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i am at lost with my boyfriend and his drinking he will consume at least a 30 pack a day he does not work cause he does not have to and all he does is drink and if he does not drink he gets deathly sick i am lost i love him but i know if he keeps at this rate he is going to die PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME where do i go for him some help
cynthia
i'm sorry you are in so much pain. the sad truth is you can't help your boyfriend get sober. you can suggest he go to a detox and then a rehab and then AA. If he's drinking as much as you say a medically supervised detox would probably be advisable. The local health service can help you with that.
However, it won't do much good unless HE wants to stop drinking.
the only thing you can take care of and control is yourself. Get yourself some counselling or go to Al Anon meetings (they are for family members of alcoholics) and there you can talk to others who are going through what you are.
Your boyfriend will only get and stay sober when he reaches the point where he can't stand his life and himself the way things are. That point is different for everybody.
meanwhile educate yourself about alcoholism and addiction it will help you. But remember, you cannot save him.
Idgie
i'm sorry you are in so much pain. the sad truth is you can't help your boyfriend get sober. you can suggest he go to a detox and then a rehab and then AA. If he's drinking as much as you say a medically supervised detox would probably be advisable. The local health service can help you with that.
However, it won't do much good unless HE wants to stop drinking.
the only thing you can take care of and control is yourself. Get yourself some counselling or go to Al Anon meetings (they are for family members of alcoholics) and there you can talk to others who are going through what you are.
Your boyfriend will only get and stay sober when he reaches the point where he can't stand his life and himself the way things are. That point is different for everybody.
meanwhile educate yourself about alcoholism and addiction it will help you. But remember, you cannot save him.
Idgie
Hey Cynthia, Idgie summed it up you can only look after you by going to Alanon and learning about how you can stop enabling your boyfriends drinking and learn how to build your inner strength as only your boyfriend will stop drinking when he is ready. As you get stronger with him about his drinking maybe you can involve family and friends who are worried about him and his drinking and hopefully plant the seed of recovery in his mind.
Cynthia do as much as possible for yourself as you will need the strength to handle the days ahead with or without your boyfriend.
Light and love Zac
Cynthia do as much as possible for yourself as you will need the strength to handle the days ahead with or without your boyfriend.
Light and love Zac
