This is my first post so quick question, my husband stopped using heroin about 5 years ago but continued to do pills. Last year he did 3 months of rehab and has been totally clean for almost a year (in 2 weeks). I just found out he fell off the wagon last week and has done heroin 5 out of the last 6 days. I knew something was up just didn't know what it was until I found a used needle in his car and he finally told me what was going on. How do I tell if this is a slip or if he's going to go back to full blown addict? We've been together for 5 years have 2 kids and I can't go back down this road with him again.
Damn...Life...just keeps reflecting my life lately it seems...well...a slip ...they tell me. ..is when you use...once...and put it right back down...climb back on the clean train...and relapse...im told...is when you use...and keep using...building a run...I know this only because I've just done both...i just blew all my clean time...again...and I'm still using...been a little over a week now...hard to tell where even im going with this...its clich I know ..but we tend to use just before or after a marker day...30 days...1 year...10..doesn't matter..i was just shy of 2 months..this time around....he needs to want it ...which is so much harder than it sounds...it really really depends upon the person...their support system...is he going to mtgs? ...does he have a sponsor?..work a program ? ...do you ?..attend naranon or alanon mtgs ? ...guess what I'm saying is...you cant know whether he's going to put back down sooner or later...b/c we don't even know ourselves sometimes ....I know for me...the runs seem to be getting shorter and the clean times longer....addiction doesn't end or stop when we detox...or when were clean....doesn't matter how long ..it's a struggle every day...sometimes every hour at times ..all you can do is take care of yourself...learn to detach...set boundaries. ...learn how to handle living with us. .its not easy...for both sides....the family board knows the deal..perhaps read some over there...im sorry. ..
peace
Con.
peace
Con.
Does your husband attend NA meetings?
What program of recovery has he been working?
Bob
What program of recovery has he been working?
Bob
Con....my heart goes out to you. Ive been struggling too but its been my MO to struggle at 3 months...seems the amount of time Im away from the drug to FORGET the hell of using. I will have 4 months this week so Im going to bypass this MO and change MY STORY! I found a SMART meeting that I really like because I just can't get the HIGHER POWER thing.
I can't "get it" either, Jen.
I believe that's why it says in HOW IT WORKS "God could and would if HE were sought"
... not FOUND.
All the best to you.
Bob
I believe that's why it says in HOW IT WORKS "God could and would if HE were sought"
... not FOUND.
All the best to you.
Bob
Thanks everyone. He finally hit the "what the f*** am I doing" point last night when he thought I'd left him but was actually on the side of the road 10 minutes away with the cops. I got into an accident with the kids with me. So far he hasn't been in any programs but has been going to therapy with me. Idk I told him he has to find a program and a sponsor to help him. He sure as hell cant do it on his own and I'm not going to help anymore. Can anyone recommend a good program?
AA works for me and millions of others.. you might start there o:)
Hi Jamie, Hope you and the kids are okay and no one was hurt. Maybe this will frighten your husband into straightening up. I hope so! Take care and I hope things get better. Mary
Hi Con, I'm sad for you tonight. Like Jen said... my heart goes out to you too! I know I probably don't have a clue how you are feeling about this the way a fellow recovering addict would since they've been in your shoes. I haven't and I don't know your struggles. I can only imagine it's a hell on earth for you at times. But I know your a strong person and I know you have it in you to get clean again and stay clean. I have so much faith in you! I know you can do this! I'm praying for you. Mary
Congrats Jen...well done !...smiling for ya...I'll get there too...one foot in front of the other somehow...thanks for the shout out....Mary...it's all good...don't be sad for me...smiles to you too...I'll make it...I'm just a little slower getting there. ..
Con
Con
Great News Jen! Congratulations coming up on the 8th? I thought on the 8th Nov to add another 30 days onto your 90 last month. You should be proud of yourself. Well done! Higher power or not you have to do what works for you. Stay strong! Mary
