When someone, who is addicted, tries to double talk, what can be said that will stop those remarks and wasted comments from being said, just to justify their addictive behavior? I am too tired to rehash the old reasons why someone is indulging in destructive, drug behavior. I want to walk out, I just want an average life, without that baggage...Can someone send me to a area where I can read something now...
Hi saylor - i think they need to double talk in order to sustain their way of life. They need to distort reality in order to justify what they do. I do believe it is his reality - but it's not mine or anyone else's. I've told my partner he's a grown up now and cant keep blaming everything on everyone else! We make our own choices in life and at some point we have to be held responsible for them. I'm sorry i cant give you the answers or send you to somewhere that has them but i've found this message board a great place to get things off your chest - to talk to people who understand where you're coming from.
Hope to hear from you soon
Jo
Hope to hear from you soon
Jo
Jo,
Thanks for your reply..
Thanks for your reply..
saylor, i'd very politely walk away from the conversation and not engage the addict. that way, his words just hang there and he's left with them to think about them. (otherwise, he has your words or your behavior to hang onto and criticize).
in all liklihood, an alcoholic drinks because he drinks, and an addict uses because he uses. that's how it's been explained to me.
most of the rest is jibberish.
when they detox and stop, then meaningful conversation can occur and progress can be made.
and to detox and stop, unless they are minors, they have to desire it and ask for it (except when court ordered).
co-dependency articles and books, or those on enabling, or detachment, may be helpful reading to you. Silent Partner has a post on this board that suggests recommended reading material.
hope this is helpful.
in all liklihood, an alcoholic drinks because he drinks, and an addict uses because he uses. that's how it's been explained to me.
most of the rest is jibberish.
when they detox and stop, then meaningful conversation can occur and progress can be made.
and to detox and stop, unless they are minors, they have to desire it and ask for it (except when court ordered).
co-dependency articles and books, or those on enabling, or detachment, may be helpful reading to you. Silent Partner has a post on this board that suggests recommended reading material.
hope this is helpful.