Hello,
I'm new here and could use some advice. I came to the realization that I was an alcoholic a few months ago. I stopped drinking for a few weeks with the help of some perscription meds from my doctor. My husband has not been very supportive of my situation as it was very hard to admit and need support from many. He has a eight year old son that is a real problem child. He has constant lieing and bad behavior and my husband says he doesn't believe me when I tell him that the child has done something. This child has spit on my floor, shot me the bird, stomped his foot and said he doesn't have to mind me because I am not his mother. My husband said he would have to see him to do it to believe me. He says: " I can't believe an alcoholic". This sent me back into drinking again. I hide vodka bottles in my closet etc. and yesterday, I went to the closet and found them full of water instead of vodka. I didnt say a word to him and he didn't to me either. Of course I want to stop drinking but need some support not criticism especially from my husband. I do not want to go to AA as I have heard too many horror stories and not only that, I don't want to run into anyone that would recognize me. Any tips on doing it on my own? I did it before but not for long.
Thanks! I could use someone to talk to about this.
I found it helpful to cut down to two drinks a day and then to quit after tapering off. Only problem was I could not cut down to two drinks a day on my own so that I could taper off.
So I had my husband hide the whiskey and dole it out to me two drinks a day for several weeks and then I quit.
Someone else can be helpful if you can find someone to dole it out in limited fashion like this. Cause let's face if we could cut down on our own we probably wouldn't need to quit anyways, huh?
As far as being afraid someone would recognize you at an AA meetings, well guess what, they probably wouldn't be there either if they didn't have a problem too so you should not worry about that.
It reminds me of that joke about how Baptist pretend they don't recognize each other when they go to Hooters...LOL!
Cailyn
So I had my husband hide the whiskey and dole it out to me two drinks a day for several weeks and then I quit.
Someone else can be helpful if you can find someone to dole it out in limited fashion like this. Cause let's face if we could cut down on our own we probably wouldn't need to quit anyways, huh?
As far as being afraid someone would recognize you at an AA meetings, well guess what, they probably wouldn't be there either if they didn't have a problem too so you should not worry about that.
It reminds me of that joke about how Baptist pretend they don't recognize each other when they go to Hooters...LOL!
Cailyn
Sorry to hear you've heard "horror" stories in regard AA. However, it saved my life and is teaching me to live life on life's terms. But, I know AA is not the only vehicle in getting sober. So what works for me, may not work for you. I shared before on this site that tried everything for twenty years to get sober (even AA) and I just wasn't done yet...I tried: Hinduism, Mormonism, Catholicism, Rationale Recover, Therapists, Psychiastrists, Moderation Management, Women for Sobriety and EST....you may just want to check out AA for yourself to form your opinion, and if you go, try to go with an open mind. If you see people there that you know, well, think about...they are there for the same reason as you are....good luck to you.
I can never understand why people are afraid to run into people at AA. What do they think the people are there for? They are there because they have a problem with alcohol too. They're certainly not there to see and judge everyone that comes in the door. Nobody at the meetings give a crap about who it is that walks in the door. We are not going to run out and tell everyone "guess who I saw at a meeting??" We are at a meeting for recovery. Our own recovery. You would be welcomed with open arms not scorned or shunned no matter who you are. They call it Alcoholics Anonymous because the members respect anonymity. No one is going to point fingers. I promise.
I went to an AA meeting last night, and even though I quit drinking already on my own I don't see what harm it could do either.
I could probably even stay sober myself without any help from AA but who knows perhaps one thing that someones says or just having the phone numbers or having a place to go in case I do ever feel tempted to drink again might just make a all the difference in the world for all I know. Like the Bible says, lean not to your own understanding.
Horror stories??? I do not see what harm could come from being around people at an AA meeting at all so I do not know what you mean by horror stories.
Beside it is not a question of whether or not someone should quit drinking and stay sober on their own or whether they should go through AA.
Either way YOU are doing it on YOUR own!!!
No one at AA can stop drinking for you.
And no one a AA can keep you from drinking again either- That is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY either way.
The people at AA only offer support to help, they don't promise to quit drinking for you or to stay sober for you anyways. So it is not an either or type of situation either way YOU have to decide that you really want to quit drinking and then YOU have to stick with it.
Cailyn
I could probably even stay sober myself without any help from AA but who knows perhaps one thing that someones says or just having the phone numbers or having a place to go in case I do ever feel tempted to drink again might just make a all the difference in the world for all I know. Like the Bible says, lean not to your own understanding.
Horror stories??? I do not see what harm could come from being around people at an AA meeting at all so I do not know what you mean by horror stories.
Beside it is not a question of whether or not someone should quit drinking and stay sober on their own or whether they should go through AA.
Either way YOU are doing it on YOUR own!!!
No one at AA can stop drinking for you.
And no one a AA can keep you from drinking again either- That is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY either way.
The people at AA only offer support to help, they don't promise to quit drinking for you or to stay sober for you anyways. So it is not an either or type of situation either way YOU have to decide that you really want to quit drinking and then YOU have to stick with it.
Cailyn
