this must be the 100th time that i have let my boy back at home he promises the moon and the stars that hes not going to use again but here i am again hes back the nite out of his head ive put him to bed hes just got up and pissed against his bedroom wall his dad now says hes to go in the morning or hes going to go i dont want to lose my husband but i also dont want to lose my son he is 26 i have put him out a few times hes went to hostels but at the moment hes barred from all the local hostels and theirs no where else for him to go i just cant let him sleep in the streets please what will i do this is a nitemare my oldest son died when he was 4 and he has been spoiled his whole life because he was born not long after we lost his brother but my family is falling apart ive no one to turn to.
Hi, It's awful, I know! But you've come to a good place coming to this website, we've all been where your at now. What's hardest is putting them out to fend for themselves when all you want to do is mother them. You didn't say what drugs he is taking? Or is it alcohol? I'm hoping it's not one of the hard drugs like Heroin, cocaine/crack. There are message boards on this website that list each drug/alcohol. or you can go on the Internet and read the affects on there. But as long as your son knows he has a home to go to he won't stop using. My daughter was 17 yrs old when she started maybe even younger. But now she is 34 yrs old and I think if I had thrown her out years ago she would have got help quicker. She now is on methadone which is its own kind of hell. But apart from the occasional drug binge (crack/cocaine) the methadone keeps her semi normal and stops the cravings. Now she's addicted to methadone!! You think your son will have no where to go? They all know someone who will take them in. Maybe your son is still at the stage if you tell him it's detox and then rehab or your out of here, it might help him. They are not the sons and daughters we know when their on drugs. They will say anything, do anything, lie,cheat, steal. Watch out for anything of value you may have, because he may take it to sell to get drugs. They don't think like us anymore. It's survival instinct. I know it sounds crazy but it's true. Again though it depends on the drug he is using. I hope you come back here to read other posts. It will give you strength and help you. It did me! It's not your fault he's doing drugs so don't blame yourself. We as parents can't control it or cure it either, only he can and he knows what he needs to do.Detox, rehab then AA or NA. Take care and remember your not alone in this, we're all here for you now. God bless, Mary.
