i need help i have my husband, he says he doesn't have a addiction but he does it at least that i know of 2 -3 days a week. especially when he drinks or hangs with his friend.. i tried to stop him from hanging out with his friend but that didn't work. he says he doesn't have a problem i need help, i need to help him without him getting defense with me..i want to help him i don't know how.. it hasnt' got bad where he uses the house money todo it he uses his money for the week.. He says he doens't have a problem can anyone tell me how should i go by helping him out.
Thanks
Worried wife
Hi Wife,
It is very difficult to help somebody who does not want help or who does not think they have a problem. You can check out some other websites here and get some literature that hopefully he would read.
crackrecovery.com
na.org
egna.org
Maybe reading some stories where people like myself have started out doing the same things as maybe he is doing .... and than reading the rest of the story where I found myself living on the streets for days a time, lost my job, lost my house, my family and so on. Unfortunately though, if he is not ready, he will not listen. Especially when the losses have not yet started accumulating. Sometimes it takes a real car wreck in our life for us to see there is a problem.
Good Luck!!!
Albert R.
It is very difficult to help somebody who does not want help or who does not think they have a problem. You can check out some other websites here and get some literature that hopefully he would read.
crackrecovery.com
na.org
egna.org
Maybe reading some stories where people like myself have started out doing the same things as maybe he is doing .... and than reading the rest of the story where I found myself living on the streets for days a time, lost my job, lost my house, my family and so on. Unfortunately though, if he is not ready, he will not listen. Especially when the losses have not yet started accumulating. Sometimes it takes a real car wreck in our life for us to see there is a problem.
Good Luck!!!
Albert R.
worried-
i am the wife of a recovering cocaine addict. It is a dangerous and very addictive drug. Many years ago when he first began to use I knew that I couldn't single handedly stop him. What I did do was first I left with my daughter and basically told him that I would not come back unless he was checked into a rehab program. Lucky for me it worked. Doesn't always work though. When he came out of rehab the very first thing I did was open a checking account that he could not access so that our bills and essential living expenses would be covered. It has been many years passed, with a few relapses along the way,(definately to be expected) but thus far with lots of hard work and commitment, we are still married 20 years later. We still fight this disease together everyday and more than likely will for all of our days, but to this point we have made it.
Much luck to you
ma
i am the wife of a recovering cocaine addict. It is a dangerous and very addictive drug. Many years ago when he first began to use I knew that I couldn't single handedly stop him. What I did do was first I left with my daughter and basically told him that I would not come back unless he was checked into a rehab program. Lucky for me it worked. Doesn't always work though. When he came out of rehab the very first thing I did was open a checking account that he could not access so that our bills and essential living expenses would be covered. It has been many years passed, with a few relapses along the way,(definately to be expected) but thus far with lots of hard work and commitment, we are still married 20 years later. We still fight this disease together everyday and more than likely will for all of our days, but to this point we have made it.
Much luck to you
ma
