This may seem trivial to some of you, but has become a real problem for me. Everyone around me knows something is wrong with me, but not everyone knows the truth. How do you answer those questions when people ask you what's going on? I do not want to share my secrets with everyone but find myself as at loss for how to explain my sudden "house-bound", "feeling-bad", "depressed" condition. Do any of you have any answers?
I used to tell everyone I had a bug and didnt get much sleep, or I was busy at work and am a little stressed at the moment. Things like that, I never told anyone what it really was.
JohnDee
JohnDee
Tes, but for 3 weeks??? People are really starting to suggest I see a specialist since my bug is lasting so long, etc. LOL
I tried to hide it from my husband. It's funny how you can hide your addiction from EVERYONE, but when you stop using, you are a completely different person.
I ended up telling my husband on day 5. He thought I was cheating on him. With me being on the computer all the time (this site), and every time he would come upstairs, I would close the site. We STOPPED having sex, I was always cold, body aches, diarrhea, MOOD SWINGS, crying, insomnia. He definitaly knew something was wrong. After I told him, I think he was relieved. I was for sure.
As far as everyone else, family, co-workers ect. I just have been telling them that I have "that stomach bug, you know, the one that everyone has gotten that lasts for a few weeks".
It's funny, everyone will tell you that they know someone who has had it??? Strange.
But I have been able to hold that one out for about 5 weeks. (because almost 5 weeks ago, I tried to stop using, went through 3 days of w/d, then started again)
So it has worked for me, hopefully it will help.
-britney
I ended up telling my husband on day 5. He thought I was cheating on him. With me being on the computer all the time (this site), and every time he would come upstairs, I would close the site. We STOPPED having sex, I was always cold, body aches, diarrhea, MOOD SWINGS, crying, insomnia. He definitaly knew something was wrong. After I told him, I think he was relieved. I was for sure.
As far as everyone else, family, co-workers ect. I just have been telling them that I have "that stomach bug, you know, the one that everyone has gotten that lasts for a few weeks".
It's funny, everyone will tell you that they know someone who has had it??? Strange.
But I have been able to hold that one out for about 5 weeks. (because almost 5 weeks ago, I tried to stop using, went through 3 days of w/d, then started again)
So it has worked for me, hopefully it will help.
-britney
I went through the same thing. I was housebound and my neigbor friends wondered what happened to the cheerful, funny girl I was. I made numerous excuses....feeling sick, totally stressed out....etc. I didn't feel it was their business to tell them what was up. No way....as far as being at work I just stayed at my desk and read this website for a week straight. Everyone thought I was just busy cuz I had just been on vacation. Isn't w/ds weird...you go from being totally social to a housebound freak!!!!! Wish we could all meet some day and share stories in person....it would be so great. We could all probably share some laughs too!
Yes, well, I have field trips at school, Christmas parties at school, at sports organizations, ball games, etc. Not to mention the adult stuff......parties, meals, etc...and I can't even focus my eyes clearly enough to buy groceries or pick out clothes to wear. Everywhere I do manage to make it people are dropping their jaw and exclaiming "What's the matter?"! I just want to run and cry because wherever I am, I don't want to be there anyway. I totally lost it just trying to get some errands run today and had to come home and about wrecked from crying so hard while driving back home. I would rather have my positive outlook from Day 10 and leg cramps than to be rid of the physical stuff and have to deal with this mental s***. I know I am whining and need to just suck it up and go on , nut honestly, I have NEVER been through anything this hard. Any ideas? I am ready to just cancel Christmas around here.
Give yourself a break. You are on day 10 of one of the hardest things you will ever have to do. W/D are heavy. They are major. I couldn't face anyone and I had to. I had to work. It was horrible. Everyone would get in my face and ask what was the matter. My husband thought I was having an affair too. He didn't know until he caught me on this message board. Then he read everything and found out. It was horrible, but I am relieved. He didn't take it that hard, but he said if he ever caught me using he would have to leave. As for you having to face all of those people, parties, etc., I had to do things like that too. Thanksgiving totally freaked me out. I did get through it though. The thought of Christmas kind of annoys me, but somehow I'll pull it off and you do the same. After about day 16 you will start to feel more normal. Right now you are raw. Just try your hardest to keep going through the motions, face people, talk to people, FORCE YOURSELF.....I believe that the more you stay inside the worse you get. I know it's hard. Keep on posting.
I am in the same boat!
My counselor and detox Dr. said its not time to tell
People cause, it will just stress you out.
I agree with them it is very hard for me to trust people that's why
No one knows but my husband. I will tell them when the time is right.
My counselor and detox Dr. said its not time to tell
People cause, it will just stress you out.
I agree with them it is very hard for me to trust people that's why
No one knows but my husband. I will tell them when the time is right.
