while your home with little ones. Keep posting please, after reading your first post I thought about you and prayed for you alot.
Love to you,
Briar
You are worth so much more than him. How has he acted since that day?
Is he the kids' dad? What did he go to prison for? It sounds to me like you've really got your hands full, your kids are so little.
Did he take your son to the doctor the other day like he said?
He's not been out of prison that long, maybe that changed him, I don't know, I just know you can't put up with that, and the times he was in prison, was he any help to you at all? I mean financially or anything, or did you have to carry the whole load alone? Kids from 6 months to 7 years are very young and more than a full time job. Between them and other things, I'm sure your overwhelmed. Are you working? I don't know how you can be with four little ones, but tell me more. Excuse me for saying, but he sounds like an a****** for doing that to you. Its him that should be kissing your butt for putting you thru all the stuff he has, while your home with little ones. Keep posting please, after reading your first post I thought about you and prayed for you alot.
Love to you,
Briar
You are worth so much more than him. How has he acted since that day?
Alright Ems...hope things are a bit better with ya after the s*** yer so called fella put ya thru.Emma my dad was an alco and put my ma thru hell and me and my bro...and it effected everyone until she moved away with us after 15yrs of marraige...we aint seen him in 20yr.and no bad thing..my brother actually met him in a boozer in Peterborough yonks ago and kick the daylights outta him...as a family in snapshot ive not done great its just me and my ma also my 7yr.old girl...my bro died of an overdose in 98.What im trieing to convay is abusers will continue to abuse even after all the f***in sorrys in the world...what kicked it off for me on this post was the spitting..my dad did that and its one of the most cowardly acts done by very insecure folks.Ems i know ya got enuff on yer plate with the kids and yer man but you gotta think about you and the future yer young dont waste it coz its the easy option .Take care and strenghth to ya ....Davey
Davey, I'm sorry you had to go thru all that and I'm sorry about the loss of your brother.
Emma, you don't want your kids growing up and having to remember and tell stories like the one Davey just did. Thru him, you can look at how your kids are going to feel and how its going to affect them if you let this continue.
It sucks, I know, that you are a victim, yet everything falls on your shoulders, like leaving him, which can't be easy, financially or otherwise.
Myself, I hate to say this, but I hope the b****** f***s up again and his happy a** goes back to prison. That would be an escape for you, and you wouldn't have to worry about him hurting you anymore because he'd be locked up.
Actually, you could have called the police and they would have arrested him and probably sent him back after the last incident, because I'm sure it would have violated his parole.
Try to be strong, alot of times when women are treated that way, they're self respect and confidence really goes downhill, but when you look into your children's eyes, I'm sure you don't want them around this anymore.
Take care sweetheart,
Love,
Briar
Emma, you don't want your kids growing up and having to remember and tell stories like the one Davey just did. Thru him, you can look at how your kids are going to feel and how its going to affect them if you let this continue.
It sucks, I know, that you are a victim, yet everything falls on your shoulders, like leaving him, which can't be easy, financially or otherwise.
Myself, I hate to say this, but I hope the b****** f***s up again and his happy a** goes back to prison. That would be an escape for you, and you wouldn't have to worry about him hurting you anymore because he'd be locked up.
Actually, you could have called the police and they would have arrested him and probably sent him back after the last incident, because I'm sure it would have violated his parole.
Try to be strong, alot of times when women are treated that way, they're self respect and confidence really goes downhill, but when you look into your children's eyes, I'm sure you don't want them around this anymore.
Take care sweetheart,
Love,
Briar
Hi Emma, haven't got long, but just to give you some advice. My boyfriend gets up to the same sort of stuff. Not the drugs (that's just me, or used to be) but the violence. I'm also in Wales. Go to the council, declare yourself homeless because of domestic violence (that's what I did) and they should rehouse you. I've just been offered a nice 3 bed house for me and my little girl. Whether you continue the relationship or not, you need a safe place to stay.
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Diff xxx
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he went to prison for burglary dwelling , i dont work i used to go to collage but had to pack it in due to no babysitter , he is all the kids dad , he does not support me financially i support everyone with my ss money he is just a fu**in scrounger and a thief i cant believe how dumb i 'am thinking (most off all praying ) he would change as i type now he is out prob scoring , he said he was going to his mum's about an hour ago an when i phoned her she said he had'nt been there but when he gets back he will bulls*** me then play games with my mind trying to make me believe he is not up too anything ............................
he is just a complete wanker and a waste off space
but most off all a fu**in bully
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he is just a complete wanker and a waste off space
but most off all a fu**in bully
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davey first off all i want to say im sorry for your sad loss
and also thankyo for sharing that sad story off your dad abusing your mum i totally understand what your saying , ive decided to waite for that arsewhole to go back to prison then im not gonna be here when he gets out i know it sounds cowardly but this is my only option
thank you again emma xx
and also thankyo for sharing that sad story off your dad abusing your mum i totally understand what your saying , ive decided to waite for that arsewhole to go back to prison then im not gonna be here when he gets out i know it sounds cowardly but this is my only option
thank you again emma xx
Sister, all I know is ain't nothing I can say cause I ain't in your place, but ya know I care great for ya emz.........worry for ya...........we all care.
Emma,
Soooo....When's he going back to prison? By his track record, it doesn't sound like it'll take him very long. The sooner the better! Even though you know what you need to do, I know it's hard for you to hear other people slammin' your guy but I want you to stay MAD. You'll need that emotion to help you make the right choice when the time comes. Don't become complacent about your situation and don't let him manipulate you. I don't know for sure where you're at but use all the resourses available to you to help you get yourself and those babies out of that situation. Stay strong!
Best of luck to you,
~Callie~
Soooo....When's he going back to prison? By his track record, it doesn't sound like it'll take him very long. The sooner the better! Even though you know what you need to do, I know it's hard for you to hear other people slammin' your guy but I want you to stay MAD. You'll need that emotion to help you make the right choice when the time comes. Don't become complacent about your situation and don't let him manipulate you. I don't know for sure where you're at but use all the resourses available to you to help you get yourself and those babies out of that situation. Stay strong!
Best of luck to you,
~Callie~
