wow... ive been reading some of your posts on here and im amazed its a whole new world! For ages i felt embarrassed and ashamed of having an addict partner to realise there is people out there going through some of the stuff i am helps me open my eyes.....
i tell u a bit of my story, im met my partner when i was 16 he had just come out of prison 3 months earlier he was in rehab, we struck up a relationship purely friendship he is 10 years older than i am, he quickly turned into a sexual relationship. the rehab he was in didnt want him to be involved with me so he moved in to my mums and left! Five weeks to the day we had met i found out i was pregnent, it was a shock but that give him more determination to stay clear of drugs and be a family. We got on with stuff like you do as my pregnancy progressed and a week before my due date he told me he was back on heroin, i was gutted not only was my baby nearly here my gran was in intensive care. I felt like someone had ripped my life apart. Two days before i had our son Taylor my grandma unfortunatly passed away, i was an emotional wreck as we were close but taylor was what i was looking forward to now.
I had Taylor but that was wrecked by him, he moaned all the time i was taking to long to give birth, then eventaully when he arrived he spent to minutes with our baby and went to get a hit in the toilet, he had crushed what should of been the best day of our lives. It was no better when i came out of hospital at my grans fuveral he thieved 800 pounds from my grandads and 1700 of my mum, we moved out because i wanted to support him. He has done everything to me physically, mentally, thieved and even pulled knives out on me! he believes if he gets the help he will be fine, i dont, i think that heroin will always be an excuse for him! Ive left him at the min, i cant cope!
Im only 17 with a 9 month old baby, do you think he will ever change? or should i just give up now, my family will never speak to him again, could i ever get them 2? HELP!!!
You are in way too deep for a 17 year old - I'm so sorry for your troubles. I hope you've been really paying attention to what you've been reading here - whether he changes or not is ENTIRELY UP TO HIM. He may or may not, but the choice is his and there's not thing one you can do about it. He's already sent you a clear message about where he is right now (and where's he's been at for some time). You need to take care of you and your child. Get away from him until he is clean. Bunny Rocker - you out there? Give this gal some help, honey...
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Girl please please please stay clear for your own safety. You and your child are not safe in this relationship. Heroin addicts can go either way. Some are sound but I tell you when they dont get their gear they are so unpredictable and I tell you I can see which way this guy goes!! You are so so young and you got your whole life ahead of you. If he stole from your family then that says it all. For him to physically do things to you?? well need I say more?? You need to realise that there is life boyond this man. Even though you have a chid to this man doesn not mean you have to give the rest of your life to him. You are 17 and have so many happy years ahead of you.
I am 24 and living with a heroin addict. We have been through tough times. I love him dearly and we have a child together but I know deep down I aint happy with the heroin issue! He has "so called" tried to get clean but half hearted attempts and my day will come when I have had enough and I will just walk away. My man hasnt stole from me or his family. He works for his habbit. It doesnt make things right but he earns his cash to smoke this sh*t. I dont trust him but I do know when he is telling the truth and I can almost read him like a book. I know what he is doing and when and I know he would never raise his hands to me as such!
My daughter means so much to me and I would never put her at any risk an if that day did come I would run as fast as I could,
Like yourself my partner has also been in jail and used to use heroin before I met him, and I also fell pregnant after being with my partner for only a few months so you could say things werent the way they were planned out but we were devoted to each other.
I can understand how things must of been difficult with you being pregnant when you found out he was back on heroin andloosing someone you loved must of topped it off, especially when your hormones are all over the place.
My family dont actually know about my "little scenario" but if my partner ever crossed the line and took something or hurt my family I would kick him to the curb because trust me babes blood is thicker than water and family will stand by you through thick and thin.
The age gap is also a problem because he has so much life experience and to me you are just a baby with your whole life ahead of you! You need to live your life to the full and enjoy your life with your little baby. Life is special and you only get one shot at it so make the most out of it hunny.
Feel free to ask me anything else. Not sure if I answered all your questions but I am here if you need me!!
Be carefull sweety and take care of yourself and your baby, Look after number one!!
Love Lynds xx
Girl please please please stay clear for your own safety. You and your child are not safe in this relationship. Heroin addicts can go either way. Some are sound but I tell you when they dont get their gear they are so unpredictable and I tell you I can see which way this guy goes!! You are so so young and you got your whole life ahead of you. If he stole from your family then that says it all. For him to physically do things to you?? well need I say more?? You need to realise that there is life boyond this man. Even though you have a chid to this man doesn not mean you have to give the rest of your life to him. You are 17 and have so many happy years ahead of you.
I am 24 and living with a heroin addict. We have been through tough times. I love him dearly and we have a child together but I know deep down I aint happy with the heroin issue! He has "so called" tried to get clean but half hearted attempts and my day will come when I have had enough and I will just walk away. My man hasnt stole from me or his family. He works for his habbit. It doesnt make things right but he earns his cash to smoke this sh*t. I dont trust him but I do know when he is telling the truth and I can almost read him like a book. I know what he is doing and when and I know he would never raise his hands to me as such!
My daughter means so much to me and I would never put her at any risk an if that day did come I would run as fast as I could,
Like yourself my partner has also been in jail and used to use heroin before I met him, and I also fell pregnant after being with my partner for only a few months so you could say things werent the way they were planned out but we were devoted to each other.
I can understand how things must of been difficult with you being pregnant when you found out he was back on heroin andloosing someone you loved must of topped it off, especially when your hormones are all over the place.
My family dont actually know about my "little scenario" but if my partner ever crossed the line and took something or hurt my family I would kick him to the curb because trust me babes blood is thicker than water and family will stand by you through thick and thin.
The age gap is also a problem because he has so much life experience and to me you are just a baby with your whole life ahead of you! You need to live your life to the full and enjoy your life with your little baby. Life is special and you only get one shot at it so make the most out of it hunny.
Feel free to ask me anything else. Not sure if I answered all your questions but I am here if you need me!!
Be carefull sweety and take care of yourself and your baby, Look after number one!!
Love Lynds xx
Sweetie, ya got two of the best people to give ya advice already.
Usually I say well it's up to him to want to change........you have to worry about your baby first.........and yourself.........and if he wants to he'll beat it.
He pulled knives..........I think ya answered your own question.
No way can ya get your family to talk to him..........he's hurting the two people they love........you and the baby........he ripped them off as well and when ya needed support as your Gram passed..........NO.......you ain't needing that.
Is your family helping you, honey...........if so then don't even look back......easier said then done, but for the baby's safety sake........I'd say it's a must.........if he hurts the babies mother.........he'll up the road probably not think and hurt the baby too..........it ain't good for your little one......fighting and all that.
You hang in there, honey.........you've been through so much........you're strong.
Stand up for you and your baby.........naw, I'd leave him and how......he's a big boy.............and older boy/man..........let him deal with him.
Hope you are alright, and stay tough........personally I'd be out.....he needs more than rehab, baby.
Usually I say well it's up to him to want to change........you have to worry about your baby first.........and yourself.........and if he wants to he'll beat it.
He pulled knives..........I think ya answered your own question.
No way can ya get your family to talk to him..........he's hurting the two people they love........you and the baby........he ripped them off as well and when ya needed support as your Gram passed..........NO.......you ain't needing that.
Is your family helping you, honey...........if so then don't even look back......easier said then done, but for the baby's safety sake........I'd say it's a must.........if he hurts the babies mother.........he'll up the road probably not think and hurt the baby too..........it ain't good for your little one......fighting and all that.
You hang in there, honey.........you've been through so much........you're strong.
Stand up for you and your baby.........naw, I'd leave him and how......he's a big boy.............and older boy/man..........let him deal with him.
Hope you are alright, and stay tough........personally I'd be out.....he needs more than rehab, baby.
Hey, thanks for your good advice you really put the points across clearly, well im back at my mums today, so hopefully the worlds going to be good to me from now on! x x
Your in the best place sweety. Back at home safe and sound with your family. Life throws many mean things at you but uts up to you how you choose to handle it and whether or not you are gonna change it. Hopefully whatever you choose turns out to be the best decision and you are happy.
Take care of yourself and your little one!!
Lynds xx
Take care of yourself and your little one!!
Lynds xx
Hun post on the families and partners board many good people on there who have been where you are.
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