Hi everyone this is my first time ever speaking publicly, even online about my brother's addiction. My brother is now 26 years old, I'm not sure how long he's been using meth but I know it could be since he was 15. I didn't notice his drug problem until he was about 22 years old. My mom and Dad where both diagnosed with cancer at that time. My dad for personal reasons was separated from us, his family. While my mom was being treated in the U.S., my dad was diagnosed in Mexico. In the mist of all this we lost our home due to foreclosure and had to sell our family business. My brother started using heavily at this time. It was like one day he just went crazy. He spoke a lot of nonsense and from that first day it went in for about 2-3 years. Living with a drug addict really makes you miserable and uncomfortable in your known home. My Dad passed away about 2 weeks after his diagnosis. He kept getting wrongly diagnosed in Mexico and my family and I were going through so much but this was our greatest loss of all. My mom was treated and had an organ transplant and thankfully she beat cancer. My brother still continued using and just kept getting worse. He took my moms car for a whole week, he would disturb our neighbors and make scenes in the middle of the night. He started blaming my mom for my dad's death and the listing goes on. My mom has been the only one who has stuck by his side and one day out of desperation she took drove him to Mexico and checked him into a rehab (they take drug users against their will there legally.) he went in and out twice. The first time he left he stayed sober for about a month or two. The second time which is recently he stayed sober for about 6 months and to be honest idk if he had a slip or what's going on but he's been acting like he's on drugs. He finally found his first good stable job and one day out of no where he started acting like he was on meth again. My mom took him to ER and had him evaluated and drug tested and the Dr's say he's not on drugs. We don't understand what's going on. My brother can't sleep and he ask us "Ehats wrong with me? I'm not doing drugs, why do I feel like I am?". He sits in silence just staring blankly and his tears just start rolling down his face. I don't know if he's using but apparently the Drs say he isn't so then what's wrong? The Drs say that it's a mental effect after using but they don't exactly tell us what it is and all they did was prescribe him sleeping medication. My mom has been so stressed she developed alopecia and she's lost all of her hair. We haven't been financially stable since my parents were diagnosed with cancer and I'm just in desperate need for some answers and help. Please if anyone has gone through this themselves or a family or friend any information you have please let me know so I could help my brother and relive my mom from all this stress and pain.
Dear Serenity, I'm sorry you and your family have been through so much...Have the doctors tested your brother for a chemical imbalance...which is quite often the case ....that could explain alot .....
I am sorry to hear about your father and family,
I also lost my mother through bowl cancer I was so angry with God and the world for taking my mother away I had so much pain I myself turned to drugs to numb my pain to give me a high and feel good I was outta control myself and got my self in all kinds of trouble because I held all my emotion in and didn't accept what had happened I didn't care about myself anymore.
My point is your brother has had a emotional breakdown he is experiencing grieving and also coming off the drugs it has kinda caused a mini stroke as everything has been to much for his mind and body to cope with so I would advise to firstly don't worry and tell your brother what he is experiencing let him know cause when you are in that state you start to panic abit
He will be fine keep him aware of that all the time
make sure he has a balanced diet, keep him away from any bad influences , make him laugh lots hang out with him , and show that you care about him talk about your fathers death make sure he tells you how he feels , let him get everything out make sure he crys , and also forgives himself and everyone .
you will see progress be patient and he will return to his normal self it's just a temporary adjustment the more activities he does that he enjoys doing , like any sport or fitness outdoors will help a lot too
The body heels itself but you do need to make sure that he is eating meat, chicken, vegetables ,salads,fruit and drinking pure water nuts etc
Also meditation and quiet time helps
Xx
I also lost my mother through bowl cancer I was so angry with God and the world for taking my mother away I had so much pain I myself turned to drugs to numb my pain to give me a high and feel good I was outta control myself and got my self in all kinds of trouble because I held all my emotion in and didn't accept what had happened I didn't care about myself anymore.
My point is your brother has had a emotional breakdown he is experiencing grieving and also coming off the drugs it has kinda caused a mini stroke as everything has been to much for his mind and body to cope with so I would advise to firstly don't worry and tell your brother what he is experiencing let him know cause when you are in that state you start to panic abit
He will be fine keep him aware of that all the time
make sure he has a balanced diet, keep him away from any bad influences , make him laugh lots hang out with him , and show that you care about him talk about your fathers death make sure he tells you how he feels , let him get everything out make sure he crys , and also forgives himself and everyone .
you will see progress be patient and he will return to his normal self it's just a temporary adjustment the more activities he does that he enjoys doing , like any sport or fitness outdoors will help a lot too
The body heels itself but you do need to make sure that he is eating meat, chicken, vegetables ,salads,fruit and drinking pure water nuts etc
Also meditation and quiet time helps
Xx
