okay heres my opinion albeit not a popular one...
I think this site has the potential to be really really cathartic for those first seeking information or support for their newly aware of drug problem..
To know that your not alone, that others have been there is HUGE and is the first step in letting go of the shame and or denial...
This site can also be very dangerous....even though it is an inanimate object and we dont actually see or really know the person we are responding to on here, your feelings can get terrible hurt, so much so that it could well push you over the edge and reinforce your feelings of needing to numb your feelings...
Theres also a certain danger in how addictive this site can be, it can become a substitute for the pills, and as a result can keep you isolated in the house, sitting in front of the computer all day...
Its a well known fact that for many the best way out of an addiction is to find a substitute addiction...
There is a tendency to think that one has a relationship to others here when in fact you dont really know then at all..I see that alot with the "I love you"s
Im sure its just a weird P.P i have,. but i feel that love you's should be done with those that you actually know and love, otherwise it undermines its value and worth....No doubt there are a few here who have known each other for years and actually met one another , but other then those few...counting on the relationships formed here in order to support you throughout your life is a bit sad and misguided..
I guess im saying the same thing as Rae did, just not as well or tactfully..ugh
Peace to all
Ali
Ali,
You said it just fine. I asked " How do you really feel about this board" .. So if that is how you feel then that is fine with me-LOL
If Stac thinks this topic is stupid then that is her opinion. Like she said don't read it if you don't like it. I like hearing everyone's opinion on things but I must admit I don't read everyone's posts. Some people like Atlas said are just SO EASY to predict. So I skim it and move on.
I don't think there is a right or wrong answer here. I would like to see LESS off topic threads. I am not saying let's talk recovery 24/7 either. I like talking about other things, dont get me wrong. I have a HUGE mouth. I can talk to anyone ( anywhere)-LOL Anytime. When I see the same person taking up a lot of board space with thread after thread it gets old. I mean I don't come here when I get a hang nail or when I am constipated. I think you get my point.
Some people just enjoy talking about their private life and I just feel some things shouldn't be said here. That's all. That is just to protect people from having things thrown in their face or their feelings hurt. Cause it happens here ALL the time, Over and over again. That is why having a hand full of friend's on this board is BEST, in my opinion. I don't want to be friend's with everyone here BUT I do enjoy helping other's if they need me. So that is why I stay.
I personally don't say " I love you" to other board members. That is just me though. I don't think it's weird that people do it but it just isn't for me. I do find it odd when it is used ALL time. Like when someone says I love you after almost every post. Plus they are posting it to newcomer's or people they don't talk to off the board. I find that a little strange... I don't love anyone that much but my children:-0)
I just resently started putting xoxox in some of my posts but ONLY to people I really care about. People I talk to in e-mail or on the phone. Some of the oldtimer's that have been here with me for 2 years, I will do that with. Some people like you may find that odd:-0) Different strokes for different folks I guess.
Hope your having a nice weekend.
Rae
You said it just fine. I asked " How do you really feel about this board" .. So if that is how you feel then that is fine with me-LOL
If Stac thinks this topic is stupid then that is her opinion. Like she said don't read it if you don't like it. I like hearing everyone's opinion on things but I must admit I don't read everyone's posts. Some people like Atlas said are just SO EASY to predict. So I skim it and move on.
I don't think there is a right or wrong answer here. I would like to see LESS off topic threads. I am not saying let's talk recovery 24/7 either. I like talking about other things, dont get me wrong. I have a HUGE mouth. I can talk to anyone ( anywhere)-LOL Anytime. When I see the same person taking up a lot of board space with thread after thread it gets old. I mean I don't come here when I get a hang nail or when I am constipated. I think you get my point.
Some people just enjoy talking about their private life and I just feel some things shouldn't be said here. That's all. That is just to protect people from having things thrown in their face or their feelings hurt. Cause it happens here ALL the time, Over and over again. That is why having a hand full of friend's on this board is BEST, in my opinion. I don't want to be friend's with everyone here BUT I do enjoy helping other's if they need me. So that is why I stay.
I personally don't say " I love you" to other board members. That is just me though. I don't think it's weird that people do it but it just isn't for me. I do find it odd when it is used ALL time. Like when someone says I love you after almost every post. Plus they are posting it to newcomer's or people they don't talk to off the board. I find that a little strange... I don't love anyone that much but my children:-0)
I just resently started putting xoxox in some of my posts but ONLY to people I really care about. People I talk to in e-mail or on the phone. Some of the oldtimer's that have been here with me for 2 years, I will do that with. Some people like you may find that odd:-0) Different strokes for different folks I guess.
Hope your having a nice weekend.
Rae
i didn't say this topic was stupid... but whatever.
"HOW DO YOU REALLY FEEL ABOUT THIS BOARD"
I think that's as off topic as it gets.
I think that's as off topic as it gets.
Ok..here's my two cents for what it's worth (probably not more than two cents). I continue to come here because it's like a fellowship for me. I get that at meetings and I get it here. When you wade through all of the bs threads, you can find recovery related posts and I pay very close attention to those. I like the fluff too, the picture threads are alway so fun, but that's what makes those ok for me, because it's getting to see and know my "fellow addicts". I put way too much stuff out here about my personal life. Maybe because I feel the trade off from the personal attacks is that I get the advice and support I need. And I'll take all I can get. If our words help just one person, then all of this is worth it. Someone said that even though lines are drawn and there is division among the memebers here, when push comes to shove, if a newbie shows up or someone's in pain, we all come together and try to help. We should all feel really good about that.
I do know who I can count on here and who I should stear clear of (and yes, I'll practice that more often) and I wouldn't trade any of the friendships I've made here. I received 3 of the most incrediable emails today of support and love from people who know what I'm going through and what I'm faced with in the months to come, you can't put a price on that kind of support. It's stuff like that, that makes all the crap worth it. Had I not talked about myself and my struggles, I never would have met these people, nor would they have had cause to talk to me or help.
Maybe if there were more sharing of feelings regarding recovery, people would feel more comfortable. There are way too many OT threads, some post thead after thead of pure nonesense, but maybe it's because that person is lonely, scared or so beaten down that they have no place to go. I for one would like to be part of the solution here and bring this board back to a safe place to come too. Yes, I'm taking my own inventory, I don't need help, thanks. lol
If Atlas is board president then Rae gets vice president and Brooke is secretary of defense. You all have wisdom beyond your years and your growth over the last two years has been amazing and I'm so honored to be part of that journey. That goes for everyone here who is fighting this battle of addiction with everything they're worth.
Thanks for letting me share....
CG
I do know who I can count on here and who I should stear clear of (and yes, I'll practice that more often) and I wouldn't trade any of the friendships I've made here. I received 3 of the most incrediable emails today of support and love from people who know what I'm going through and what I'm faced with in the months to come, you can't put a price on that kind of support. It's stuff like that, that makes all the crap worth it. Had I not talked about myself and my struggles, I never would have met these people, nor would they have had cause to talk to me or help.
Maybe if there were more sharing of feelings regarding recovery, people would feel more comfortable. There are way too many OT threads, some post thead after thead of pure nonesense, but maybe it's because that person is lonely, scared or so beaten down that they have no place to go. I for one would like to be part of the solution here and bring this board back to a safe place to come too. Yes, I'm taking my own inventory, I don't need help, thanks. lol
If Atlas is board president then Rae gets vice president and Brooke is secretary of defense. You all have wisdom beyond your years and your growth over the last two years has been amazing and I'm so honored to be part of that journey. That goes for everyone here who is fighting this battle of addiction with everything they're worth.
Thanks for letting me share....
CG
Stac,
WHAT?? Your trippin. Why don't you read my post above your's. I said "I would like to see LESS off topic threads. I am not saying let's talk recovery 24/7 either. I like talking about other things, dont get me wrong. I have a HUGE mouth. I can talk to anyone ( anywhere)-LOL Anytime. When I see the same person taking up a lot of board space with thread after thread it gets old. I mean I don't come here when I get a hang nail or when I am constipated. I think you get my point.
As far as this topic being off topic. If you get down to it I am talking about the BOARD. I am as on topic as you can get besides talking about pills, Stacey.
I said " If Stac thinks this topic is stupid then that is her opinion. Like she said don't read it if you don't like it..
I wasn't quoting you saying that you said this thread is STUPID. I know you didn't say that. You did say " i honestly don't understand what the problem is here, but somebody has some issues about what is posted here. Why don't you just not read it.
So in other words I just took it like you thought this thread was stupid and you didn't understand what they whole problem was. DAMN Stac a little defensive tonight?
WHAT?? Your trippin. Why don't you read my post above your's. I said "I would like to see LESS off topic threads. I am not saying let's talk recovery 24/7 either. I like talking about other things, dont get me wrong. I have a HUGE mouth. I can talk to anyone ( anywhere)-LOL Anytime. When I see the same person taking up a lot of board space with thread after thread it gets old. I mean I don't come here when I get a hang nail or when I am constipated. I think you get my point.
As far as this topic being off topic. If you get down to it I am talking about the BOARD. I am as on topic as you can get besides talking about pills, Stacey.
I said " If Stac thinks this topic is stupid then that is her opinion. Like she said don't read it if you don't like it..
I wasn't quoting you saying that you said this thread is STUPID. I know you didn't say that. You did say " i honestly don't understand what the problem is here, but somebody has some issues about what is posted here. Why don't you just not read it.
So in other words I just took it like you thought this thread was stupid and you didn't understand what they whole problem was. DAMN Stac a little defensive tonight?
yea i 'm going through a whole lot and i just went off cause discussing what is going on with the recovery board is low on the totem pole of things that should be discussed.
I shouldnt be posting now i guess.
g'nite.
I shouldnt be posting now i guess.
g'nite.
Do you want to talk Stac? I'm around for awhile....
WOW. You just confused the hell out of me-LOL All I can say is yeah WHATEVER!! I didn't say what I said to put you down Stac but if you don't like what your reading them click the X.
If you want to go to bed grumpy, then Good night.
Sweet Dreams. If your having a rough nite then I am sorry to hear that.
Hopefully Lisa can be there for you to lean on.
Rae
If you want to go to bed grumpy, then Good night.
Sweet Dreams. If your having a rough nite then I am sorry to hear that.
Hopefully Lisa can be there for you to lean on.
Rae
Oh Rae,
Would you SHUT UP!!!!!!!! LMAO Damn girl you talk more then I do, oh wait I think we may be almost even...........
xoxoxoxo
Love you...hehehehehehe
Krazi/Traci
must run dinner is here.........
be strong ya all.cuz we are fighting the battle..
Would you SHUT UP!!!!!!!! LMAO Damn girl you talk more then I do, oh wait I think we may be almost even...........
xoxoxoxo
Love you...hehehehehehe
Krazi/Traci
must run dinner is here.........
be strong ya all.cuz we are fighting the battle..
I am going to SHUT UP!! Like right now. My man just got here with a bucket of KFC. So I think I will stick a piece of chicken in my pie hole:-0)
Have a nice night everyone.
Rae
Have a nice night everyone.
Rae
i dunno - lately this board has been givin' me the creeps.
but there are a lot of you guys (and you know who you are .... the people who have had converations with me in the past on this board) that don't.
but anyway .... whatever.
when there's toooo much negative energy - i stay away.
but there are a lot of you guys (and you know who you are .... the people who have had converations with me in the past on this board) that don't.
but anyway .... whatever.
when there's toooo much negative energy - i stay away.
LOL @ Rae and Tracey
i hope you dont stay away form me skeeter bo beeter.........
stace feel better honey.................
hi lisa..............
hello everyone...............
i feel embarressed..........because well..are you talking about me saying ...
"i love you"
i cant help it.
love......... is all i have to give and i can even give it to a stranger.........
i dont know how but i can........
love u
thumper
stace feel better honey.................
hi lisa..............
hello everyone...............
i feel embarressed..........because well..are you talking about me saying ...
"i love you"
i cant help it.
love......... is all i have to give and i can even give it to a stranger.........
i dont know how but i can........
love u
thumper
why cant we just take what we want and leave the rest?
this is getting way to dramatic for me now...
No offense to anyone
this is getting way to dramatic for me now...
No offense to anyone
Some days are cold and dark.
Some make us feel so alone.
Some days are hard to understand.
On those days God knew we'd need
an extra hug or two.
So he gave us friends.
So that we would always have
an angel close when we needed one.
"If you can not find a
measure of happiness in
being loved it is not the
fault of the one who
loves you."
Some make us feel so alone.
Some days are hard to understand.
On those days God knew we'd need
an extra hug or two.
So he gave us friends.
So that we would always have
an angel close when we needed one.
"If you can not find a
measure of happiness in
being loved it is not the
fault of the one who
loves you."
Cause Fire some people are just really SICK and this disease is quite cunning.
Later fire
Jeff
Later fire
Jeff
Rae
Nope..i dont mind the XOXO, whatsoever..well for a total newcomer,like you said, it would be a bit weird... but to each their own..
Dont forget however your talking to a hugger..i not only sign off hugs almost every post, but totally practise it..lol..
Hugs are therapeutic...and not everyone is a hugger...you can tell a non hugger right away cus they stiffen like an ironing board when you give the hug...but id rather take the chance of freaking out a non hugger, then pass up the opportunity to give someone a hug that really really needs it...( and you can tell who that is too by the way that they hug back...lol)
So XOX away.. and im glad that my opinion on "i love you's" echoed your own feelings...i think that this is a great thread, and an important one,. if people can feel comfortable enough to be totally honest that is...
I would think that the moderators would find this particular thread of interest as well..there are a lot of women that no longer come here, and whom in my opinion were contributing by their input...Ive often wondered if the sudden strict enforcement of rules by the mods, ( months ago..)and thus the amount of people get bammed, threads going poof, etc...was more detrimental then beneficial.....
Thanks for starting the thread Rae
HUGS, lol
Ali
Nope..i dont mind the XOXO, whatsoever..well for a total newcomer,like you said, it would be a bit weird... but to each their own..
Dont forget however your talking to a hugger..i not only sign off hugs almost every post, but totally practise it..lol..
Hugs are therapeutic...and not everyone is a hugger...you can tell a non hugger right away cus they stiffen like an ironing board when you give the hug...but id rather take the chance of freaking out a non hugger, then pass up the opportunity to give someone a hug that really really needs it...( and you can tell who that is too by the way that they hug back...lol)
So XOX away.. and im glad that my opinion on "i love you's" echoed your own feelings...i think that this is a great thread, and an important one,. if people can feel comfortable enough to be totally honest that is...
I would think that the moderators would find this particular thread of interest as well..there are a lot of women that no longer come here, and whom in my opinion were contributing by their input...Ive often wondered if the sudden strict enforcement of rules by the mods, ( months ago..)and thus the amount of people get bammed, threads going poof, etc...was more detrimental then beneficial.....
Thanks for starting the thread Rae
HUGS, lol
Ali
IMO, This is a great board........ We are lucky we have access to it....... Just think of all the addicts out there that don't have a computer or job too be on here and believe me there are many.
Being in recovery is a blessing, I have a sponser and work with him on things I sturggle with.... If there is something on here or anywhere I apply the principles taught by the big book or steps..... There will always be something that will get up our crawl. This board was a huge part of saving my life a couple years ago.
There are lots of different people on here but some the same..... but there was little cat fights back then...... there always be. We are addicts. Its spirtual progression not spiritual perfection. None of us our perfect. If there was something I did not like on here I did not read it or get into it. If I did happen to read it and it bothered me I talked to my sponsor about it.
If I stay focused on my recovery I have to understand that I can not control other people places things and situations........... But this is a great board. I take from it what will help me. Plus there could be something that bothers you that will help you grow.... There is the Spirtual Axiom that will help us understand are selves and grow.
fire that's all i was trying to say, but it seems confusing to some.
i say i love you to people that i know, thati've talked to on the phone, like sammy and i know sammy loves me!
i say i love you to people that i know, thati've talked to on the phone, like sammy and i know sammy loves me!
