Hello,
Rob, St. Louis, college educated professional that can NOT quit drinking. I can't do it. I just turned 35 and realizing that I am not immortal and cannot continue doing what I'm doing but don't know how to stop. I'm drinking 15-18 beers a day.
I've gone cold turkey for weeks/months at a time but I just can't quit.
Hi - you are not hopeless - nobody is hopeless!!!
Please read "under the influence" by James Milam & K. Ketcham it will help you understand what's going on!!!! can be ordered at amazon.co.uk......
You can do it, i'm sure you will find many experiences on here that will help you......
Look up the AA website too - think about it - they've helped thousands of people and they understand where you are coming from.............
Hang in there - reaching out for help is a step in the right direction......
Please read "under the influence" by James Milam & K. Ketcham it will help you understand what's going on!!!! can be ordered at amazon.co.uk......
You can do it, i'm sure you will find many experiences on here that will help you......
Look up the AA website too - think about it - they've helped thousands of people and they understand where you are coming from.............
Hang in there - reaching out for help is a step in the right direction......
Hi, thank you for your response.
I have read books, listened to first hand accounts of people who's lives are ruined by the very thing that I'm doing. In fact, I was probably worse than they were when they told me.
The consequences cannot trump the relief I feel from drinking. I can't stop. I used to wear it as a badge of honor but I loathe it now more than I can articulate.
I have read books, listened to first hand accounts of people who's lives are ruined by the very thing that I'm doing. In fact, I was probably worse than they were when they told me.
The consequences cannot trump the relief I feel from drinking. I can't stop. I used to wear it as a badge of honor but I loathe it now more than I can articulate.
perhaps the book i mentioned - will explain why you get "relief" from drinking ??????? it's pretty understandable that a person will continue to do something that brings relief - but i would imagine that eventually the consequences will be worse than the relief - you don't have to wait 4 that though, and of course you get relief because without alcohol you experience withdrawal symptoms - the book i recommended explains this, me being me i would send it to you!!!!!! but hey u can order it as i said............
which books have u read??
don't give up............. you are still young, you can beat this.............again u r not hopeless, by the way what do you think might help you???
Keep posting - there's people on here who might just say the exact thing you need to hear or do that will work for you................
Take care now....................
which books have u read??
don't give up............. you are still young, you can beat this.............again u r not hopeless, by the way what do you think might help you???
Keep posting - there's people on here who might just say the exact thing you need to hear or do that will work for you................
Take care now....................
I think alcoholism is hopeless. Once you are addicted you really have no recourse. I quit smoking cigarettes after years of smoking and it was torture but alcohol taps into your central nervous system. It's an evil drug.
Agreed and so is heroin............
The book i mentioned! (i'm doing my own head in now!!!) explains how it affects your entire body - i'm not going to mention this book again LOL!!!! anyone would think i wrote it!!! genuinely though it really is inspiring .............
Anyways how do you feel about AA ??
You said you've stopped cold turkey for weeks / months - what makes you go back? how did you feel when you stopped for months????
The book i mentioned! (i'm doing my own head in now!!!) explains how it affects your entire body - i'm not going to mention this book again LOL!!!! anyone would think i wrote it!!! genuinely though it really is inspiring .............
Anyways how do you feel about AA ??
You said you've stopped cold turkey for weeks / months - what makes you go back? how did you feel when you stopped for months????
I drank like a fool until I was 28-29 and I had to have my wisdom teeth cut out. That is when I quit for a couple of weeks. I was on antibiotics and painkillers. I didn't drink then but I was wiped out from the pain.
I started back up right after and there were few times when I had a cold that I went to bed rather than drink, but that is it.
I started back up right after and there were few times when I had a cold that I went to bed rather than drink, but that is it.
OK, so the painkillers would have replaced the alcohol.........that would be why you didn't need the booze?.....
What support do you have ?
Are any of your family alcoholics?
(by the way most of the people on the alcohol board come on later tonight, so you will definately get some more thoughts later.....)
What support do you have ?
Are any of your family alcoholics?
(by the way most of the people on the alcohol board come on later tonight, so you will definately get some more thoughts later.....)
Just you
I don't doubt your honesty...........infact you're very honest - i've had a wisdom tooth out too - i was scared to death!!!
Do you have any kind of support? good friends, family??
Do you have any kind of support? good friends, family??
Just you
I'd be there for you during the oral surgery
????? why did you delete your post? i neva took it the wrong way.........
Well, i have to go in a bit as i've finished work, so keep posting and you will receive great support ...........especially from those that are recovering........
take care.....
Well, i have to go in a bit as i've finished work, so keep posting and you will receive great support ...........especially from those that are recovering........
take care.....
I'd delete that post actually! think about your recovery......
what? I'm Rob, are you going to be around again?
Rob,
I know you feel hopeless right now. I felt hopeless myself just a month ago, cause I didn't think I could quit either.
Believe me there is hope. When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired there will be a point where you actually can quit.
You have probably heard the saying " God helps those who help themselves" well Benjamine Franklin said that, and even though there is some element of truth to it, concerning those things that we can do for ourselves it fails to communicate that God's real specialty is helping those who can not help themselves.
Many of us have tried to beat this on our own own, only to find that it is only in seeking the help of a higher power that we actually do have hope. In other words we have found that what we could not do on our own, with God's help we can be victorious.
Cailyn
I know you feel hopeless right now. I felt hopeless myself just a month ago, cause I didn't think I could quit either.
Believe me there is hope. When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired there will be a point where you actually can quit.
You have probably heard the saying " God helps those who help themselves" well Benjamine Franklin said that, and even though there is some element of truth to it, concerning those things that we can do for ourselves it fails to communicate that God's real specialty is helping those who can not help themselves.
Many of us have tried to beat this on our own own, only to find that it is only in seeking the help of a higher power that we actually do have hope. In other words we have found that what we could not do on our own, with God's help we can be victorious.
Cailyn
Rob, I got sick and tired of being sick and tired too. I drank for 28 years...tried every which way to quit and could not. Finally, I surrendered this disease to a God of my understanding and became willing to go to any length for sobriety ~ with the same fervor I put into my drinking. Are you done? Are you willing to go to any length to get and stay sober? If so, why don't you check out an AA meeting in your area and go with an open mind and get honest with yourself and others. What works for me is turning my will and my life over to God on a daily basis, attend an AA meeting on a daily basis if possible, be of service to others, I got a Sponsor at the first meeting that I returned to and got myself a sobriety date of 22 November 2003. Alcohol (and cocaine) kicked my butt and I was ready to check out; but now my life is so much better than I could have imagined. I took the first step which admitted that I was powerless over alcohol and that my life had become unmanageable. Remember it's the first drink that gets us drunk...it sounds like it has stopped working for you and you're ready to try something different.
nevermind
Nervermind???...What is that supposed to mean?
Cailyn
Cailyn
Rob,
I see that you edited your post to just NEVERMIND, I don't know what your post said before you edited it.
If what you mean is that you slipped , don't be too hard on yourself.
You mentioned before that you are a college educated professional. Do you have the resources to check yourself into a detox center of some sort? Some people detox at home, some might need to go to some kind of facility.
If you are employed your employer might have to be told the truth, if you were going to be missing work due to being in a detox center, but it sounds like you are not going to be able to function well enough to keep a job anyway at the rate you are going.
A lot of us think we are doing OK as long as we can function well enough to keep a job, but quite rapidly we go from being functional alcoholics to dysfunctional alcoholics. Almost overnight it seems.
Take Care,
Cailyn
I see that you edited your post to just NEVERMIND, I don't know what your post said before you edited it.
If what you mean is that you slipped , don't be too hard on yourself.
You mentioned before that you are a college educated professional. Do you have the resources to check yourself into a detox center of some sort? Some people detox at home, some might need to go to some kind of facility.
If you are employed your employer might have to be told the truth, if you were going to be missing work due to being in a detox center, but it sounds like you are not going to be able to function well enough to keep a job anyway at the rate you are going.
A lot of us think we are doing OK as long as we can function well enough to keep a job, but quite rapidly we go from being functional alcoholics to dysfunctional alcoholics. Almost overnight it seems.
Take Care,
Cailyn
