I know I may be in the wrong message board, but I posted on the other one, too. This one seems more active. For those of you who have read my other posts, this one is about my youngest son.
Hopefully someone out there can give advice on what to do in this situation. My son is 17 years old, and smokes pot regularly. Today, his dad found a "stash" in his car, and we had a huge confrontation which ended up in my son storming out of the house by foot. His dad blocked his car in the driveway so he couldn't drive. My son has voiced his opinion that "pot isn't bad", and he has no intention of quitting, which was reason enough to take his car away for good. With my reasoning being, he isn't going to drive a car in my name, under my insurance, while under the influence of any drug. We have known about his usage for almost a year. He has been caught high in school, and issued a citation on the street for possession. Things had been good since the start of the summer, and he lied, saying he had stopped smoking. He went to anti-drug classes, and counseling. Then suddenly, this happens. He is basically a very arrogant, spoiled child, and when he doesn't get what he wants he gets very angry. Today, when he returned home, his 20 year old (much larger) brother and him had words, which he turned physical. THAT has never happened since he was at least 11 and his brother 14, so that is of a concern, too. I called the local police, and if I don't want to press charges, there isn't much they will do. I feel he has underlying psychiatric problems. Mainly, he keeps saying he hates his father, but the reason for that is his dad is hard on him, and doesn't give in, and I do. He refused to seek medical trmt (via the ER) tonight, and short of calling an ambulance, I don't know how I would get hime there. I need some help and advice....any ideas? Would AA help with a problem with pot. He swears it's not addicting, and I have absoulotely no experience with it, but it certainly has changed his personality and production in society (mainly school). Also, I have read about many of the struggles others have had....HELP!
Hi Dutchie,
Pot is the same as any other drug,if you cant control how much you are smoking,it can be a big problem,if he was using it occasionally to just chill out sometimes,I dont think it would be too bad,I know that I would rather see my kids have a smoke occasionally instead of drinking heavily,Ive never seen anyone after having a smoke of pot go looking for a fight where as alcohol and young men is trouble.
Personally I would rather my kids did no drugs or alcohol at all,but as we know they are likely to try both,I would be sitting him down and explaining how pot has its place if he wants to smoke it,using pot to me means not smoking it every day,not getting caught with it,basically using your common sense.
Im sorry I havent probably been much help,Im just telling you how I see it,if you are going to say to him,thats it you are not smoking pot,hes likely to keep smoking it behind your back,I would be trying to explain to him that if he is determined to keep smoking it,he needs to know that it can become a real big problem if he cant control how often he uses it.
Im in my 40's and I hardly know anyone who doesnt smoke it occasionally,most of my friends live real good lives,they work hard,they are raising families and a lot of them like to have a smoke after they get home from work and do what has to be done,they use it like that and no,it isnt a problem for them.
Good luck with your son,its not easy is it.
Pot is the same as any other drug,if you cant control how much you are smoking,it can be a big problem,if he was using it occasionally to just chill out sometimes,I dont think it would be too bad,I know that I would rather see my kids have a smoke occasionally instead of drinking heavily,Ive never seen anyone after having a smoke of pot go looking for a fight where as alcohol and young men is trouble.
Personally I would rather my kids did no drugs or alcohol at all,but as we know they are likely to try both,I would be sitting him down and explaining how pot has its place if he wants to smoke it,using pot to me means not smoking it every day,not getting caught with it,basically using your common sense.
Im sorry I havent probably been much help,Im just telling you how I see it,if you are going to say to him,thats it you are not smoking pot,hes likely to keep smoking it behind your back,I would be trying to explain to him that if he is determined to keep smoking it,he needs to know that it can become a real big problem if he cant control how often he uses it.
Im in my 40's and I hardly know anyone who doesnt smoke it occasionally,most of my friends live real good lives,they work hard,they are raising families and a lot of them like to have a smoke after they get home from work and do what has to be done,they use it like that and no,it isnt a problem for them.
Good luck with your son,its not easy is it.
