My boyfriend and i have been together for a month now. We fell for each other insanely fast when we both weren't looking for anything. When we first met he told me about his addiction. a couple weeks later on into it he told me that he was going to get help and he was leaving in a couple days for half a year. I walked him into detox and he told me that he loved him for the first time. After three days he was back out. For the first couple of days he was doing okay and had told me he was going out of town to rehab very very soon. It has now been a month and he has yet to go, its always a new excuse.
The current problem I'm facing is that I've noticed strong change in character, long trips to the washroom and outside, not talking until the middle of the night, not sleeping or eating. And then finding small piecing of burnt tin foil in his clothes and room. He was over for 3 days and during that time he gave me a promise ring and said he'd get better for him self and me. The last day he was over he said that he'd be back in 20 minutes he just had to go deal with something. It has now been two days and he has yet to be back or get a hold of me. I talked on the phone with him for about two minutes last night and found out that he went out of the city and he hung up. We haven't talked since.
I'm not too sure what I should be doing about this. I'm too attached to leave him but I can't keep thinking everyday that he's dead.
You have to look at why you "are too attached to leave".
What is the great attraction?
The folks at Nar-Anon and Al-Anon can help you get back to sanity if you let them.
All the best.
Bob R
What is the great attraction?
The folks at Nar-Anon and Al-Anon can help you get back to sanity if you let them.
All the best.
Bob R
I've been with my addict boyfriend for 18 months, I found out he was an addict 7 months in. My advice to you is get out of the situation, it will probably get worse before it gets better and you will end up blaming yourself. I hope you find the inner strength to cope.
Hi, You both need to move on! My daughter has been an addict since she was 17 yrs old and is still an addict 17 yrs later. If you want a decent life with someone who will be there for you this guy is not the one! You don't want to turn around in 17 yrs when your too old to start again and realize things will never change. One month isn't hard to walk away from but 18 months will be hard to leave. But the longer you stay the harder it will be to leave. Good luck to you both. Mary.
