hi,
I am a 27year old and i have had a drinking problem since the last 5 years.It started with the consumption of wine a bottle a day then 2 a day and now its getting totally out of hand.A year ago, i was on medication,campral which i took but didn't think they helped at all and now am trying to quite this addication on my own.I have tried medication,AA but nothing meanwhile, i think this sickness is all up in the head so now i have decided i am gonna stop but i need some encouragement.Tonight,am going out clubing, i really don't wanna go, but my husbnd has kinda insisted. i am always afraid of going out coz i have no control over my alcohol intake.please somebody help me,am worried for my life i hate alcohol and i want it out of my life.What is a girl to do????
You can not do it on your one try A.A. agin it works I'v ben sober for 4 years after 27 years of drinking and using I did it with the help of A.A. & N.A they saved my life.pepole plases & thangs must cange or you will die.My wife woud not stop drenking around me she did not understand i finley had to leav her after 10 years of merige & 3 kids the hardst thang i ever had to do but i new i woud die if i did not.I,m not teling you to leav your hsband but he must under sand how sireus this is. hang in there. sarry about the spelling lot of drugs in school. you can doit go back to A.A. and get a sponser.Mark M.
does your husband know you have a problem?
hi I know how you feel, i went to AA with my daughter, I didn;t really like it, my mom died a few years agi and I ad a really hard time.. I agine dweight byt even more since taking bupropion. my husband ahtes overweitght people and right now I can;t contol it. he thinks i don't care. I fell horrible and ashamed adn when I'm at work I feel great. When i get home i candle the looks or the reamrks and i go buy a bottle of wine someimtes 2 if he really pisses me off, i know I am only hurting my self, at first the bupropion helped but i don't thin it does anymore. i work alsmost weekend becaue i can't face the ridicule. He tells me it is all commo sense, i say not everyone iss as smart as you i guess. I ALSO HATE THE REJECTION i AM STILL THE SAME PERSON TRAPPED IN ANOTHER BODY.
i FORGOT TO SY THAT i live av ery small town, i would be totally
embarassed going to a meeting.
embarassed going to a meeting.
Hi,
Thanks for all your replies, i was touched to hear from somebody.I did go out on Friday night but i must say i was so nervous before we went out.Therefore i decided why not, just for tonight i will party and have fun so i drunk a bottle of wine before i left and in between lots of water coz i did not wanna come off drunk before we got to the club.The reason why i drunk before clubing is coz i wanted to catch up or rather thought by drinking before going out, i wouldn't drink as much and it did actually work.On that Friday, i had a little control of my intake i drunk 3 glasses of wine and cola lights the whole evening.
After a night of clubing, i told my husband about my drinking problem and i asked him to help me quit and since then i have not had a drink for 2 days and therefore gonna take one day at a time.
Thanks for all your replies, i was touched to hear from somebody.I did go out on Friday night but i must say i was so nervous before we went out.Therefore i decided why not, just for tonight i will party and have fun so i drunk a bottle of wine before i left and in between lots of water coz i did not wanna come off drunk before we got to the club.The reason why i drunk before clubing is coz i wanted to catch up or rather thought by drinking before going out, i wouldn't drink as much and it did actually work.On that Friday, i had a little control of my intake i drunk 3 glasses of wine and cola lights the whole evening.
After a night of clubing, i told my husband about my drinking problem and i asked him to help me quit and since then i have not had a drink for 2 days and therefore gonna take one day at a time.
Hi Mark, i wanna know how and what makes you stay sober besides the AA meetings? Are you on medication like campral or any other?How do you handle your day to day routines and what do you do when you have cravings?
Hi Patty,
It does break my heart to hear your Story,I also lost my mom when i was 5yrs of age, and lossing a family member is the hardest thing to get over but what keeps me going is the fact that i know she is in a better place in heaven and watching down on me.Maybe you should do the same, give your mother a special place in your heart and know she is in that peaceful place which we all know is better than here and am sure she is looking down on you and it burns her to see how miserable you are so why don't you try and turn everything around.Look at your self in the mirror and see all the good things in you and the beauty within you.Look at the positve things in your life i.e your daughter who took you to AA and so on.
What i do when i get stressed out, i work out so maybe instead of getting into your car fumming to go and buy that bottle of wine,take a walk...it could help.I know easier said then done ha!!for me as well, but give it a try and i promise you, you will love yourself more for standing up for yourself and saying no no no to abuse and alcohol.
Have you also tried family theraphy??in connection with the loss of your mom and your husband emotional abuse???Try and talk to someone it helps,i have been there.
It does break my heart to hear your Story,I also lost my mom when i was 5yrs of age, and lossing a family member is the hardest thing to get over but what keeps me going is the fact that i know she is in a better place in heaven and watching down on me.Maybe you should do the same, give your mother a special place in your heart and know she is in that peaceful place which we all know is better than here and am sure she is looking down on you and it burns her to see how miserable you are so why don't you try and turn everything around.Look at your self in the mirror and see all the good things in you and the beauty within you.Look at the positve things in your life i.e your daughter who took you to AA and so on.
What i do when i get stressed out, i work out so maybe instead of getting into your car fumming to go and buy that bottle of wine,take a walk...it could help.I know easier said then done ha!!for me as well, but give it a try and i promise you, you will love yourself more for standing up for yourself and saying no no no to abuse and alcohol.
Have you also tried family theraphy??in connection with the loss of your mom and your husband emotional abuse???Try and talk to someone it helps,i have been there.
actually it was me bringinh my daughter to AA not the other way. She was selling marijuana and the judge thought it would be a good idea. she is 27 now but was only 17 when it happened.I think tthe walks would do good. I have been working 60-70 hours a week but now i have to cut down and have time for me.
I did go out for 2 runs this weekend a little tough with the extra weight.I have just been so tired after work. we did the therappy thing for awhile last October but because i was out of work for 3 years with no insurance we had a preexisting clause on our insurance and claims weren't being paid. theyjust finally got straightened out. any way one of the dr's was out of the network so I had to pay up front and I couldn't afford it any moe. i wanted to see her because knew the history of problems I had with my daughter, buliema, pregmnant at 16 etc.I wanted to see her personally for myself and then we had a marriage counselor who was different person but was also considered pscyhotherapy
so when I found out they both billing under me we didn't know if they were all going to be paid so I had to cancel all our appointments. so we are back at square 1 again.Plus the last marriage session we had was all about his problems. one of our weekly assisgnments was to at least hold hands to reconnect. I would do it but I had to be the one who initiated it.
anyway after a few weeks i said forget it and then i said we aren't doing what we are supposed to do and the response was "yeah you haven't been doing that" well that just pissed me off all the more.
so that's all for now. i had to work late tonight but my goal is to leave by 6 and workout everynight (well that I can).
I don't even get paid for the extra I work but I like my job and I have less hours to spend at home to get in trouble. I used to have my mom to talk to but now that she's gone I have no one. Most of my family moved to Florida.
I see a new dr this wednesday and I'm going to see if she will change my medication, they say wellbutrin sometimes makes you lose weight but it's not working for me. I have the wellbutrin sr and there is a Xl, i don't know the difference.
Anyone have any suggesstions I can ask her about? My depression about my mom is getting better but it's the home life I have to deal with, we have been together for 30 years so I just don't want to quit but It seems everything is always my fault,
I did go out for 2 runs this weekend a little tough with the extra weight.I have just been so tired after work. we did the therappy thing for awhile last October but because i was out of work for 3 years with no insurance we had a preexisting clause on our insurance and claims weren't being paid. theyjust finally got straightened out. any way one of the dr's was out of the network so I had to pay up front and I couldn't afford it any moe. i wanted to see her because knew the history of problems I had with my daughter, buliema, pregmnant at 16 etc.I wanted to see her personally for myself and then we had a marriage counselor who was different person but was also considered pscyhotherapy
so when I found out they both billing under me we didn't know if they were all going to be paid so I had to cancel all our appointments. so we are back at square 1 again.Plus the last marriage session we had was all about his problems. one of our weekly assisgnments was to at least hold hands to reconnect. I would do it but I had to be the one who initiated it.
anyway after a few weeks i said forget it and then i said we aren't doing what we are supposed to do and the response was "yeah you haven't been doing that" well that just pissed me off all the more.
so that's all for now. i had to work late tonight but my goal is to leave by 6 and workout everynight (well that I can).
I don't even get paid for the extra I work but I like my job and I have less hours to spend at home to get in trouble. I used to have my mom to talk to but now that she's gone I have no one. Most of my family moved to Florida.
I see a new dr this wednesday and I'm going to see if she will change my medication, they say wellbutrin sometimes makes you lose weight but it's not working for me. I have the wellbutrin sr and there is a Xl, i don't know the difference.
Anyone have any suggesstions I can ask her about? My depression about my mom is getting better but it's the home life I have to deal with, we have been together for 30 years so I just don't want to quit but It seems everything is always my fault,
Hi Puppet,
You are doing well, every day adds up!
I havent had a drink in 50 days today! Not that Im counting !
I am on Campral an Naltrexone, my Doc says they work well together, I dont get the full on cravings like I used to, actually I havent had any for a while,
I recomend them if you can get them where you are.
I havent been to a meeting as yet, i know i must do soon, I go to the local Drug an alcohol clinic at the hospital fortnightly and also check out this website daily, it does help to know you are not alone by a far shot in this battle, and also makes you relise you arent going insane!
Keep up the good work Puppet like they say day by day,
Take care Ginge
You are doing well, every day adds up!
I havent had a drink in 50 days today! Not that Im counting !
I am on Campral an Naltrexone, my Doc says they work well together, I dont get the full on cravings like I used to, actually I havent had any for a while,
I recomend them if you can get them where you are.
I havent been to a meeting as yet, i know i must do soon, I go to the local Drug an alcohol clinic at the hospital fortnightly and also check out this website daily, it does help to know you are not alone by a far shot in this battle, and also makes you relise you arent going insane!
Keep up the good work Puppet like they say day by day,
Take care Ginge
Well, i slipped big time.Last night i had 4 beers and 2 bacardi and coke,i felt so sick that i threw up.I am so ashamed of myself.I had the cravings last night and that goes to show i do need to go on the medications again.Well,what can i say...stand up,dust it off and try again.
I know how you feel. I want to stop but it makes me happy while I drink and escape problems but the next day i fell like crap. I stillmanage to go to work and function normally but I want to stop and need help. I don't want to go to AAA. I have an unsupportive spouse that adds to the problem.
Hi lyssa,
We gotta do something ha, i feel the same, i cannot see myself either at the AA.Last night i did have a drink as well and like usual i feel the guilt,shame and not forgetting crap.
We gotta do something ha, i feel the same, i cannot see myself either at the AA.Last night i did have a drink as well and like usual i feel the guilt,shame and not forgetting crap.
puppet, are you an alcoholic ?
how do you define an alcholic are there are FT and PT. some of the PT are due to abuse by thier spouse or friend, a way to escape but function normally all day long. how do you stop people putting you down? i bought a book called happy hour and 1 of the things satted that men/womwn will replace a relationship that is bad with a drink or lots of drinks. it's a good book if you want to check it out. i realted to it alot.Ft and PT comes right froma hospital source.
Hiya Puppet,
Hows things going??
Weekends here again, always a harder time ay,
But keep strong, one day at a time!
Ginge
Hows things going??
Weekends here again, always a harder time ay,
But keep strong, one day at a time!
Ginge
Hey guys,
Someone asked if am an alcoholic...well,i know i have heard a major drinking problem in the past and now trying to handle it which i am managing.I have not had a drink for the last 5 days and only once did i have the cravings and that was last night but didn't get trapped into it.For now am trying to reduce my alcohol intake so i figure,i will only have a drink during the weekend and if that does not work for me,then i will quit for good..
Puppet
Someone asked if am an alcoholic...well,i know i have heard a major drinking problem in the past and now trying to handle it which i am managing.I have not had a drink for the last 5 days and only once did i have the cravings and that was last night but didn't get trapped into it.For now am trying to reduce my alcohol intake so i figure,i will only have a drink during the weekend and if that does not work for me,then i will quit for good..
Puppet
I am the same as you guys, I dont like AA meetings. I wish there was another way. I didnt make any friends there, and I felt so awkward. Guys, you sound like me. Last night I had a company dinner, and I had some wine. It was good, bt then I went home and bought a bottle of wine and had 3 more glasses. I bet I had about 6 glasses in total and I feel liek &%(% now. I have to work too and go to the gym with my sister today. i dont know how I'll do that. I wish you guys lived in Nelson, so that we could hang out. HOw old are you? I'm 24. Well, good luck!
Guys, I wish there was another way for me too (at times) ~ I was intro'd to AA when I was 23 and it took me until I was 44 to get sober! I tried everything else, and I mean everything... even now when I watch the news and hear about maybe some new breakthrough in regard to alcoholics being able to drink like normal people I'm all over that! However, my disease is always lurking in the background and I know it is progressive...I've seen to many people with quite some time in sobriety, go out, and come back in way worse shape than before...their disease just picked up where they left off...days and nights are getting better and better for me. When I went back to AA this time I was willing to put my hand out, share my story and ask for help. That's all it took - I have made some terrific friends on the Program now - my Sister just took a one year cake (she had 7 yrs and went out for 10 yrs, but now has 1 yr - amazing)! With that said, I hope those of you find what you are looking for and can find the peace, serenity and happiness that I have found...truly, life can not get any better for me than it is today! I am grateful to be an Alcoholic today and been given the gift of the Program. VWGirl
