I USED TO WONDER WHY CANT YOU HAVE A RELATIONSHIP THE FIRST YEAR OF RECOVERY??? WELL NOW I UNDERSTAND- SO I POSTED A TOPIC ABOUT A GUY THAT I HAVE KNOWN FOR A WHILE THAT RECENTLY STARTED USING AGAIN-WELL I HAVE NOT BEEB TAKING HIS PHONE CALLS AND TODAY I BROKE DOWN AND ANSWERED-HE SOUNDED STONED OUT OF HIS MIND AND TRIED TELLING ME JUST WOKE UP AND WAS GROGGY- I TOLD HIM TO STOP TRYING TO FEED ME HIS BULLSHIT CAUSE I HAVE TOLD EVERY LIE IMAGINABLE-OS HE STARTS CRYING CAUSE OF THE LETTER THAT I SENT HIM STATING THAT I CANT BE WITH SOMEONE WHO USES AND I ALSO SENT HIM ALL OF THE LETTERS THAT HE WROTE ME WHEN HE WAS IN TREATMENT FOR 3 MONTHS- SO I FINALLY TOLD HIM THAT I MIGHT BE PREGNANT- I WAS NOT GOING TO TELL HIM, CAUSE IM NOT TOTALLY FOR SURE YET, BUT IT IS VERY LIKELY-I CHECKED THIS PREGNANCY PLANNER THING ON THE INTERNET AND ACCORDING TO THAT I WAS VERY FERTILE THE DAY THE ACCIDENT HAPPENED- AND I HAVE BEEN FEELING DIFFERENT LATELY- SO HE FREAKS OUT AND SAYS WE ABSOLUTELY CANNOT HAVE A BABY- HES LIKE NO WAY-I SAID WAIT A MINUTE IM NOT ASKING YOU TO ME A PART OF MY LIFE OR BE APRT OF THE CHILDS LIFE-HE WAS CRYING AND BEING ALL EMOTIONAL LIKE A TYPICAL ADDICT-SO HE IS TRYING TO TALK ME INTO HAVING AN ABORTION AND I TOLD HIM HOW R U GONNA TELL ME WHAT I CAN HANDLE RIGHT NOW I HAVE BEEN CLEAN FOR 7 MONTHS AND U R USING (AS HE DENIES THAT TO ME)THEN HE COMES OUT AND TELLS ME THAT HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND AND I KNEW IT -DAMN IT !!!!!!! I SHOULD HAVE WENT WITH MY GUT FEELING FROM THE BEGINNING, SO NOW IM POSSIBLY PREGNANT, THEN I FIND OUT THAT HE WAS LYING TO ME ABOUT BEING WITH ANOTHER PERSON BESIDES ME AND I FEEL LIKE s***- LIKE I AM JUST DISSAPOINTED IN MYSELF FOR BEING SO NAIVE-I STARTES CRYING AND TOLD HIM THAT I WAS LEAVING MY HOUSE AND PLEASE DO NOT CALL ME EVER AGAIN-WHAT DOES HE DO???? CALLS MY HOUSE OVER AND OVER TELLING MY DAD I KNOW SHES HOME I JUST TALKED TO HER-I NEVER WANT TO SE HIM AGAIN, HE IS A JUNKIE AND I CANT DO THIS-IM SETTING MYSELF UP SLOWLY FOR RELAPSE-I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO-I AM SOOOOO SAD I CANT STOP CRYING AND I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?????????????????
Clear Green Eyes,
I can't tell you what to do if in fact you are pregnany, but I can't strongly encourage you not to have an abortion. I have 3 kids.... the first one I had when I was 16... and it changed my life for the better! Yeah, it is hard at times, but I wouldn't change it if I could.
My boyfriend is a recovering heroin addict. He is like all the rest of them, he relapses... lies... steals. You know it all I am sure. I have two kids with him...
If your guy is doing drugs I would stay clear of him.. you can't let him get you back into drugs especially if you are pregnant.
Don't let him talk you into an abortion if you don't want to.... honestly that will hurt you more than anything.
If he is not man enough to be a father, than you can have the child and be the best mother that you can be. You will find a good guy that will love you and your child! To be honest, you don't want a junkie as the father of your child any ways. If he is clean then that is a different story.
Hope I can help you...
I can't tell you what to do if in fact you are pregnany, but I can't strongly encourage you not to have an abortion. I have 3 kids.... the first one I had when I was 16... and it changed my life for the better! Yeah, it is hard at times, but I wouldn't change it if I could.
My boyfriend is a recovering heroin addict. He is like all the rest of them, he relapses... lies... steals. You know it all I am sure. I have two kids with him...
If your guy is doing drugs I would stay clear of him.. you can't let him get you back into drugs especially if you are pregnant.
Don't let him talk you into an abortion if you don't want to.... honestly that will hurt you more than anything.
If he is not man enough to be a father, than you can have the child and be the best mother that you can be. You will find a good guy that will love you and your child! To be honest, you don't want a junkie as the father of your child any ways. If he is clean then that is a different story.
Hope I can help you...
i understand how you feel. i met my boyfriends going back 8monhs ago, he was amazing. i knew he had been to prison for 2 months but i was told it was a petty offence. i got on great wiht all his family and was the happiest i had ever been. then i noticed a change in him we started arguing, things started going missing, he then decided to tell me the whole truth about his past. turned out he had been an addict for 2 years (smoking) and that was what he had goen down for, and that he was using again but only a few times a week. i didnt really understand about drugs but i knew that things would get worse. i loved him so much and i really believed he loved me coz of the way we were, even thouigh he would do things to wind me up i just put it down to the drugs and got on wiht it. then the stealing and him aksing me for money all the time started and i always gave in. one day i had enough and i realised that we had to ahve a break. he then ended up back in prison with in 2 days and when he went away i found out he had been the one stealing off his fsamly and that he had been cheating on me for 3 months and got her preganant, she started hassling me, i lost my home, my job and all my money had gone on his habit, i had nothing. he didnt want to know because of this other girl oing a lot of stirring and for 2 motnhs all i did was blame myself and cry at the tiniest thing. 10 weeks on i ahve a new job and frineds im back wiht my dad living and i feel a lot better. now im not upset anymore im angry for what he did to me and his family. im starting to get my confidence back and im starting to have fun again, i still think about him and even some times this hadnt happened because deep down i still love him but i know i could never go back. never let him talk you into an abortion because this could be fait, this could be the thing that keeps you off drugs forever, you dont need him you can do better, even if you dont think that and your baby will love you and that should be all you need untill you find a man to respect and take care of you. i hope everyhting turns out great for you. follow your heart but make sure that you use your head when it comes to him. good luck , take care of yourself, kaci
