I've been on here for about 2 years. My fianc is addicted to opiates. It has been an on and off thing. I recently bought him doing meth 2 times. He started seeing a new therapist and promised he would stop (like always) his therapist put him on suboxone for opiates. He was still taking Xanax or any stimulant. Caught him doing meth again had to call 911. He has called his therapist that night after his therapist ditched his apt. The therapist has only shown up to 3 apts in the last 3 months. Now he wants my fianc to try DMT to make his addiction go away?!! I'm very religious and see NOTHING ok with that. I'm so fed up. I need to leave I know I do but I don't have the strength. I'm depressed. any advice on anything or how to get the courage to leave would be really appreciated. He also says he will kill himself if I break up with him. So that's another huge problem. But I know I shouldn't be as trapped as I am. I'm just so beyond appealed and hurt.
Kate - Leave him - it might be lonely and boring at first, but the $$ in your bank account will be a joy! YOU owe this to yourself to have a good life free of other people's problems. You did not cause this, it is not your responsibility to fix it. two years is proof enough. leave and dont look back. do not wait for him to sober up. he will drag you thru recovery relapses for another two years.
They all make the suicide threats - we will never know when they mean it. Just like we dont know when the OD will be their last.
I want to say see if you can slowly back out of the relationship. BUT according to the other postings, a meth user probably wont let you back out of anything. Do what ever you can to break the living situation if you are living w him. Tell him you can't afford the rent and you need to move in w friend or relative. Do this for a year.
DMT -- N-dimethyltryptamine, or DMT, is an illegal, psychedelic tryptamine compound found in the human body and at least ~60 species of plants worldwide.
DMT - really??? Is this being confused w MDT? Methodone Treatment?
They all make the suicide threats - we will never know when they mean it. Just like we dont know when the OD will be their last.
I want to say see if you can slowly back out of the relationship. BUT according to the other postings, a meth user probably wont let you back out of anything. Do what ever you can to break the living situation if you are living w him. Tell him you can't afford the rent and you need to move in w friend or relative. Do this for a year.
DMT -- N-dimethyltryptamine, or DMT, is an illegal, psychedelic tryptamine compound found in the human body and at least ~60 species of plants worldwide.
DMT - really??? Is this being confused w MDT? Methodone Treatment?
Thank you so much for the reply! Sometimes I really need to hear that because all I ever hear is him saying he's fine and going to stop, it was just once blah blah. But I know deep down everything you said is true.
We are not living together, so that is a good thing. I think the only way I could really break up with him would be to move to another state. It would just be a complete life change. But maybe for the best.
Yes! His counselor wants him to do DMT!!! It's CRAZY!! And his parents are even going along with it?!? I'm so confused! I did my research last night and it is a very scary and seems to be dark drug hallucination. I am not comfortable with that. I don't know who would say that was ok especially a certified therapist!! He seems like a real quack though. He was an ex addict himself and judging from all his lies and missed apts I wouldn't doubt he was using again too.
We are not living together, so that is a good thing. I think the only way I could really break up with him would be to move to another state. It would just be a complete life change. But maybe for the best.
Yes! His counselor wants him to do DMT!!! It's CRAZY!! And his parents are even going along with it?!? I'm so confused! I did my research last night and it is a very scary and seems to be dark drug hallucination. I am not comfortable with that. I don't know who would say that was ok especially a certified therapist!! He seems like a real quack though. He was an ex addict himself and judging from all his lies and missed apts I wouldn't doubt he was using again too.
I missed that part about the therapist... yes, something is wrong w the therapist -- IF there is a therapist --- IF the therapist missed appointments or did bf miss appointments....
here is where it gets to the point where -- You Dont Need To Know the truth bc you will never know what is and what isnt -- You need to remove yourself from the drama. keep limiting your time and attention to his problem - only offer advice -- "go to meetings" "go to rehab, sober living, food pantry, shelter, treatment center, etc... " "sorry to hear that, there's nothing I can do"
Do not give money or pay for bills or things he should be paying for, or things that HE caused.
PS - MDT - I meant MMT?
here is where it gets to the point where -- You Dont Need To Know the truth bc you will never know what is and what isnt -- You need to remove yourself from the drama. keep limiting your time and attention to his problem - only offer advice -- "go to meetings" "go to rehab, sober living, food pantry, shelter, treatment center, etc... " "sorry to hear that, there's nothing I can do"
Do not give money or pay for bills or things he should be paying for, or things that HE caused.
PS - MDT - I meant MMT?
I'm doing research on the therapist now. My counselor is actually the one who suggested him and I have gone to the meeting with my BF that the guy never showed up to. So I'm defiantly looking into this guys credibility.
Also I completely agree and love that you said that because it's SO TRUE! I don't even care about what the "truth" is anymore because it's gone so far.
And no he doesn't want him to do methadone he wants him to do a trip on dmt. Which again is 100% illegal. He even met with my BFs parents and talked them into it. So I'm completely alone on how wronf it is and II feel like this guy needs to be turned in for even suggesting that!
Also I completely agree and love that you said that because it's SO TRUE! I don't even care about what the "truth" is anymore because it's gone so far.
And no he doesn't want him to do methadone he wants him to do a trip on dmt. Which again is 100% illegal. He even met with my BFs parents and talked them into it. So I'm completely alone on how wronf it is and II feel like this guy needs to be turned in for even suggesting that!
Kate,
I know you must care very much for your fianc, but this is his journey - his choice as far as what recovery method he chooses. If he asked for your input, that's fine, but the ultimate decision is his. If he's an adult, his treatment team may not even share all of this information with you.
I know you must care very much for your fianc, but this is his journey - his choice as far as what recovery method he chooses. If he asked for your input, that's fine, but the ultimate decision is his. If he's an adult, his treatment team may not even share all of this information with you.
